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-- if you have time share some opinions please.
if you have time share some opinions please.
ok im sorry if this sorta of threads had been brought up too many times but i just need to let it out and i consider tranceaddict my online home so im just gon let it out..maybe this'll help me feel better (coz hell i've nver been so down in my whole life)
recently a girl just told me she doesnt like me. Sure I can accept this because I don't wanna be forcing nothing and love is made of feelings, can't change anything. Im just mad coz when i told her how i felt a while back she told me that she didnt want a boyfriend right now and told me to give it time and there will be chance in the future then last sunday when i asked her out i bought her flowers so i just wanna make sure that yes there will be chance of us making it in the future. She freaking told me that no there won't be any chance btween us coz she never did like me she never had any feelings for me..i mean wtf? I dont understand her.. im not mad at her but still i cant find it in my heart to forgive her because i felt like she played on me all this time..
so for the whole week i ignored her in school coz i was so mad but then again i have a lot in common with her and i didnt want to loose this friend so i slapped myself in the face to wake myself up. I mean if we cant be lovers then at least we can be friends so then last night i called her and she seemed very straight up forward she told me that "theres nothing she want to tell me"..i totally agreed coz i know that she doesnt like me/no feelings for me..then she told me that i made her feel uncomfortable when she's around me at school..
ok i really like this girl obviously but i know she doesnt like me but i really want us to be friends at least coz i really enjoy talking to her...
so any tips here TAs? what should i do next to keep this friendship going?
Just tell her straight out, you understand how she feels, and you'd think it'd be great if the two of you can still be friends. She may need awhile to be away from you, but I dont really see how she could refuse being your friend, unless she hated you all along???
Ok straight up....this may be considered blunt but it's too the point. You will go thru yer entire life with liking ppl that don't like you. It's hard to accept because of the hormones and attraction n shit but THAT'S LIFE!. Love is never easy and you ask ppl who have been married 50 yrs plus....they tell you it was a struggle. I say move on....yer just gonna end up hurt. I know it is very difficult but then again....it's best for you. Hell I've gone thru life with liking ppl that did not like me. Almost 22, most of the time...i'll move on. Then again, who said love was easy.
Girls are bitches. Nuff said
well not enough, lemme elaborate:
I havent made ANY positive experience with the female species. Lying and pretending is'nt an exceptation but natural behavior. Cowardness is fundamental and based on the pathetic childish "lifestyle" of being within her group all the time. She can't lose her face, now can she?
For example: I once finally had the guts to approach this girl, and not only that, I did it on foreign territory, in the middle of HER classrooms. And she felt all uncomfortable but agreed. Then I call her and shes like "okay so..yes..i donno when I have time..Ill let you know". 3 days later I try again are get ignored, then I just forget it only to hear that shes "never liked me anyway". Of course her friends had to tell me.
Or: This girl I get to know at this school excursion. Right before the summer holidays. We takes walks and all, really understaing each other excellently. She says she'll go to that summer camp for a week, i shall call her from time to time. Two calls, 3 sms'es remain unanswered. When shes back I sms again. And of yourse, I hear from her friends to "leave her alone".
Months later I find out: she met some1 there.
Now aint that great?
Forgive me my angriness. it might have to do with the fact that right now i HJATE to death ANYTHING female as all my mates are locked at home with their gf's who make them watch tvwith them, forcing me to stay too..no1 to go out with.
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| Originally posted by TranceGiant Girls are bitches. Nuff said well not enough, lemme elaborate: I havent made ANY positive experience with the female species. Lying and pretending is'nt an exceptation but natural behavior. Cowardness is fundamental and based on the pathetic childish "lifestyle" of being within her group all the time. She can't lose her face, now can she? For example: I once finally had the guts to approach this girl, and not only that, I did it on foreign territory, in the middle of HER classrooms. And she felt all uncomfortable but agreed. Then I call her and shes like "okay so..yes..i donno when I have time..Ill let you know". 3 days later I try again are get ignored, then I just forget it only to hear that shes "never liked me anyway". Of course her friends had to tell me. Or: This girl I get to know at this school excursion. Right before the summer holidays. We takes walks and all, really understaing each other excellently. She says she'll go to that summer camp for a week, i shall call her from time to time. Two calls, 3 sms'es remain unanswered. When shes back I sms again. And of yourse, I hear from her friends to "leave her alone". Months later I find out: she met some1 there. Now aint that great? Forgive me my angriness. it might have to do with the fact that right now i HJATE to death ANYTHING female as all my mates are locked at home with their gf's who make them watch tvwith them, forcing me to stay too..no1 to go out with. |
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| Originally posted by Vanilla Just tell her straight out, you understand how she feels, and you'd think it'd be great if the two of you can still be friends. She may need awhile to be away from you, but I dont really see how she could refuse being your friend, unless she hated you all along??? |
My last girlfriend called me up one day and told me she was "falling out of love with me." It took me a whole frikkin year and doing alot of stupid shit to get over that one. To this day I still don't know quite what went wrong there, and i probably never will.
It hurts man, I know, but it'll get better. Just take some time away from the situation to clear your head, 'cuz right now you got emotions going all over the place and in hindsight you'll realize it's how hard it is to actually make a rational decision. Don't pressure her.. pushy guys really quickly get put onto a girl and ALL HER FRIENDS "psycho" list and that's a bad list to be on. If she really wants to be your friend she'll come to you in time, and if she doesn't, it's not worth it, plain and simple.
I agree, going back to music and your decks is a good idea. You're young dude, like you have the rest of your life to figure this shit out, there's really no rush.
Oh yeah, and whatever you do, DO NOT GO ON AN E BINGE. Ecstasy in this situation will just make everything worse. Trust me.
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| Originally posted by SynRG888 My last girlfriend called me up one day and told me she was "falling out of love with me." It took me a whole frikkin year and doing alot of stupid shit to get over that one. To this day I still don't know quite what went wrong there, and i probably never will. It hurts man, I know, but it'll get better. Just take some time away from the situation to clear your head, 'cuz right now you got emotions going all over the place and in hindsight you'll realize it's how hard it is to actually make a rational decision. Don't pressure her.. pushy guys really quickly get put onto a girl and ALL HER FRIENDS "psycho" list and that's a bad list to be on. If she really wants to be your friend she'll come to you in time, and if she doesn't, it's not worth it, plain and simple. I agree, going back to music and your decks is a good idea. You're young dude, like you have the rest of your life to figure this shit out, there's really no rush. Oh yeah, and whatever you do, DO NOT GO ON AN E BINGE. Ecstasy in this situation will just make everything worse. Trust me. |
hey guy
i feel your pain but remember life goes on.
Just remember this when somewhere down the road the tables are turned and a girl likes you and you don't feel the same way. Remember how you felt and try to be nice. The girl that doesnt like you right now sometime she is going to feel the same thing for some guy that will probably just use her. We can't help who we fall for. When i was younger i was probably mean to girls that liked me and i just didnt feel the same. Now i look back and regret being like that. Now i try to be atleast friends with girls that like me. THere is no harm in that. Just use other things to get her out of your mind. Hopefully not drugs or alcohol. I am not saying these things are bad but don't use pain or sadness as an excuse to get wasted. You might go overboard.
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dreamer
In situations like these, you have to close your eyes, take a deep breathe, and look at the larger picture. Humans are emotional by nature, but if you try to put yourself outside of the situation, sometimes it's easier to see the solution to your problems. Each case is different, but if you approach it with an open mind, and realize that the chaos in your mind will settle, you will see hope.
As for this girl, just be really chill around her. Let her have her space, and she will come around, since the 2 of you are friends. Don't bring the topic anymore, I believe she has the point now. Just leave it in the past, and continue your friendship. It will be awkward at first, but at least she knows that you care about her a lot, and if you ACT like a friend around her, then she will feel comfortable again. Eventually you will fall out of love, and it'll all be good again.
peacE
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