Has anyone here found that you're better at making friends with the opposite sex than with your own? For the past five years or so that's been the case for me. Not sure why...

Of course I've seen a number of guys here say that men either can't really or shouldn't be friends with women outside the context of looking for sex. But I say that's a load of crap.

What about you?

Usually, when a man and a woman have a friendship, one or the other has pining feelings for the other at SOME point in the friendship. I think a lot of people get into that mentality of "but he's my FRIEND! He wouldn't steer me in the wrong direction!!!!!!!"

Uh, yes he would.

rohypnal

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Originally posted by squirrelly Usually, when a man and a woman have a friendship, one or the other has pining feelings for the other at SOME point in the friendship.

Yeah, that has happened to me. I was talking to someone for a few months as a friend and then she dropped it on me that she had "feelings" for me. I have done that to girls in the past as well.

IMO it's often beneficial just to keep those feelings inside. The "let it all hang out" mentality usually doesn't resolve much of anything. And I know that people think, "My God, but what if he / she feels the same and ends up being the love of my life?! I can't possibly keep this inside! AAAAHHH!" But I think a lot of times those sorts of feelings really can fade, if you don't obsess over them.

Eventually, you can't keep those feelings inside forever. Sucks, but so true. I have some guy friends, but that little fact was true for ALL of them.

What I can't understand for the life of me, is why a guy friend would say to his current girlfriend (who's already insecure about me) "oh Sara? I was in love with her for ten years. But I love YOU now baby!"

FFS. WHY?!?!?

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Originally posted by squirrelly What I can't understand for the life of me, is why a guy friend would say to his current girlfriend (who's already insecure about me) "oh Sara? I was in love with her for ten years. But I love YOU now baby!" FFS. WHY?!?!?

I would never do that to someone...

Seriously. Do you know how much drama that created? And I had NO idea for the longest time he "confessed". So I was baffled as to why this girl was always freaking out on me and acting like a crazy person. It got so bad I threatened to punch her in the face! And then when I found out what he told her... I was like ooooooooooooooooooooooooh.

Did you just change "punched her in the face" to "threatened to punch her in the face?" Or did I misread that?

Actually I told her if she ever tried to message/or talk crap to any of my friends again, I knew where she lived (and worked) and I would show up and beat her ugly ass face down into the ground to the point where no one would recognize her.

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Originally posted by MrJiveBoJingles Did you just change "punched her in the face" to "threatened to punch her in the face?" Or did I misread that?

I actually had started to type "I nearly punched her in the face" but got distracted by work and skipped a couple of words, so I fixed it. When I realized I typo'd I fixed it. I'm not taking credit for something I didn't do!

Although when I nearly did, if it wasn't for the fact that A) it was my friends wedding and B) someone literally had to hold me back.... I would have.

I would say that I have slightly more female friends than male friends, but that's not because I am necessarily "better" at befriending women than men.

I'm just irritated by deferring to others.

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