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Originally posted by Subey 1/3 are in relationships of convenience (i.e. not to be bored,lonely etc.) 1/3 are in relationships that have ended mentally but that fact hasn't made it to reality yet. In my experience it takes most people months/years to breakup 1/3 are legitimate relationships. Agree/Disagree with tha math?

actually I'd say around 80-85% instead of 2 thirds...

Life and the whole world itself have evolved and changed so much there isn't such a thing as "love" anymore... or at least that's the impression I've been getting for the last couple of years. People are far too worried on other things they can not be bothered about that aspect of their lifes.

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So...what, only about 15% of people are in relationships they should be in?

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Originally posted by luisjb82 actually I'd say around 80-85% instead of 2 thirds... Life and the whole world itself have evolved and changed so much there isn't such a thing as "love" anymore... or at least that's the impression I've been getting for the last couple of years. People are far too worried on other things they can not be bothered about that aspect of their lifes.

I dunno sometimes when I read girls talking about their boyfriends they always portray it like they are in the deepest love imaginable. I get the impression that its a kind of competition between girls to see who can demonstrate that they are the most in love.

My problem with this is that it leaves them no room to manoever. If the last guy was the best ever then how can the next guy?

I think guys are much more honest about love (at least publically). When we find it, we find it, and there's no turning back.

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I disagree. By definition, if you're in a 'relationship' then you cannot be 'single'.

how do you define a legitimate relationship? i think people get into different types of relationships because everyone has different needs.

I prefer to look at it from a point of view of exchange theory, in which case all people in relationships remain so because the benefits outweigh the costs.

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Originally posted by Subey I dunno sometimes when I read girls talking about their boyfriends they always portray it like they are in the deepest love imaginable. I get the impression that its a kind of competition between girls to see who can demonstrate that they are the most in love. My problem with this is that it leaves them no room to manoever. If the last guy was the best ever then how can the next guy? I think guys are much more honest about love (at least publically). When we find it, we find it, and there's no turning back.

I agree...

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Originally posted by Subey I dunno sometimes when I read girls talking about their boyfriends they always portray it like they are in the deepest love imaginable. I get the impression that its a kind of competition between girls to see who can demonstrate that they are the most in love. My problem with this is that it leaves them no room to manoever. If the last guy was the best ever then how can the next guy? I think guys are much more honest about love (at least publically). When we find it, we find it, and there's no turning back.

I guess it's easier for females to be infatuated compared to men as their operative modes tend to rely on inner emotions and subtle feelings parsed in every day things.

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Originally posted by butterfly how do you define a legitimate relationship? i think people get into different types of relationships because everyone has different needs.

yes totally.

I also believe the title to this thread needs to be changed.

When you're in a relationship you are not 'single' anymore. Simple as that.

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Originally posted by butterfly how do you define a legitimate relationship? i think people get into different types of relationships because everyone has different needs.

I guess i'm looking at it from a love perspective in the sense that we are seeking love and any relationship where the intent isn't love is somehow false.

Philosophically I operate under the belief that Love is the destination. Therefore if the current waypoint does not include love then I can not stop there, because I would be 'cheating' on the future.

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Originally posted by jdat yes totally. I also believe the title to this thread needs to be changed. When you're in a relationship you are not 'single' anymore. Simple as that.

I'm using the word 'single' to represent a state in which they are available to enter a new relationship. What term would you use to describe someone who is taken but 'waiting for something better to come along'?

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Originally posted by Subey I'm using the word 'single' to represent a state in which they are available to enter a new relationship. What term would you use to describe someone who is taken but 'waiting for something better to come along'?

Unfaithful?

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