so this girl im goin out with... wow.

its her first relationship and shes so obviously new to it and it bothers me. (this is the main problem i think... shes new to everything)

not because shes not a slut but because shes nervous all the time and tends to say insensitive things... but on instant messenger shes the girl i want.

for instance yesterday im on IM and im like "im goin to hard bean open mic night (cafe) to play w/ my friend - want to come?"

shes like "cool"

im like "come by at 7:00 and then we'll leave at 7:30 and we can just talk or something until then"

her "or something "

me "something it is lol"

she comes over and we sit down on the couch and i sit right next to her (were going out so im chill) and her body language is SO NEGATIVE... arms crossed, legs crossed in a direction away from me shes leaning away a little bit (lol my breath always smells good fyis).

this is frustrating and insulting to me... (weve been going out for like 3 months so its not like im shy...)

her answers are, unlike on instant messenger, completely unsexual, constrained and vague. i hear "i dont know" "kind of" "i guess" and this sort of shit ALL THE TIME!

i find that im the one talking and she just listens but doesnt say much except maybe laugh or say "that wasnt funny"...

a 1/2 hour goes by watching tv and one of my friends arrives and we head out to the cafe.

the entire time at the cafe she sits by herself though my friends invite her to join them laughing and such but she just sits there looking peeved (i told them about her before and how shes awkward and after this time they all told me they didnt know it was "that bad".)

on the ride home its pretty quiet because im slightly mad at her but i dont let it show itself except for in lack of talking. she of course doesnt offer any verbalization... i talk with my friend whos in the back seat and she just stares ahead... we get to her house and shes gone.

now this is how it goes... then ill talk to her on IM and she'll be suggestive as hell, talkative as hell, funny and cute.

im confused, sad, and thinking about breaking up with her because i dont want to get hurt like this.

thoughts? trying to get as many opinions as i can.

in replies plz be serious

or at least very funny

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