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trance as a deciding factor in relationships

would u ever date someone who doesn't like trance?

i've been thinking about this for awhile and i've come to conclude that it's not worth it

music should be a deciding factor in relationships as it defines who you are

arguments? yes? no?

Pork

nah its not

but it sure would be nice.... if she's into trance too
and not just bitching for me to take it off everytime i put a track on
know what i mean

but either way... i like all types of music except country though

i wonder if im one of the few or only ta who's a rapper

Choosing a girl/boyfriend by the music she/he likes?

Jeez, how shallow can you get?

i agree it helps to have common interest such as music..but i wouldnt base my whole decision on it.

i use the 5 point method to pick my women

niceatude - how nice she is
putupatude - how well she can deal with my shit
gymnastatude - how flexible she is
smartatude - how intelligent she is
lookatude - how easy she is on the eyes

if she passes all 5 shes a keeper!

my g/f likes trance and clubbing and going cyber.

so i have no problems

i know ive already mentioned my thoughts to u about this but.. might as well let the whole world know too lol...

anyways, i dont think that music is a deciding factor when it comes to relationship. if a guy appreciates trance and the music i enjoy, well, thats great. but guys dont ahve to enjoy trance for me to be attracted to him. but a general sense of respect is mandatory, i guess. but whatever, if a guy scores well w/ me in other aspects other than music, id date him w/o hesitation

also i have friends who despise trance but i love them for who they ar and not what they listen to and we get along perfectly well.

-BLuEOcEaN420

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Originally posted by kirbtastic gymnastatude - how flexible she is

LOL!! so...just how flexible is enough?

anyway, to me it's an added bonus. altho i wonder sometimes as the gf i'm with has been with me almost from the beginning of my love for trance...soo....i dunno.

music is my life so hopefully the person i date would like it, but they don't have to like it as long as they don't mind that i listen to it all the time. i almost broke up with this girl because she would always turn it down in the car or switch cds and right when i would get into it and bobbin my head and singing (if it had lyrics). that really pissed me off but she ended up learning to like it.

Mr. Mystery: have you ever dared to go out with a Backstreet Boys' fan? Believe me, music taste does matter

Anyway, the more things you have to share, the better it'll be for the relationship Even when the music wasn't involved (maybe it's a coincidence), some of the best dates I've ever had were either with trancers or junglists. Obviously, music taste is not everything. Going out with girls who don't like the same music maybe also a good experience (that's how I got into ska for 2 months, hehe).

It's not a matter of being shallow or narrow-minded, but it's just a bit of logic

yup

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Originally posted by Maaz Mr. Mystery: have you ever dared to go out with a Backstreet Boys' fan? Believe me, music taste does matter

i have to agree with you there maaz... music taste does matter. when someone tells me they listen to nsync i automatically judge them

my previous boss at work was this really smart guy that i respected. he built www.bestbuy.com from scratch, all the hardware incl the servers, switches, firewalls, dbases...

then when i found in his cd case "nsync" and "britney spears".. i lost all respect for him

..

likewise
i lose respect for people who tell me that they hate trance, i guess i'm judgemental like that

Pork

Icing on the cake. But if they're constantly listening to something horrid, it is a problem.

Call me shallow but, as I mentioned in some other thread, I can't tolerate cookie-cutter trends.
Whether it has to do with music, fashion, food or just ways of living, etc.
I could never associate with anyone who's into other likes of these kinds.(which by the way, leads me to say that I like originality in someone. I am so attracted by the way someone can be unique.)

Secondly,to me, music is extrememly important, if you don't have it down to an ART, then any relationship will come to an end. Same with fashion, for example.
Finally, it's not about being shallow, when you have standards that aren't met, how can you relate with that person when the issue is at hand?
Sorry but I can't like it any other way.

Nah I believe that one's taste for music shouldn't matter. Ofcourse there is a somewhat artificial natural selection ( ) as for example a total rnb-chick wouldn't even think of looking at someone who is totally not rnb and vice versa.
My ex-girlfriend happened to only like rnb though and I hated it but we got along fine. A realtion is build upon respect and how you feel when your together.

Its not important, at all.

BWAHAHAHHA....at the avatar porky. ONE CRAZY ASS WOMAN!.....


anyway, I think love conquers all and goes above the music you listen to. My criteria for dating ppl is not whether they like trance, if they do, it's great but if they don't...no big deal.

The amount of guy:girls who like trance is a little heavy on the guy side...if i was that picky, i think i'd be single for a lot longer than one could hope.

I would date a girl who didn't like trance, but then it would be nice if she did simply for the fact that she would go dancing with you at the club...

The ideal girl is one who likes trance, but because you turned her on to it, and she starts to listen to it even when you're not there, but doesn't share your obsession so that you can have the superior knowledge... and keep turning her on to new things.

(I love run-on sentences)

HMMM

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Originally posted by BTG i think i'd be single for a lot longer than one could hope.

maybe you being single is b/c of the fact that you have a slight drinking problem!

hahaha



Pork

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Originally posted by Mr.Mystery Choosing a girl/boyfriend by the music she/he likes? Jeez, how shallow can you get?

well it happende to me.....2 girls....one like spanish musci but hated trance...and the other hate trance and love Hip pop...OMFG i hate..

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Originally posted by trance[]control-fan well it happende to me.....2 girls....one like spanish musci but hated trance...and the other hate trance and love Hip pop...OMFG i hate..

heh!

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Originally posted by Mr.Mystery Choosing a girl/boyfriend by the music she/he likes? Jeez, how shallow can you get?

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he did not say that. He just said that if a person dislikes music that you enjoy and you are passionate about music - as I assume many people here are - it may be a factor that decides that (s)he isn't worth it.

Little scenario here:
You both are at your pimping pad and have just had all the fun in the world cooking supper, now you move over to the living room and want to eat. Now you need to find some music to go with it. As a natural Tranceaddict, you put on "Cafe del Mar - Volumen seis" since it is nice chillout music to go with cocktails and drinks. The problem is she doesn't like music and would rather pump the jam with Jam'n 94.5 fm (some .. radio station)... so there is an inherent conflict.
One of you has to budge, every time.
If she loves rap and you love trance, than it says a lot about who you are, provided that you are serious about liking music, not like these 20 gazillion wanna be trance lovers who worship DJ Jan Wayne..

Maybe I define myself and other people in diferent ways than you, but i think music is such an emotionally powerful way to express oneself that it does tell a lot about who you are.

d'accord?

I don't think it should be a deciding factor unless the girl totally doesn't stand trance and you don't stand what she's listening to. But really, that just means that one or both of you is very stubborn and narrow minded, so if music is the problem, that's an indication that one or both of you is a person with which is hard to make compromises. And sooner or later, a situation will appear where you will have to make a compromise or split up.
Anyway, even if you do have different music tastes, as long as you both can bend a little to let the other person listen to what he/she wants without complaining, there should be no problem. It basically all comes down to respect, whether you respect what she's listening to and vice versa. If you both do, you'll get along, and if one of you has a problem with it, that just might be a sign that you might not get along in the future on some other issues as well.

Re: HMMM

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Originally posted by Porky maybe you being single is b/c of the fact that you have a slight drinking problem! hahaha Pork

BTG does not have a drinking problem..people with drinking problems go to 12 step meetings ... BTG has a drinking hobby, which he likes to participate in often.

if music us greatly involved in your life then maybe it will make a difference. i could date someone who doesn't listen to the same music as me cause i rarely listen outside of the car.

on the other hand, my boyfriend likes to go to clubs the same as me which makes our weekends really easy cause otherwise we'd have to choose between the thing we really like to do and being with each other. it certaintly wasn't a necessity that we have this in common but it sure helps a lot.

Well stuff kinda got messed up between me & my ex cuz she wasn't ever really into the scene or the music so as I became more involved with TA she felt it was her competition - because she didn't understand it.

Point being - you're better off finding someone open minded to electronica who likes to go out and party otherwise whenever there is a big dj in town you're gonna have arguments.....

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