screw up the WHOLE relationship? Meaning when u like this girl and had sex before mutually agreeing on being bf/gf does make u feel dat she might be doing this all the time or she is easy to get? Whenever i like a girl and if we have sex too early dats it for me. Im not gonna be with her for long. People should just take things slower, nowadays we are skiping steps in a relationship i think..Always jumping into the "sex" thing before movies...chat on phone..etc...and i think the best thing in a relationship is having the tingling feeling when u see someone and heart beating like crazy when u try to go hold a girls hand for the first time, or kiss for the first time...but time has changed............

dude, i shouldnt speak,

but... those types of girls are what i call bootey calls. they turn into bootey calls. usually not girlfriend material, but there are exceptions, believe me. evaluate the whole package and then make up your mind.

>JM<

I get bored of girls sometimes when they are too easy. That all depends though.

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No.

For instance, my fiance spawned from a drunken mishap, though we were friends a while before.

The chemicals come and go, and after they fade you might realize you actually resent the person you're messing around with. It's happened to me many times...but, no worries, just enjoy that stuff while it lasts then move on when you're finished.

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Originally posted by Masonious you win again dude - and nice move shoving the whole i figured out how to order pizza thing in my face. i tried that 4 and a half months ago and woke up with a Taiwanese transvestite but to Ygrene it's just, "anoother day in the life, noooo biggieee".

I think it screws up the relationship.





But that's just what i'm saying

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Originally posted by Lephaid No. For instance, my fiance spawned from a drunken mishap, though we were friends a while before. The chemicals come and go, and after they fade you might realize you actually resent the person you're messing around with. It's happened to me many times...but, no worries, just enjoy that stuff while it lasts then move on when you're finished.

You were friends for a while before negating contradiction the the question asked. When you just meet a girl and hook up, it can be a turnoff. It's kind of unfair too, because you want it, but then it seems to cheapen it.

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Originally posted by Nite-Mer You were friends for a while before negating contradiction the the question asked. When you just meet a girl and hook up, it can be a turnoff. It's kind of unfair too, because you want it, but then it seems to cheapen it.

Well, we were friends, but we were never in a relationship. I'm almost always friends with someone before I ever mess around with them at all. We only ended up in a relationship after fucking around for a little while..

Regardless of which way you decide to order any certain acts in a relationship, the important thing is the long-term, end r.esult

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Originally posted by Masonious you win again dude - and nice move shoving the whole i figured out how to order pizza thing in my face. i tried that 4 and a half months ago and woke up with a Taiwanese transvestite but to Ygrene it's just, "anoother day in the life, noooo biggieee".

I used to think that early sex could make a difference, and now I'm much more concerned with how enjoyable spending time with someone is and the level of closeness and chemistry.

I had relationships where I've held up having sex for a while, and those where its happened first night. I must say that often when having sex with someone straight away there is a temptation to feel as though you have already climbed the mountain and its time for a another challenge, but even if you wait a while to start having sex this can also happen then.

So what I'm trying to say is that there are much bigger things that make the difference between a good relationship and a bad relationship, and if someone is really really great then you will want to see them after you have sex whether its after 1 day, 1 month or 1 year.

The problem with waiting too long to have sex is that you build up things too much and often the challenge is what keeps you interested, and it seems like an awful waste of a few months if you finally hit the spot and realise that you actually don't enjoy spending time with this person that much.

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Always jumping into the "sex" thing before ..chat on phone

definitely not.

me and my bf started having sex maybe a week after we met (and more the day we met) and we have been together 1 1/2 years and probably will be forever (i'd say we will get married but we dont believe in that). the thing that made our relationship strong was that we took the time to gain each others trust and understand each other and we didnt have to sexually frustrate ourselves in the process.

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Originally posted by Vyse I think it screws up the relationship. But that's just what i'm saying

+1

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Originally posted by töbias So what I'm trying to say is that there are much bigger things that make the difference between a good relationship and a bad relationship, and if someone is really really great then you will want to see them after you have sex whether its after 1 day, 1 month or 1 year.

very nice!

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Originally posted by butterfly definitely not. me and my bf started having sex maybe a week after we met (and more the day we met) and we have been together 1 1/2 years and probably will be forever (i'd say we will get married but we dont believe in that). the thing that made our relationship strong was that we took the time to gain each others trust and understand each other and we didnt have to sexually frustrate ourselves in the process.

its about the whole package... the person as a whole, the relationship, as well as the communication between the two and knowing how to solve relationship problems as they arise. i've been with my girl for 1 year a week from now.

>JM<