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How much do you trust strangers?

This question came to mind when I was reading a story about someone getting her apartment completely trashed and her valuables stolen when she rented it out to some strangers through the service AirBnB, and apparently losing her faith in people as a result. She writes:

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I get angry when I realize I will never again be who I've always been before, someone who lived strong and free by the creed that people are essentially good, that if you think optimistically, trust others, and have faith in the world around you, it will take care of you in return.

As someone who tends to be quite wary (even "paranoid" I guess), this former "creed" of hers sounds disastrously naive to me.

For example, I would never trust someone I hadn't met to take decent care of my home, even for just a few days.

But what do you guys think? How much do you trust strangers? Do you assume that the vast majority of people you encounter will be basically decent and respectful?

I tend to believe that most people are inherently good. However I do not place everyone in the same spot on the continuum of trustworthiness. That's just stupid.

I think the best example of a situation in which I have often trusted strangers is waiting at the bus terminal/train station/airport, or studying in the library and asking someone to watch my shit while I go to the bathroom or something.

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Originally posted by Miss Pie I tend to believe that most people are inherently good. However I do not place everyone in the same spot on the continuum of trustworthiness. That's just stupid.

This.

I, too, hold that people are inherently good. Still, I am guilty of often making quick judgments about people, occasionally based on superficial factors. These judgments have yet to fail me, though, so I don't expect I'll be changing my ways any time soon.

I believe that all people are inherently bad. Some might just be stupid or dishonest, others are downright evil.
So no, I don't trust strangers.

I tend to think most people are good. but, it depends on the situation.

I tend to think that all people are idiots until proved otherwise

I learned the greatest way to deal with strangers in Asia. The philosophy is, "If we have not been introduced, you don't exist.".

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Originally posted by Zyklon_Jay I learned the greatest way to deal with strangers in Asia. The philosophy is, "If we have not been introduced, you don't exist.".

And, if you're hot, allow me to introduce... myself

Boom!!!

In Korea people literally will not pay any attention to you at all unless names or business cards are exchanged. They will run right into you on the street and not even say anything. At first you think they are being rude, but their reality is that with so many people in such a tight space, you don't have the time or energy for people you do not know to exist. It was definitely part of the culture shock for me the first bit i was there.

Just because you read fortune cookies, it don't mean asians said it.

:P

fortune cookies are for gweilos my nigger. shame on you till you step through.

Gwellos?

Either way, your statement makes sense. A proper introduction must be taken before actually socializing with the person. Usually you've got a middle man for teh intro.

Gweilo is not Korean, but since you Asians all pretty much look alike I figured that you could Cantonese.

isn't it something more like gailau? I think i know what you were trying to say.

I can usually tell the difference between asians, it just takes practice or getting used to.

I'm trusting, I had 20 ta's over to my house and vouched that nothing would get broken. Somehow, it all survived.

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Originally posted by knowhope I can usually tell the difference between asians, it just takes practice or getting used to.

www.alllooksame.com

Good luck

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Originally posted by knowhope isn't it something more like gailau? I think i know what you were trying to say. I can usually tell the difference between asians, it just takes practice or getting used to.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gweilo

i am the world's tallest ninja.

And i can tell the difference too now...5 years ago not a chance in hell except for the darkie asians.

Lira can i linguistix?

You like linguistdicks?

so gweilo is gringos then. always good to know words to call other white people. even though i'm "middle-eastern" and as am pale as an cracker. pot kettle black and all that jazz


anyhow, strangers. well if my headphones are off i might listen to what you are saying but otherwise you are air to me.

before i trust someone with something valuable, i plant a gps tracker on their vehicle along with several listening devices on their gear. i then surreptitiously enter their home and install several fiber-optic cameras and microphones, place a keylogger and other rootkits on their computer(s), and of course take some hair from their brush for DNA identification.
you can't be too careful these days.









no, not really.
i am quite good at reading people and determine on the fly how much of a risk i am taking.

I think most strangers will be decent and respectful, but some of the time it's not out of caring for others. Those who are decent, polite, and respectful aren't decent, polite, and respectful at all some of the time, sometimes they don't want to get embarrassed by taking off their social mask and showing their face to people.

I guarantee you that if I see an old lady who needs help crossing the street who asks me for help, I will not WANT to do it, but I will do it because people are looking. I don't want to get an earful from them. I will then say in my mind, "oh i saw the 'radius of fear' you had around this old lady, you guys soooooo did not want to do this either"

The other day my jacket knocked a bra to the ground in the store. I picked it up not because of the goodness of my heart, but because I had to comply to the social graces.

I'm not a douche most of the time though, sometimes I do genuinely want to help but only if the stakes matter.

Are people inherently good? I don't know, but I am happy they can reason and rationalize, but the rational animal is sometimes a rationalizing animal. At least with me, I'm not going to rationalize my way out of helping an old lady, I put accountability on my shoulders and say that I am a douche.

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Originally posted by -FSP- but I will do it because people are looking.

i have never understood this mentality/never thought that way.
i just do the right thing because it's the right thing to do.

This thread inspired me to make Kimchi Gunmandu for dinner.

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