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Originally posted by mezzir i'm going to assume you've never been in a relationship where the other person means something besides the fact that she has a nice warm place to stick your dick when you get horny ....as for now, i've found the best i've ever had and i'll be damned if i'm just gonna sit and get over it in a day so pardon my french, CynepMeh, but fuck you.

Look, one other thing - I thought about it and I hate to be the ass to kick a man when he's down. So, here's my less cynical side talking:

1. If you think you're the only one who benefits from a nice clean one night stand, flirt, whatever - you got things to learn about women. Believe it or not, the up-and-comming generation of women don't need a knight in shining armor to save them on his trusty steed. They make a decent living, independent, don't want to settle down and want to have fun as much as you. Perhaps the reason why she dumped you was because you were too much of a needy person. Shit, I know I had that happen to me too many times to count.

2. Confidence is the key. Women want men that are confident. Not a "dick" type confident but a guy who has no problem hanging out with his buds or giving her some breathing room while she figures it out. Don't smother her at least for the first 6 months. I am not saying be too distant but she'll appreciate the closeness you have more if you're not smothering her. A chick that doesn't like a guy who's not needy is needy herself. If this is what you want - you can find plenty. Trust me.

3. Women are interested in guys who are interesting. If you can't have fun by yourself, she will probably be bored by you. If you can't find any decent things to like in yourself, revisit your self-evaluation, hit the gym to get some confidence, and start treating yourself to good time - it will dissolve the stick in your ass and make you that much more interesting.

4. No matter how great the woman is, there is NO SUCH THING as the ONLY one. I heard of devastating stories - person dies another one takes his/her life coz' he/she was "the one". Yet you also hear story of people that made it. Love has many faces - don't limit yourself to one possibility.

5. Cliche warning: You will find her when you will stop looking. No joke. I met my wife shortly after I stopped being desparate and looking for "someone special". With her - I was a different person. Not the same needy, insecure, or messed up dude I used to be. It made things that much more "real". When you don't pretend or try too hard you are real. Women like secrets but hate nasty surprises. Try to look back on you when you were in the relationship - you probably had the best in you. Bring it out, you don't need someone else to do it. It takes effort - sure, but brain is another muscle that can't hurt from excercise. You'll reap the benefits too.

6. Getting back together will only get you back behind the safety of your "comfort blankie". Now, drop "Tickle Me Elmo" and your Sesame street blanket and leave the house. Go out there and find shit to do. It's spring, for Chrissakes! Time to find fun stuff

7. Listen to plenty of trance and drink plenty of fluids. If you insist on not eating, at least take some vitamins - they will help with your depression. Saint John's wart won't hurt either to stabilize some of that stigma.

8. Change your routine.

See, all that advise and it's FREE! I think it very well makes up for nastiness I posted above. Sorry mate, but sad reality is as I said is hard to bear. And before you make any more sweeping generalizations - I was in one relationship for 2.5 years, another 2 years, another 1.5 another 3.5 another 1 year. Now - you tell me your sad "4 months" story and how it hurts. So, on that note I leave you with plenty of homework.

Don't get pissed at me - I just tried some shock therapy on you but obviously it didn't resonate well.

Shakespeare said it the best: "Come what come may, time and the hour runs through the roughest day."

L8r.

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