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Originally posted by enferno And tells me she doesn't want the baby. I'm not against abortion, but if it's MY child, I am sure as hell fucking against it. Now she's saying that she can do whatever she wants, and is threatening to get an abortion . . what the fuck do i do?

i think you should have a fair input into the decision. you shouldnt give it up jsut because one of you is scared. i would take a long look at reasons for keeping it or giving it up before you make that kind of choice.

Personally I think abortion is wrong and always have but the woman carries the baby for 9 months. With most marriages that I've seen this decision happen, the couple has always decided together because it's THEIR child, not just hers or his. I really have no clue about suggestions here because you say we are having it anyway, she might just get an abortion, it's a catch 22 here.

we talked for like 4 hours straight today . .

nothing . . i'm so lost

decisions like this take ages, a concensus will have to be reached at some point.

why doesn't she want it? you're a married couple

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doesn't think we are ready. we have plenty of money coming in, a house, i work full time and could support us easily . . i just don't understand

how old are you guys? that could be the reason that she doesnt think you are ready. this is a hard one. i dont know what to tell you. but she should have some respect for your decision.

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Damn man. You shouldn't of married her in the first place. That's my future plans when I'm at the age where should get married. Being single makes your life better.

You both undertook the responsibilities of sex. You knew that the only way to assure not having a baby was abstinence. If you have the means to support a child, you are morally obligated to maintain that life that you (if one of you isnt "ready" for it ((who is?))) so recklessly created. Wants and luxuries are out of the picture. Its an obligation that you both had realize was a potential and to snuff that out as it furiously divides trying to become a person because you werent quite sure that ejaculating into a woman would do this?

It sounds like you are all for it, but, and I know this is hard for a lot of women (some might be offended by this, but guys know what im talking about) because they tend to have issues when it comes to honor and obligation...but. She needs to realize the self-imposed duty that is inarguably present now. It isnt a matter of "keeping" or any of that crap. Its do you kill it. Shut off its infinite possibilities.

I guess im, again, a fossil when it comes to sexual morality, but really, this is friggin huge.

My mom was 18 when she had her first child. My dad was taking 25 credit loads of pre-med and graduated a year early after he found out...oh and he worked 2 jobs and was making house payments during all this.

It was an accident too. I gotta admit im pretty glad they didnt quit because it was going to be hard.

Kids these days...

thats tough man. good luck to you with that.

i can only think that maybe she is scared to be a mother and or having the child...just comfort her and let her know what a wonderful mother she will be...and let her know that you guys are ready...i dunno what else to say...