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out with the old in with the new- need to start going out solo.
So last week I hit two parties with 2 friends and damn was it lame- it was nothing against them personally but it seems when I roll with people that just dont feel the music as much as I do I spend more time dealing with bitching then partying. I really am going to have start rolling solo to these spots since once Im in these clubs Im usually on my own little adventure anyway- smh. The older you get the less friends you realize you have lol at least ones who dig this kind of scene. Any true solo warriors out there that can really vouch for it and getting home in one piece.
used to party alone all the time......u come and go as u please, and do what u want....of course i always knew people at the parties, but mostly, i just didnt want any witnesses to the dirt i did!
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| Originally posted by drEamer i just didnt want any witnesses to the dirt i did! |
Re: out with the old in with the new- need to start going out solo.
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| Originally posted by TaurusNYY So last week I hit two parties with 2 friends and damn was it lame- it was nothing against them personally but it seems when I roll with people that just dont feel the music as much as I do I spend more time dealing with bitching then partying. I really am going to have start rolling solo to these spots since once Im in these clubs Im usually on my own little adventure anyway- smh. The older you get the less friends you realize you have lol at least ones who dig this kind of scene. Any true solo warriors out there that can really vouch for it and getting home in one piece. |
Partying with fellow TA's is def better than going solo, but if need be... do what you must 
Re: Re: out with the old in with the new- need to start going out solo.
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| Originally posted by ravan i usually go solo unless I have friends in town. my friends just dont dig electronica as much as me - or they're all hardcore dubsteppers.. wouldnt mind meeting other TA'ers tho! My superpower is always getting home safe and making sure friends to to |
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| Originally posted by euphoria Partying with fellow TA's is def better than going solo, but if need be... do what you must |
I usually go alone and meet up with TA's there and other people.
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| Originally posted by TaurusNYY trying to work around other peoples schedule. |
dudeee...you've been saying this for the longest!!!!! i've even participated in those convos lol
and again, I, too, like to go to the parties alone- of course, I always end up bumping into ppl i know there- but I don't have to worry about the person i came with bc if it's something that REALLY ticks me off is that the person i came with isn't enjoying the music as much as i am..therefore, making me feel uncomfortable which results in me not being able to enjoy the party as i please...i have a friend who is constantly asking me to take her!! and i wouldn't mind but I'm just sure she won't keep up with me and stay till closing (which is normally how late i stay at an event)..so, to avoid having to leave early, bc of her, or baby her making sure shes having a good time...i just prefer to not bring her at all
frcukkkk that, nothing is taking me out of my element!!
in closing: don't talk the talk, walk the walk 
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| Originally posted by yankeeBaby My schedule: 1. Have 1-2 drinks at home. 2. Leave apartment. 3. Drink more. 4. Party/Dance. 5. Leave club at or near end of night. 6. Re-enter apartment. Anyone else who can not go along with the above schedule is not rollin with me that night. I dont have time for bullshit (ie: the chick that wants to take from 8pm-12am to get ready....B*tch, if it takes you that long, you probably dont look any better after 4 hours, anyways!) |
Thats the best way/excuse to meet new ppl. and i haate having to appease those i came with. I ended up having to leave dumonde/lange EARLYYY cuz some friend got tired. Omggg i still FUMEE to this day!!! 
Other than that, Id go solo or with Drew and then meet ppl AT the venues. Thats how i ended up meeting all the TAs and my peeps from Roxy 
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I've always been an advocate for flying solo. You can go wherever you want without having to try to convince anyone to join you, you can arrive when you want, leave when you want and with whoever you want; and if you want to afterparty, you can do that too. I've been going out alone pretty much for 10+ years and it's the only way to go for me. Plus I've been going out for so long, I always see ppl I know anyway. Getting home for me is never a problem since I live in Manhattan A little self-control with your party favours helps, know your limit and you'll make it home ok.
Let me know whenever you decide to come out alone, save my number to your phone instead of trying to pull it out of your TA PMs every time you're out
The reason why it's hard to make friends (especially when you get older) is most people are afraid to talk... or just make polite casual convo (or just totally obliterated out of there minds and can't handle a coherent convo). I have been to events and just randomly said something to someone and they looked at me with the expression "who are you and what do you want from me?" and that mentality can be quite demotivating and there are other times when I can meet the coolest person ever and end up really good friends with them.
Most New Yorkers are rude, admittedly myself sometimes too when I am in a bitchy mood. They likely have been wronged by one of these "fake" friendly clubbers and are now extremely cautious (and probably for good reason), however I still enjoy walking up to random people and introducing myself and more often than not they don't look at me like I am crazy. Trying is the only way to find out
You all speak the gospel- I learned my lesson from the last time I went out and aside from maybe curbing the drinking/partying to be more on point sounds like a good time.
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| Originally posted by SebG I usually go alone and meet up with other people. |
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| Originally posted by Chaska I've always been an advocate for flying solo. You can go wherever you want without having to try to convince anyone to join you, you can arrive when you want, leave when you want and with whoever you want; and if you want to afterparty, you can do that too. I've been going out alone pretty much for 10+ years and it's the only way to go for me. |
I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures.
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| Originally posted by EliPsE I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures. |
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| Originally posted by EliPsE I live in NJ and always go solo from here. I usually meet up with some people in the city and end up crashing at their place if the night was a rough one haha. I always have a backup place though just in case. I love solo adventures. |
if you cant change the people around you...then CHANGE the people around you
back in the day like 98-01 i used to have some friends who i used to go out with but they were stricly house heads, once i started to explore more genre's i was pretty much going out by myself later on in 03 i started goin out with an old friend who liked trance so i was always with him but anytime he couldnt make it i was always solo or met up with people from ta
i met alot of great people over the years from nyta and wouldnt wanna party with anyone else
Re: out with the old in with the new- need to start going out solo.
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| Originally posted by TaurusNYY So last week I hit two parties with 2 friends and damn was it lame- it was nothing against them personally but it seems when I roll with people that just dont feel the music as much as I do I spend more time dealing with bitching then partying. I really am going to have start rolling solo to these spots since once Im in these clubs Im usually on my own little adventure anyway- smh. The older you get the less friends you realize you have lol at least ones who dig this kind of scene. Any true solo warriors out there that can really vouch for it and getting home in one piece. |
I have gone to a party solo once and ended up leaving early so It's not something that I usually do. I do have few friends that enjoy the type of techno/house I like so I got no problem there.
But I know we seem to go to into many similar parties. Hit me up next time we're at the same club. But it's definitely better to do it solo if you really enjoy the dj/music rather then going out with people that can't stand the music.
thank god my gf likes the same music as me and can hang with me. I'd go solo tho and then you eventually meet cool people to rage with. Solo can be fun though.
Haha, if my friends wanted to leave a party before me I'd show them to the exit and wish them a goodnight.
I think the nice thing about rolling up solo and meeting people is there isn't this expectation of companionship. A lot of people, and I've been guilty of this, latch onto their group usually because they're too afraid or anxious to graze the dance floor alone. But when you meet up instead you can just roam around and chill with your friends you see when you want to and then disappear into the darkness with out having to tell everyone your plans.
Just fucking do it. If you see me we can bullshit, though I've been out half as much lately that will probably start changing in a month or so.
Oh, and on the getting home thing, just plan on getting a cab and keep enough wits about you. You never really want to be black out drunk where people can take advantage of you. We used to do that shit in college but then you start losing wallets, forgetting you lent people money or worse end up jumped. Know your limits / dosages
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