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Posted by Lira on Sep-26-2002 04:18:

Am I a wimp? What should I do?

It's a weird story: Last year, when going to school, this cute foreign tourist asked me for directions and, since we had to take the same bus, we kept talking while we were waiting for it. Our chat was really cool, and, even though I had never seen her before, I invited her for lunch in a shopping mall beside the school - and she accepted. Well, the fact is that I spent the whole day showing her the city (except for my 2-hour class that she didn't let me skip: I tried to get her into school, but some guard didn't let her in, then she waited for me outside - for 2 hours!!!).

As we were talking, she was often thanking me for being with her, because she was a bit affraid of being alone, though she really wanted to know the city. She studies Brazilian culture in her country. Also, all her luggage was with her friends, who didn't want to visit my city and had gone to Belo Horizonte (another Brazilian city), which was her next destination.

Why am I telling this?

Last week, I was organising my stuff and I found her adress (she asked me to exchange addresses in order to keep touch, though she promised to write and never did). I felt like writing to her, but...

1) After one year, if I suddenly write to her, doesn't it seem that I'm some tourist-psycho-pursuer?

2) I know I've already given her my address once, but isn't it too dangerous to be giving your address to people? I mean, everyone who listens to this story tells me I'm crazy and I should be more careful (my parents almost killed me)... I'm affraid to write to her now

So, what to do? Should I write anyway or I'd better not take the risk?

Posted by Vanilla on Sep-26-2002 04:22:

I do this all the time. I find the number of someone I forgot about and phone them up. Everyone is always happy you called, or wrote whatever.

Posted by frontebb on Sep-26-2002 04:23:

I hope you don't have a Lorena Bobbett on your hands.
Where is she from?

Posted by Lira on Sep-26-2002 04:30:

quote:
Originally posted by caroline
I hope you don't have a Lorena Bobbett on your hands.
Where is she from?

Japan

Posted by jdat on Sep-26-2002 04:33:

write her, you never know, maybe she'll be back in the area soon and you'll get to hang out some more.

it's never good to lose touch with people .... well really it depends.

just do as you think is best.

follow your instincts

Posted by Trance-Canada on Sep-26-2002 04:40:

yeah man get in touch with ehr she'll be happy

Posted by k.k.d. on Sep-26-2002 04:51:

I'd write... Nothing exotic though, just something along the lines "Hey, just wanted to say you hi"... In any case, don't expect anything out of it: it's just a polite sign of attention, that may make her smile for a minute... nothing more, nothing less..

Posted by Arbiter on Sep-26-2002 06:20:

You are insane. But that's ok, coz most of us are here.

Just write to her. The worst that could happen is you don't get a response, and what is that? Nothing. Not too bad.

Posted by astroboy on Sep-26-2002 11:03:

quote:
Originally posted by Maaz

Japan

Japanese chicks are MINT!! Definitely write to her. Sounds like if you had a place of your own when you met her, you might have had a good chance of getting some.

Posted by Illusion on Sep-26-2002 12:38:

Write! Write! Write! Write! Write!

Just tell her in the letter EXACTLY what happened.

Posted by lil' miss Angel on Sep-26-2002 12:49:

Re: Am I a wimp? What should I do?

I think you should connact her
It's always nice to recive letters
Think that she would appricaite it

Posted by Lira on Sep-26-2002 13:53:

Looking for an apartment

quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
You are insane.

I know, I hear it all the time

quote:
Originally posted by k.k.d. I'd write... Nothing exotic though, just something along the lines "Hey, just wanted to say you hi"... In any case, don't expect anything out of it: it's just a polite sign of attention, that may make her smile for a minute... nothing more, nothing less..

I'll write something simple like "Hey, how are you? I found your address when organising my stuff (an explanation would be good, wouldn't it?) and just wanted to say "hi". How was you trip?"...

quote:
Originally posted by astroboy
Sounds like if you had a place of your own when you met her, you might have had a good chance of getting some.

hhhmmmm....
Actually I was just thinking about hanging out with her a bit more (if she ever comes back), I had not thought about getting some yet Well, just in case...

*Maaz gets a newspaper and looks for a place of his own - then he'll be prepared if it ever happens again*

Hehe, as we say here in my country, astroboy, "When I bring some flour you already have the cake" (You're always prepared being one step ahead)

Posted by astroboy on Sep-26-2002 14:07:

Re: Looking for an apartment

quote:
Originally posted by Maaz

Hehe, as we say here in my country, astroboy, "When I bring some flour you already have the cake" (You're always prepared being one step ahead)

Classic saying

I only know cos I'm living with my parents too and have been in the same situation... I feel your pain bro

Posted by Coup on Sep-26-2002 16:38:

not to sound like an arse, but if someone i got on with really well, and hadnt seen for a year, wrote to me after a year it'd make my day! i would write to her, and write one letter, and leave your email address in it, if youre worried about her having your house address, and dont include it, that way, u cant lose.

whats the worst that can happen? she never writes back...

whats the best that can happen? she emails u, u email back, get her msn, chat for 3 months, she flies over, marries u, u have 4 kids and live happerly ever after

u get my point

Posted by nate735 on Sep-26-2002 21:30:

If she waited for you outside of school for 2 hours then she really diged you. You should deffinatly write to her. Shell be so happy you did.

Posted by DJ Chrono on Sep-26-2002 22:16:

quote:
Originally posted by Arbiter
Just write to her. The worst that could happen is you don't get a response, and what is that? Nothing. Not too bad.

no.. the worst thing that could happen would be if she was really a psychotic serial killer that will come to your house and stab you in the eye with a sautering iron.

but that point aside, go for it

Posted by Lira on Sep-26-2002 23:29:

quote:
Originally posted by DJ Chrono

no.. the worst thing that could happen would be if she was really a psychotic serial killer that will come to your house and stab you in the eye with a sautering iron.

don't scare me, hehe, my parents think she's part of yakooza As if

Stupid, but their thought is the main reason I've never written to her

Posted by webworkfilms on Sep-27-2002 00:32:

just watch one of my films on my websites and you will find your answer.

Ok I would write her, why not it's all good........

Posted by astroboy on Sep-27-2002 04:08:

Not Many Yakuza have families actually.. they prefer to keep a couple of ho's in apartments that they buy for them.