help a man that's confused in love..

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Posted by StalkerElmo on Oct-19-2002 01:07:

help a man that's confused in love..

alright guys, i need some of the most precise advice in the world.. i hope you guys can help me.. well see this is how it is..

i really like this girl, and she really likes me, but, she doesn't know that i like her that much, and she doesn't know that i know that she likes me.. we're both really close friends, and live near by, talk everyday.. but.. when i talk to her, it seems like she doesn't want to be with me, but she cries on the phone with her friends (supposbly) as if she wants me, but at school she hardly talks to me, or treats me like i'm just a friend.. and it really hurts me inside when she says that she wants to be single, but she tells her friends that she wants me? what the hell.. what can i do.. i like this other girl.. and she knows i like this other girl and she get's really upset when i talk about her (said from friends).. i don't know what to do.. should i confess my love.. .. or should i fall back.. because i don't want her to get hurt.. she's such a good friend to me and i care about her that much..

hope yall understand.. please.. feedback can be helped..

thanks..

Posted by Lira on Oct-19-2002 01:14:

You'll never know if you don't try. That's my phylosophy

Obviously, don't rush it because it'll scare her, be subtle

Posted by tranceDJ on Oct-19-2002 01:24:

As far as I'm concerned, she likes you...you like her, why not go for it? This is one of those things where if you don't do anything about it you might end up kicking yourself if she starts going out with some other guy eventually.

Posted by jdat on Oct-19-2002 04:24:

be true to yourself

and kind to her person

if you're genuine, and you both appreciate each other likewise; it might roll

don't rush her, and don't rush yourself; yet be sincere in the fact you want to be with her.

did I make any sense?

Posted by Tonis on Oct-20-2002 18:10:

i know someone in a sortof similar situation, but sorry i cant help you.
In case I tell you to do something that might muk everthing up im not going to say anything.

Posted by Sand Leaper on Oct-20-2002 18:27:

Try this...

This is obviously tearing both of you apart from the inside.Therefore,you really ought to take action.Here's what I would've done if I was in your situation.I can't guarantee that it'll work,but at least you'll get to know how she really feels:

When the moment is right,just take her aside for a moment.Then just let it all out,man!Tell exactly her how you feel about everything that's been going on between you two,and tell her exactly how your feelings for her are.She will HAVE TO give you an honest answer,and then you'll find out why she's acting the way she does.

I hope this works,so that you'll be able to work things out.Let me know how it goes,OK?

Posted by oDrori on Oct-20-2002 18:37:

I was like that girl up untill a while ago...
She defnitely likes you but she tries too hard to treat you like "Anybody else". Talk to her and tell her yo like her (You either get the great deal or there will be some embarasement for a few day, I personally am in good relations with a friend I confessed to)

Posted by vito on Oct-20-2002 18:48:

maybe her and her friends are playing with you
my advise, don't make a fool of yourself and even if she does like you, i don't think its smart to start sobbing to her about how much you love her

let us know what happens

Posted by AlphaStarred on Oct-21-2002 01:27:

quote:
Originally posted by tranceDJ
As far as I'm concerned, she likes you...you like her, why not go for it? This is one of those things where if you don't do anything about it you might end up kicking yourself if she starts going out with some other guy eventually.

heh...listen to his advice coz this is exactly what happend to me m8. I used to like this girl and i think she liked me, we were in the same class, never spoked, but usually smiled and looked at each other. i was really shy and didnt do anything and soon some rich fucking unsightly doochebag asked her out. Now i kick myself everyday i see her

Posted by jinxed84 on Oct-21-2002 03:42:

i say just talk to her about it in private...maybe over the internet...very impersonal and she cant see the look on your face if you get embarassed

but i dunno if you should listen to me because my love life at the moment is, well...non existant

Posted by elena on Oct-21-2002 06:55:

quite a dilemma eh?

well they both like you
the one that "pretends" that she doesnt, probably likes you more.
women are weird like that. yes.
you like two girls at the same time?. thats just wrong
youre just going to have to get closer to the one that pretends
i mean you guys are already friends, but get closer in the sense that you should start approaching her a prossible boyfriend.

confusing post

Posted by JM on Oct-21-2002 06:59:

do the (what seems to be) impossible. go talk to her...and just ask her if she liked you or something....see her reaction. nah dont do that...i dunno...this is another one of those teen "problems" that i dealt with years ago...try to somehow communicate to her that you like her without making her feel all awkward. butterflies in the stomach = great feeling btw

>JM<

Posted by SpykeChyld on Oct-21-2002 18:36:

First decide which you like more. Then approach that gil. I mean if you don't you may regret it in the future. And if you know she's only pretending to not like you then you shouldn't have much to worry about in terms of rejection.