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Sad news..
This is a personal thread, so I'm sorry for taking up some space.
I just wanted to say that my girlfriend that I've had for nearly a year just officially broke up with me today. 
This is one of the most painful experiences I've ever had in my life. It was also one of the longest relationships that I've had with anyone. Durafei, I now truly know how bad it must have been when you had to go through this, I just hope that I can find as much strength as you to endure it. You never know how much you really love some people until you lose them, and realize that people who really love you don't come by often.
I'm gonna be on a hiatus from TA for a while as I need some time alone to think about some things. I've also been having a lotta problems at home lately and at school as well so I'll really need the time to focus and get things together as TA has been a big distraction for me at times. For those of you wondering why I wasn't at Tiesto.. I was planning on taking my gf there for her bday which was 2 days before the event, Tiesto last year was also the first time we had met in person as acquaintances through others. So i thought taking her and seeing her there again would be the perfect celebration and bday gift. But we were on time off so i hadn't seen her in person in weeks. Going there without her was just too painful for me so I went to see Aquasky instead cuz i knew she would be there. Today I went to see her and it was official. I have only myself to blame for all this.
I know you don't need me spilling all this and wasting your time, but for those TA's who I more or less keep in touch with regularly, I'm sorry if I'm not too responsive for the next couple of days and I probably won't be hitting up any parties this holiday either. I'm also gonna be taking a break from the boards indefinately. I've been falling behind in a lot of things and I need to act up and sort things out.
I hope you guys all have a Merry Xmas and a good New Year. It was nice partying it up with a lotta you guys this year. PEace.
dEsidEL
i dont really know you that well nor have i had a serious relationship ever in my life, but i still hope you get through this. It sounds like you cared about this girl alot, and it must be painful for you.. Just try to remember the good times you had. I have had something similar to this happen to me before.. but i wont go into detail as you dont need to hear my problems.
what helped me is letting the feelings out. dont bottle them up or you'll never get rid of them. since my time on the board, you have seemed to be a very nice person, and i hope you get through this. i also feel bad because i do have a minor connection to you as you know. (what a coincidence again :P)
really crappy advice i know, but i still hope for the best for you.
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and Happy Holidays to you too.
Em, you'll get through it man. I say you just keep busy and then think about the good times you've had and not the bad or why it happened etc. Don't focus on anything negative. A good way to get over it is get your mind OFF of it. If you need help doing that you know where I am.
I'm so sorry
Desidel, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through.
I really hope that the time off you are going to take will
help you get back on track. I totally understand how you feel
but it is good that you will take time to think and get some
things back the way they were b4.
I guess that like you said you only got yourself to blame for
this is not totally true, when two persons are in a relationship
and both of them want to make it work they both can, although
there is the fact that when one of them doesn't want to there's nothing the other one can do because I totally believe in giving
100-100 both, I know most people say 50-50 but when you really love someone you give 100% and if you both do it then things will work
as long as you both keep working together.
For now this will at least help you get some things in order
and maybe make you a better person.
Happy holidays and try to remember all the good times instead of the bad, always look at the good of situations and you'll see how that helps make it all better.
Keep your head up and remember that after the rain there's always
a rainbow.
Jaz.
Everyone goes through this .. it's a part of life.
Take care and the best of luck Desidel. First LOVE are the hardest to get over ... took me almost 4 yrs to get over mine
Can I get some LIGHTAs of the Desidel massive ???
more TA heartbreak. 
when i met you at viva, you had a massive amount of energy, and i got a great vibe just being around you. someone really nice and upbeat. life is always full of valleys, but you need to try and fly above it. as endlesswave said, focus on the positive. time is a healer, so give it some time.
i feel like i'm just rehashing what i posted when this happened to ilyia, and i feel bad cuz i'm too good at advice like this. but just know that things will get better, and we are all here for you. the whole TA massive gives you support.
Certainly can understand. Take some time off. And think positively. If you need help catch hold of a couple of friends at TA. 
Another thing dont concentrate too much on one girl as if she is your life. Plenty more now that you are single.
SOS2 Galvatron you are right. I even agree with you.
Think Positive and if you need someone to talk to call the TA's.LOL
If it makes you feel any better, i've never had a girl friend...Maybe I should cut my hair huh? Nawww....
There are always more fish in sea! I guess for me, fish don't like afro's.. but I'll hook one someday!
I feel your pain.... my hair is alone all day long...
lol - take it easy and relax.. life always gets better.
Hey Desidel, I haven't got a chance to meet you yet but you seem like a swell guy to hang around. Keep cool, life's way too short to feel down. I can somewhat relate to you, I've been in the best relationship of my life for 4 1/2 years. Everything was awesome but i had to fuk it up somehow. At the time I was concerned about commitment (you would think after 4 1/2 yrs 
) anyways I broke it off with her and I've been kicking myself ever since. I miss her deeply and not a day passes that I don't think about her (and this has been after 4 yrs that we've broke up ). I know that I will never find another relationship as perfect as the one I've lost Now everytime I find a girl, I always compare her to my first love.
I'm pissed because I invested almost 5 yrs into that relationship and everything was better than I could ever hope for and I lost it now, all because I was such a jerk to the sweetest girl I could ever meet. But I see life as a learning experience and things will look up again.
Take some time to straighten things out, you have to do what you have to do. I don't know what the circumstances involved in your breakup, but remember if a girl doesn't want to be with you then there's no point mauling over it. Love is a two way street.
Lately I've been meeting a few people that are completely awesome. I've been feeling very euphoric lately cuz when I least expect it, things work out so well. It's funny how the world works. This all reminds me how great the world is and how grateful I am to be alive.
So take care bro. You'll definately get over it. Hope to see you back soon, you definately bring a very good vibe to the boards (also because you're azn like me, gotta have more azn TA's here LOL!) 
Em...im sorry to hear it..but if it makes u feel any better, i think i know why she broke up with u...i think i scared her by chilling with u and her some times.....
well Em...u know when stuff like this happens, usually its for the best, its something that doesnt happen by chance and is all pre planned in ur life....i cant say i know how u feel cos ive never had a g/f before so im not gonna say taht..all i can say is....do something now that will take ur mind off as chris said...meet new people, get involved in some hobby etc....u should be fine soon..i know u can overcome this minor stage of ur life...
sorry dude to hear that...
but do not worry you will find someone else
some new hotty
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| Originally posted by mecha sorry dude to hear that... but do not worry you will find someone else some new hotty |
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| Originally posted by DJ El Kay Dee mecha..i say u and i hunt one for him.... em....u want asian , caucasian, black, hispanic,...name ur next choice..me and russ will look around for one for u |
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| Originally posted by mecha lol ya dude we will start looking in Ryerson and end up looking at Sheridan college |
no worries m8. this shit always happens. i've been in a long term relationship before and yeah, it really does suck after a breakup.
but then,there's a flip side to it. here you are, free of the obligations and responsibilities of that relationship. dude, after i broke up with my long term g/f a year and a half ago, i felt..so free. i got more done that first month, than i did in a year. i am not exaggerating.
serious relationships require a lot of mental energy above all else. it distracts you. especially at this age when your priorities need to be elsewhere most of the time. you'll come to realize this man
stay cool
Yeah man.. I totally feel what you are saying. It's not going to be easy for the next couple of weeks(or months). Try to occupy yourself with something(read books, hang out with friends, do work etc) so that you don't think about her all the time. It's easier said than done, but you gotta try. Try to remain friends(again, easier said than done) with her, or at least be on good terms with her. Who knows, maybe she'll change her mind....
Btw, one of the bad side effects(at least for me) of a break-up was completely losing my appetite for next couple of weeks. I don't know if you experience the same thing, but if you do, try eating more liquid foods(soups, milk, yogourts etc...)
Hope it works out for you !
Shit dude, sorry to hear this happened. I hope things can work out for you and you can meet someone else.Its hard loosing someone specially if they mean so much to you. Good luck man!
thank the lord you're single.
you will see the light, it will come with time.
trance helps to heal the wounds.
sorry to hear that dude. good luck with everything, yeah women what u gonna do. can't live with them, can't live without them........
Woa Desidel...
Durafei is right. I whet through almost the same thing about a year ago. Don't worry, this will get better.
Hi Desidel,
All I have to say is that it will get better. Considering that was your longest relationship, it's quite hard to deal with the fact your not together anymore. I think I can speak for most of us when I say "I have been there".. and you eventually get over it. I know it's hard, and depressing, and you feel like doing nothing... but seriously force yourself to do stuff or all you'll do is think about her, and it will make you feel even worse. Breaking up is like mourning. You've lost somebody important to you, and it's never easy.
Arek is totally right though with what he said. Haha.. SINGLE is GOOD, and Trance will heal you.
Take Care
-Sarah
Sorry to hear this dude... ...and take care of yourself
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