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Originally posted by wienerschnitzel i had a really shitty night. I made an effort to go to my boyfriends staff party and and left utterly humiliated. I stayed with my boyfriend for an hour and we decided we were leaving they started making these wise ass comments about how i am a controling bitch. It was just stupid and when i went to the car feeling like crap my boyfriend told me to "let it go". He didn't stick up for me or even let me be upset for a few minutes he just grilled me about being silly for feeling upset which lead to a huge argument. Now im sad, feed me with sympathy even though i know it doesn't matter and you could care less...

There, there...

Your boyfriend was probably just caught in "the moment". Let it slide... unless he does it more than once. THEN grill his ass.

Ouch.

I say let things cool off for a bit, and let him call you.

JaY

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Sorry to hear that. One old saying: "Time heals all wounds."

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Or if you just don't have the time or are impatient (like me), just get a couple of bottles to drown your sorrows in.

There, there... it will be ok.

Seriously, sounds like there are some communication issues that you need to resolve with your bf. He must be venting about you at work, but that sucks to hear his complaints via a 3rd party. This might be hard to swallow but maybe you're controlling. If the relationship is important to you, do yourself a favor and setup an appointment with a therapist to work through your issues, instead of just brushing this under the rug and hoping it will go away, because it won't.

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edit: Oh wait i actually read the whole story now. Looks like the folks there like your bf and don't want him to leave early thus having a cheaky dig at you. The reason your bf told u to shake it off is because he knew they were kidding around and he's now wondering why you over-reacted. You now have one confused boyfriend well done.

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Last edited by smallSHEEP on Dec-22-2003 at 15:34

this sounds like a hard one to reply to b/c sounds like you had to be there to really know what happened, like who's in the right/who's in the wrong.

but if you're in a serious relationship that doesnt matter who's to blame, you have to take a few for the team. but if this is a consistant thing and he always brushes off how you feel then you should definately have a serious talk, wait till you've calmed down and talk to him about it calmly without getting emotional or being on the offense/defense.

either that or just let it go, it could have just been an ackward situation for the both of you, and neither of you really knew how to take it, so he brushed it off and you took it personally. just 2 different reactions from 2 different people, but if it does bother you then you two need to have a simple, honest, calm talk to let each other know what they feel about the situation.

communication is the most important key, share your feelings with each other if somethings bothering you. remember i said share your feelings WITH each other and not AT each other.

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Last edited by Dj Dizzy on Dec-22-2003 at 16:25

well since you are demanding sympathy from us, i guess you really are a bit controlling

on a more serious note, just ask him if he really thinks that. if he does, don't get mad, just take it as constructive criticism and try to work through it. being controlling always drives a man away and that's a fact. you gotta lighten up a bit. and this is only if you are controlling...they (his co-workers) might have just been kidding and you got defensive.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

i may be failing to see the major point (or just choosing to ignore it), but who really cares what his coworkers think (unless he's the one giving him the ideas). i'd just let it go and not waste my life being sad over what some retarded people said.

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Originally posted by Slylee on a more serious note, just ask him if he really thinks that. if he does, don't get mad, just take it as constructive criticism and try to work through it. being controlling always drives a man away and that's a fact. you gotta lighten up a bit. and this is only if you are controlling...they (his co-workers) might have just been kidding and you got defensive.

Sounds just about right. Even if you're not really controlling, you still have to be sensitive to the fact that he might have interpreted something that way. Find out what the problem was, we can't help you with that.

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Times are tough up there in Canada, eh? You should have told the folks at the party the reason you were leaving was because it SUCKS! As for your boyfriend, what a chump. He obviously doesn't give a whit about your feelings. Dump him and find someone who will stand up for you.
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