Kelly (yankeeBaby) gave me the idea to start this one, forgive me if it's been done before...

There have been several "relationship" threads lately. AdReNaLiNa's and Jayx1's really pulled the heartstrings for me. I've been married for a long time and I sometimes feel guilty that it's working for me, when I see others faltering and failing

We are all amongst friends here, guys and gals.
What have you found works the best for your sex life and keeping a long and healthy relationship?

...and what would also be a "relationship killer", that you have found, to avoid at all costs?

dude, theres never a reason to feel guilty for having a good relationship. i have an amazing 3 year relationship and i feel very fortunate for that, becuase i know these types of relationships are hard to come by...when you're single its hard to pass the one month bar scene most of the time.

tips:

always show your appreciation towards each other! and make sure to give compliments when appropriate. (that just sums it up very generally in a nut shell)

sex life parts a secret

honestly - it is what happens outside the bedroom that does it for me it all leads back to the bedroom

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"For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people."

- Never go to bed mad

That one has been etched in stone for me and it works.

It's 13 years for my wifey and me (6 married + 7 together).
I can tell you that a relationship takes work.
Noone ever thought that ours would work but it does.

- Respect your partner decisions and opinions
- Listen to your partner when they need to talk (don't give advice unless they ask! Sometimes being a sounding board is all they need)
- Encourage them to do that thing they'd love to do (for my wife it was Irish Dancing and now Bass Guitar) and support them 110%.
- Have common and separate interests/goals.
- Most of all, always tell them you love them and hug daily.

Works for me...

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"...End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path...one that we all must take.
The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all change to silver glass...and then you see it...
...white shores...and beyond...the far green country under a swift sunrise."

try adding more...

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Originally posted by Fir3start3r - Respect your partner decisions and opinions - Listen to your partner when they need to talk (don't give advice unless they ask! Sometimes being a sounding board is all they need) - Encourage them to do that thing they'd love to do (for my wife it was Irish Dancing and now Bass Guitar) and support them 110%. - Have common and separate interests/goals. - Most of all, always tell them you love them and hug daily.

+1

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Originally posted by girllovingtvibe honestly - it is what happens outside the bedroom that does it for me it all leads back to the bedroom

well said!

I agree!

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"Like a song everlasting, time dances on."
"So while you struggle to catch the rhythm with your feet, ask yourself..can u really DANCE2MABEAT"

Usually a wave of my handgun does the trick












...I'm kidding, for those of you who can't take a joke

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Originally posted by VERTiG0 Usually a wave of my handgun does the trick ...I'm kidding, for those of you who can't take a joke

I don't know wether to call your timing excellent or horrible.

There's always *lots* to do in between the sheets.. Or above them.. Or on the floor.. Or against the wall.. Or against the window where the neighbors can see (kidding.. Gahh). I keep my mileage low, but those who I've shared that 'experience' with got truly and utterly spoiled. That's about all the advice I can or would give.

Devote yourself to them entirely, as the favor will be returned.

It's all about respect, Boys & Girls.

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Originally posted by zookeeper ..and what would also be a "relationship killer", that you have found, to avoid at all costs?

VD has to be high up on that list.

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Dark Dirty Tech Tribal. | Hands in air (trance) and feet on the floor (house).

Been in a long distance relationship with my fiancee since 1999...

I think what has worked for so long is just the loving way we speak to each other; we have arguments and all but we hardly yell and always say, "I love you" to each other.

I guess once we start living together things will change (have no experience with that) but I don't know if part of the reason we have been together for so long is because we've had so much time apart doing our own things...when we see eachother for the first time after a long time it's always so exciting and filled with love, and we've had that moment like 20 times in the past 6 years, so I still have that giddy feeling when I see her!

Now she's in Montreal so she's closer but it's the same thing...therefore I don't think I have *real* relationship experience (i.e. living with someone knowing they're with you for the rest of your life)...

^^^^^

too sweet.


Yeah really caring for someone/loving someone sure makes the bedroom that much better

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"Like a song everlasting, time dances on."
"So while you struggle to catch the rhythm with your feet, ask yourself..can u really DANCE2MABEAT"