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Originally posted by dj_moonshine my dad walks in my room and tells me i cant use headphones becuase they arent good for my ears and blah blah blah

how old r u!

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Originally posted by bent how old r u!

i just turned 20 last sunday. i know im 18+ i can make my own decisions etc. but its not really like that in my religion, bcuz if i try to make my own decisions, then my parents would make me feel guilty by saying stuff like oh we raised u and took care of u and shit like that, my dad also was pissed of a few times he broke my headphones intentionally 3 times, i brought headphones for the 4th time now.

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Originally posted by dj_moonshine if i try to make my own decisions, then my parents would make me feel guilty by saying stuff like oh we raised u and took care of u and shit like that

I can really see myself if you there
Don't listen to them! Do what you want, it's your life!

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Originally posted by Push2005 Ik ben net terug begonnen met cassettes op te kopen... Die pitchcontrol is echt ongelofelijk !

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Originally posted by dj_moonshine he broke my headphones intentionally 3 times

omg, I would so kick him in the nuts if my dad did that!

tell your neighbours, your dad and the security guard to go fuck themselves. Youre old enuff not to take orders from your parents anymore.... cant use headphones because theyre bad for youre ears? Your dad is a fucking dumbass, ive worked in a studio for 4 years with headphones on almost constantly and my ears are fine.

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hey thanx for the replies guys. butu need to know one more thing, which is if i break their rules im gonna have to go find a place for myself, and i dont have that much cash to support myself. its like a life-death situation for me. i dont think ill be able to come to viva this friday, this time bcuz i have no car, and i have no ride, not just that, but also my fukn "dad" said hes gonna come with me or else i wont b allowed to go. wat a fukn shitty life i have, my plan is to save cash and get the hell out of that place, go find my own.

find a good job, that'll help you alot too.

and tell your father to leave you the fuck alone. Tell him you're an adult of 20 years old and that you can perfectly take care of yourself.

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Originally posted by Push2005 Ik ben net terug begonnen met cassettes op te kopen... Die pitchcontrol is echt ongelofelijk !

well if you really want to stay in your house that bad what i would do id hook up your Turntables to your computer though the line in input and just have your speakers low so that you wont have to worry about low sound on the mix..that is if you have 2 outputs on your mixer

but thats me

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Originally posted by dj_moonshine hey thanx for the replies guys. butu need to know one more thing, which is if i break their rules im gonna have to go find a place for myself, and i dont have that much cash to support myself. its like a life-death situation for me. i dont think ill be able to come to viva this friday, this time bcuz i have no car, and i have no ride, not just that, but also my fukn "dad" said hes gonna come with me or else i wont b allowed to go. wat a fukn shitty life i have, my plan is to save cash and get the hell out of that place, go find my own.

Leave now. Or just do what you want and tell your parents to relax a little. Mine have been flipping out because I party and come home at 6/7/8am. My dad actually threatened to break my legs (riiiiiiiiiight) if I kept doing it, and I WILL (I told them they'd have to put me in the hospital to stop me from going). I just got back from seeing Sasha and Ferry Corsten, got home at 6:30am, they said nothing...they'll get used to it man. If not, move out. That's what I'm planning in a year or so anyway maybe.

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Honestly, telling people to fuck themselves is a pretty childish way to handle the situtation. You have to handle the situation like an adult if you want your parents to treat you like an adult. I would ask them to sit down and listen to what you have to say.

I personally would start by stating that you are 20 years old and that the law sees you as an adult at age 18. It is true that you are living under their roof and that as your parents they gave you a LOT. One point that I would defintely bring up is how much you appreciate all of what they have done for you. If you want things your way, you have to be able to prove that you can be treated like an adult--ie making your own decisions etc. Try asking them what you can do to get that treatment from them.

If it's one of those, "you'll live by my rules under my roof" situtations, then NICELY explain to them that their rules are suffocating you and are not allowing you to become an adult. It would be the best parenting they can give you to let you become one slowly under thier roof by starting to let you make your own decisions whether they approve or not--and of course don't expect to get everything your way. Explain how important Djing is to you. If they won't let you play through speakers, or headphones, then get earplugs that let you play with the headphones at lower volumes. There are plenty of musician's earplugs--search the web.

Last of all, I would try to explain to them that if they continue to sufficate you as they are, your main objective will turn into getting out from their iron rule and being off on your own--even if you can't afford it. And once you do this, do you really think that you'll have a close loving relationship with them? Or do you think that you'll be angry, bitter and start out a very hard life regardless of how well they brought you up. Kids rebel and parents need slowly let their kids learn through their own experiences, though kids also need to keep in mind how much they really received from their parents and how to go about asking for the things that they want respectfully, as well as only asking for resonable things, things that the kids can be responsible with and things that kids have really given some thought and research to as well.

They can't deny you your life. If worse comes to worse, start researching how you can afford to live on your own. Take school loans that allow for year-round campus living. Sure you will end up with a bit of debt, but living on your own will teach you a lot of valuable lessons too, as long as you think about what you do before you do it! (Ie don't get a credit card and max it out on vinyl etc. Find a part-time or full-time job (if you don't have one already), depending on what you situation allows so that you can start to save for you own place or for school costs etc.

Let me know how it goes or if you want to talk more

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Very true dj flesch. I told my parents why I come home late, they understand it, they just think it's "abnormal" for one of "our nationality" to come home late like that. Bahahah. Ah wellz, they know why I do it, as I've explained it, so hopefully it will sink in.

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