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This is from a book my sister bought me for my birthday...(The Action Hero's Handbook, a great book really)
How to better influence someone's behaviour
(takes a bit of time)
Step 1: Gain your subject's trust. Listen, be atttentive, don't be threatening or offensive.
Step 2: Make your subject feel safe. Make him feel comfortable, relaxed. Be friendly.
Step 3: Match your subject's tone, speech patterns and breathing. If he raises his voice, raise yours. If he lowers it, lower yours. Do this subtly, not abruptly.
Step 4: Mirror your subject's behaviour. He crosses his legs, cross yours. Use the same vocabulary he uses. If he shakes his head as he speaks, shake yours. Again, do all this subtly, not aburptly.
Step 5: Attempt to lead your subjects behaviour. Start to lead your subject's behaviour. If all goes well, you will soon see that he should be mirroring your moves, matching your tone, etc. When you are in synch with each other, you can either be confidently insisting ("Yes, I would like to see those documents"), though calm, or you could be passive, like suggesting that he/she "may feel like" showing you those documents (I'm just using the "Show me those documents" as an example). Again, all this has to be subtle. No abrupt moves or anything that could disrupt this. Don't be weird or quirky, because once they realize that they're being too suggestive, it's going to raise their awareness even more and it would be almost impossible to get them to this state again.
Another helpful hint is that people are more suggestive when they're in a heightened emotional state, like when they're excited, angry etc.
This all comes from Spencer (www.sleepnow.com).
I will try this on a chick one day 
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