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Posted by butterfly on Mar-18-2003 20:26:

Roll Call: Recently broken up

My bf recently broke up with me and I have been consoled by several other people in the same situation. And then someone said that it is very common this time of year. So who is in the same boat as me? It is so hard....

Posted by butterfly on Mar-18-2003 20:26:

why did this double post?

Posted by BTG on Mar-18-2003 20:45:

because its twice as important as any other threads.

Posted by trancEyes22 on Mar-18-2003 20:55:

yeah i actually just broke up with my boyfriend about 2 weeks ago. it is DEF this time of year- maybe everyone has spring fever or something. but girl, it's aight- being single isn't such a bad thing!!!

Posted by butterfly on Mar-18-2003 21:08:

quote:
Originally posted by trancEyes22
yeah i actually just broke up with my boyfriend about 2 weeks ago. it is DEF this time of year- maybe everyone has spring fever or something. but girl, it's aight- being single isn't such a bad thing!!!

i guess. i thoroughly enjoyed being single when i wanted to be. but right now that isn't what i really want. plus i have very strong feelings for me ex and i wish he wanted to be with me.

Posted by bassaholix on Mar-18-2003 21:43:

Damm that bad news.. sorry to hear that...

don't worry... here in Oz its autumn... ppl go crazy around here...

must be the DATE not the weather me thinks...

Posted by jdat on Mar-18-2003 21:50:

oh nooooo

I'm so sorry to hear that melissa

as for advice grrrr I'm in a hurry so I can't give none right this moment, but I will later when I come back

grrr I still can't believe he dumped you what a loser

Posted by Omad0n on Mar-18-2003 21:55:

Not broken up too recently, but...

well, the spplit was last year around october, after having been together for a year. (longest relationship for me @ 20) and so it's taken a long time to heal from it all. But right now my 7 roomies are all watching moulane rouge (sorry I know the spelling is off) right now. ON top of that, some of them have there girflriends watching with them. And this is my first time seeing it since my girlfriend and I broke up. It's suprisingly hard to see. Anyway, I know you've been told before but I'll tell you again it does get better with time.

Posted by elena on Mar-18-2003 22:37:

Posted by trancEyes22 on Mar-18-2003 22:48:

quote:
Originally posted by miss_e
arent you with tranceman78?

lol i wish! nah my baby's too far, but i do still stalk him...right brent?

Posted by malek on Mar-18-2003 22:49:

take a trip, you'll forget that bastard

Posted by tranceman78 on Mar-18-2003 22:50:

quote:
Originally posted by trancEyes22
lol i wish! nah my baby's too far, but i do still stalk him...right brent?

damn straight baby. btw lmao @ miss_e's post.

Posted by beema on Mar-18-2003 23:01:

miss_e is a hoebag, she wont ever have a man to break up with

Posted by decibel08 on Mar-18-2003 23:07:

Re: Roll Call: Recently broken up

quote:
Originally posted by butterfly
My bf recently broke up with me and I have been consoled by several other people in the same situation. And then someone said that it is very common this time of year. So who is in the same boat as me? It is so hard....

id agree that 'time is the healer' so to speak. i personally would just try to look at it as an experience to learn from. and i dont mean in the sense of how to avoid it in the future, but to learn something from your relationships in general. if there is nothing to take away after significant time spent with someone, then whats the point? everything (almost) is about progressing, developing, growing as a person, etc. and i find that most-present in relationships.

so just look back and capture the good things, and what they taught you. of course it doesn't hurt to think about how to avoid the low-points in the future, but we're focusing on positive here...

and also, post-breakup, or any lonely time really, is a chance to be with yourself and sort of 'work on' yourself - stupid as that sounds. i know i go through periods of loneliness (just like tomcraft) but you gotta try to use that time to focus on yourself, things that make you happy, or work, or whatever else you gotta do on your path.

key is (according to me, not everyone) : you gotta be happy with yourself and by yourself before you can truly and healthily get really close to other people and allow your happiness to come from them. cause when they're gone, you need to stay afloat.

good luck, i gotta get back to this mountain of work in 'my path'

--dannyB-- (temporary philosopher)

Posted by SportTrance on Mar-18-2003 23:26:

quote:
Originally posted by jdat
oh nooooo

I'm so sorry to hear that melissa

as for advice grrrr I'm in a hurry so I can't give none right this moment, but I will later when I come back

grrr I still can't believe he dumped you what a loser

yeah, that post went great with the butterfly in your sig

Posted by torontotrance on Mar-18-2003 23:30:

Single is not that bad imo. Frankly it's less stressful imo and plus I find I have more money to spend on myself (not that I mind spending money on others)

Posted by Porky on Mar-19-2003 00:24:

oh no!

cheer up melissa!

don't worry.. there are tons of guys out there.. right now you need to drink away your sorrows!

*hugs from chicago*

Porky

Posted by Prototrance on Mar-19-2003 00:46:

quote:
Originally posted by butterfly
i guess. i thoroughly enjoyed being single when i wanted to be. but right now that isn't what i really want. plus i have very strong feelings for me ex and i wish he wanted to be with me.

You always want what you cant have...................

Think yourself lucky that you had a relationship - its seems to be an impossibility for me.

Posted by jdat on Mar-19-2003 06:12:

quote:
Originally posted by SportTrance
yeah, that post went great with the butterfly in your sig

lmao I didn't even think about that

Posted by HardTrance81 on Mar-19-2003 06:29:

quote:
Originally posted by Prototrance
You always want what you cant have...................

Think yourself lucky that you had a relationship - its seems to be an impossibility for me.

ARE you kidding me? i can't get out of them, i haven't been single since my sophmore year of high school...(i am 21 now) everytime i am single and i meet one girl in like 2 days and they're like "hi whats up, yeah, moved my stuff in while you were sleeping....... hope you don't mind"..... i try to break for the door and i noticed i am shackled to the floor and can only view the internet under supervision lol.... damn it! ha ha ha ha, no matter how hard i try i keep getting suckered into commitment..... i am such a softy

Posted by milanster on Mar-19-2003 06:35:

being single isnt that bad...i broke up with my gf a month and a half ago...i really wanted her but at the same time i knew that there was no way for it to last for long...
keep urself busy, u want him? ignore him completely...IF hez worth it, he'll be back on his knees

looking for lucky number 11

Posted by Muff2K on Mar-19-2003 07:23:

breaking up, making up, it's all a learning experience that you carry over to the next relationship

time heals. i know.

Posted by Endlesswave on Mar-19-2003 08:14:

quote:
Originally posted by HardTrance81
ARE you kidding me? i can't get out of them, i haven't been single since my sophmore year of high school...(i am 21 now) everytime i am single and i meet one girl in like 2 days and they're like "hi whats up, yeah, moved my stuff in while you were sleeping....... hope you don't mind"..... i try to break for the door and i noticed i am shackled to the floor and can only view the internet under supervision lol.... damn it! ha ha ha ha, no matter how hard i try i keep getting suckered into commitment..... i am such a softy

WHERE do you live? All the women here are just BLAH. They mess with your head and then just it all goes to shit. Or it could just be my crappy circumstance? Always been single...dated a girl for a few months on and off but never had a g/f, ever. It seems for me as if it should be the opposite, instead of looking at being single as fun (which I'm sure it is) I just WANT to be in a relationship because I've never known what it's like to be in one. The loneliness sucks ass! And Mel if you were in a relationship before don't worry it'll happen again! Just don't think about it too much (something I tend to do lots) and party!

Posted by kr00t0n on Mar-19-2003 10:32:

Sorry to hear that

My mate got dumped by his fiance of 1 year yesterday, and I feel so bad that I cant console, coz I have no idea what to say.
Longest relationship I've had is 3 months, and he was engaged and everything.

Time does heal though, if it didn't, the world would be full of unhappy single people (which it kinda is, but you get my drift )

Posted by arkhan on Mar-19-2003 12:10:

quote:
Originally posted by trancEyes22
it is DEF this time of year- maybe everyone has spring fever or something

yep it definitely seems like that time of year to me

trust me

and its not fun as well hrm

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