Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Den Haag, Netherlands
Big problem... heeelp!!
Okay, I've got a problem here
I just broke up with my girlfriend because of several reasons:
- she lied to me about her age (She told me she was 18, but instead she's 16 )
- She had a real bad yought (Raped by her father..)
- She has almost no selfconfidence
- She is out of work and does not go to school at the moment
- We where fighting alot!
I think it's quite clear that I broke up
I told her that I wanted to be friends anyway, but the problem is whenever we go out to a club/disco it ends up we are having sex!!
(We go almost every weekend!)
For me it's okay to only have sex, but I have different feelings about it. Whenever we have sex, it's awesome (ofcourse hehe!), but the day after I feel realy bad about it.. Like I'm only using her for the sex!
And even worse is: she keeps phoning me, like we are still together!
What am I supposed to do now??
I told her several times that I don't want to go on like this, but it doesn't matter, it keeps on happening!
Advice Plzzz!!
Aug-05-2002 12:16
eXos
The Delight
Registered: Jan 2001
Location: Breathtaking!
Re: Big problem... heeelp!!
quote:
Originally posted by junis
I told her several times that I don't want to go on like this, but it doesn't matter, it keeps on happening!
Advice Plzzz!!
Wie staat hier nu sterk in z'n schoenen hé?!?!?!
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Aug-05-2002 12:43
whiskers
old skool
Registered: Sep 2001
Location: in your dreams
well, why can't you talk to her? does she understand that you're only *friends* and nothing more? prove to yourself that you didn't only use her for sex.
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Aug-05-2002 12:51
Munken
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Oct 2001
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
Solution 1: Hit her hard and say "Stop calling me, bitch" You'll lose a friend, but she won't call her.
Solution 2: This is hard, but just say no don't have sex with her.
Solution 3: Have a good talk with her and make sure she understand your just friends and stop having sex with her.
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Aug-05-2002 13:38
Arya
tranceaddict
Registered: Feb 2002
Location: Boston area, MA
stop having sex with her for one.
2- sit down and tell her exactly how you feel
Aug-05-2002 13:46
junis
Senior tranceaddict
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Den Haag, Netherlands
Well,
I think I have proven to myself that I don't use her only for sex.. But it feels that way!
I'm always there to pick up the phone if she has problems. I'm always there for her.. but it's too much imo..
Maybe the whole "friend" thing doesn't work....?
Aug-05-2002 13:46
junis
Senior tranceaddict
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Den Haag, Netherlands
quote:
Originally posted by Munken
Solution 2: This is hard, but just say no don't have sex with her.
I guess that's the way to go for me... I shouldn't follow my dick!
Aug-05-2002 13:49
whiskers
old skool
Registered: Sep 2001
Location: in your dreams
quote:
Originally posted by junis
Maybe the whole "friend" thing doesn't work....?
maybe you should reconsider your definition / understanding of the term "friend".
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Aug-05-2002 14:54
Endre
lol space music
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Space
screw the feelings mate, its puzzy, wtf are you talkin about feelings and shit? cut the crap and fukk her more.
Aug-05-2002 15:08
Spyder
Anti BS Alliance
Registered: Feb 2002
Location: Toronto CDN
quote:
Originally posted by Endre
screw the feelings mate, its puzzy, wtf are you talkin about feelings and shit? cut the crap and fukk her more.
Hense why most guys turn into Jerks, dick heads, and idiots...
If you realy want to get rid of it.. Dont start with it..
slow down... when you go to a club or disco .. whatever... try to entertain your self with other girls.. and push her towards being with other guys.. tag a friend along.. try to hook them up if it's a possibility.. but do it slowly.. you dont want her to get the idea that your shoving her off..
or you can totaly ignor her.. which would make you a bigger jerk ..
but yes.. not much more you can doo.. i think..
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Aug-05-2002 15:15
P4z!
see you in another life
Registered: Jun 2001
Location: Station 3
alright, print this pic, take it with you wherever u go, then whenever you feel like doing it with her again, take out the pic and look at it, that'll do it
Aug-05-2002 15:31
junis
Senior tranceaddict
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Den Haag, Netherlands
quote:
Originally posted by Julie_Spyder
If you realy want to get rid of it.. Dont start with it..
slow down... when you go to a club or disco .. whatever... try to entertain your self with other girls.. and push her towards being with other guys.. tag a friend along.. try to hook them up if it's a possibility.. but do it slowly.. you dont want her to get the idea that your shoving her off..
This is the kind of advice I needed! Thanks Julie!
I think it shouldn't be a problem when I don't love this girl anymore... But I still got feelings for her, that's what makes it difficult!
I even get a little jalous when she's flirting with other guy's.. Strange huh?