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Honestly, telling people to fuck themselves is a pretty childish way to handle the situtation. You have to handle the situation like an adult if you want your parents to treat you like an adult. I would ask them to sit down and listen to what you have to say.
I personally would start by stating that you are 20 years old and that the law sees you as an adult at age 18. It is true that you are living under their roof and that as your parents they gave you a LOT. One point that I would defintely bring up is how much you appreciate all of what they have done for you. If you want things your way, you have to be able to prove that you can be treated like an adult--ie making your own decisions etc. Try asking them what you can do to get that treatment from them.
If it's one of those, "you'll live by my rules under my roof" situtations, then NICELY explain to them that their rules are suffocating you and are not allowing you to become an adult. It would be the best parenting they can give you to let you become one slowly under thier roof by starting to let you make your own decisions whether they approve or not--and of course don't expect to get everything your way. Explain how important Djing is to you. If they won't let you play through speakers, or headphones, then get earplugs that let you play with the headphones at lower volumes. There are plenty of musician's earplugs--search the web.
Last of all, I would try to explain to them that if they continue to sufficate you as they are, your main objective will turn into getting out from their iron rule and being off on your own--even if you can't afford it. And once you do this, do you really think that you'll have a close loving relationship with them? Or do you think that you'll be angry, bitter and start out a very hard life regardless of how well they brought you up. Kids rebel and parents need slowly let their kids learn through their own experiences, though kids also need to keep in mind how much they really received from their parents and how to go about asking for the things that they want respectfully, as well as only asking for resonable things, things that the kids can be responsible with and things that kids have really given some thought and research to as well.
They can't deny you your life. If worse comes to worse, start researching how you can afford to live on your own. Take school loans that allow for year-round campus living. Sure you will end up with a bit of debt, but living on your own will teach you a lot of valuable lessons too, as long as you think about what you do before you do it! (Ie don't get a credit card and max it out on vinyl etc . Find a part-time or full-time job (if you don't have one already), depending on what you situation allows so that you can start to save for you own place or for school costs etc.
Let me know how it goes or if you want to talk more 
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When you dance, the DJ takes you on a journey, but he or she is usually not the focus of your experience at a club or festival or wherever you hear the music. Dancing is. Music is.
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i have to wait soo long
