Alright, I have been on a woman power, "stick up for myself" thing lately, and well I am proud of myself and would like to share.

So as many of you heard in my relationship thread a long time ago, I had a one-night stand with some guy. Well we have been in touch recently, and I thought that I could make an attempt at being friends with him. Didn't turn out so well.

I asked him if he wanted to play a game of "literati" with me. He accepted, and I bragged about how I would win. He unfortunately couldn't get the applet to load, so I suggested we play some other time. This is what was said:

one-night stand guy:
if i win, you have to come over and have a drink with me
Theresa says:
i don't think that'll happen
Theresa says:
especially you winning
one-night stand guy:
winning is easy
one-night stand guy:
it's simply a matter of focus
one-night stand guy:
but having a drink on the other hand, that's a matter of enjoyment
Theresa says:
i don't think you're really thinking of the drink, more like what comes after the drink
one-night stand guy:
the drink tastes that much better knowing what comes after
one-night stand guy:
lol, are you even a teensy bit intrigued?
Theresa says:
honestly?
Theresa says:
not in the least
Theresa says:
i would think by now you would have realized that women don't respond well to the idea of a guy wanting her. that's all men want, we know it, no shock there. to intrigue us takes a lot more than suggesting sleeping with her
one-night stand guy:
haha
one-night stand guy:
this is true
Theresa says:
t'is indeed
one-night stand guy:
but not all women feel the same way you do.. many women feel that sex is just another thing to enjoy; same as a game of Literati, only MUCH more interactive, haha
Theresa says:
ahh it is a thing to enjoy
Theresa says:
i am no prude, not in the least
one-night stand guy:
and as for it being all men want, don't one-dimensionalize us.. very few guys honestly feel that way about women... but we make a big distinction between making love and having sex, if you know what i mean
Theresa says:
yes, i didnt generalize, and i know not all men think that way
one-night stand guy:
i enjoy having sex while i'm waiting to meet someone i'll fall in love with..
Theresa says:
did*
one-night stand guy:
now, the difference i make is being very clear with my intentions so that i never lead a girl on or leave her feeling rejected..
Theresa says:
which is very nice of you
Theresa says:
with myself, i understand that your intentions are to sleep with me, and thats about it. and to be honest "one night stand guy", it's just not my thing.
Theresa says:
it's fine that people sleep with other people because they want to enjoy sex
Theresa says:
i love sex, in fact when given the opportunity i'm a fiend, but i don't enjoy sex with someone i feel no connection with, and know has very little interest in me
Theresa says:
with you, i have tried developing some sort of connection, but it seems there is only one way and well, i can't be bothered going that way (no offence to you, because i'm sure if given the opportunity i would learn that you're a fantastic guy)
Theresa says:
i guess that's what i get for sleeping with you before. my own fault i suppose, i suggested to you with my previous actions that it takes little to get me in the sack, which in reality is very far from the truth
Theresa says:
so c'est la vie nothing lost, nothing gained



Being brutally honest like that is liberating.