Hello all,

once again it is me with prbs. wow that is a shock, i have realized that i am over my ex-gf and by best friend being togather, but yet an other bump in the road has risin their is this one girl that i really like her name is jennifer and she is a cheerleader. but my delema is that i don't know if she too likes me, and if she does how do i make her see me as a person that doesn't want to hurt her like every other guy has? she has that cute small cheerleader body and probally what i think is the best physical feature about her is her nose, not normal, comes to a point at the end, not a hedious point, just a cute one. i am not intrested in a "quick lay" or anything like that, what i want is someone that i can talk to and make her feel special. i know that i am probally rambeling on about shit that doesn't matter, but that is what i do, i find the answers to my problems through telling other people, and you guys are the most helpful and accepting group of them that i know. back to her, what has happened to her in the past is that guys will tell her that she means something to them just so that they can "get some" that isn't me. i want her to know that their are people that care about her for who she is deep inside and not just outward apperience, sure she is hot as fuck, but that isn't what i am after or what i am about. so how do i go about this, i know that you guys will have some kind of answer for me but thankx again for helping me through this shitty time in my life.

much thankx,
Johnny

well johnny there really is no polite way to tell a girl you want to like her for who she is and not just a lay ....

the best way (i would guess) would be just to talk to her in the hallways and stuff.... just act like a friend first. Let her get to know you, then make the moves. That's what i guess i would do.

Then again i am not the best person to ask, i haven't had to play the pursuer role in years!

-ABT-

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Peace.

ya just go out and do stuff & have fun together

i think i kinda know what u're talking about, 'cos i feel like i'm in a similar thing right now

i'm on holidays & haven't had much to do other than ask her out for dinner/movies/cafe/city/breakfast/lunch/art gallery/afternoon in the park/icecream etc.

just share some fun times have a good chat as often as you can & just enjoy each other's company

hmm, yeah i'm prolly not best person to say either...'cos this is like my first relationship 'n i'm like 23 LOL

anyway, i really wish you all the best!

good-luck Johnny!!!

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personally

don't beat around the bush...just TELL her how you feel as SINCERE as possible and get it over it!
cuz if you don't, some slacker is gonna come along and pick her up with some cheesy line

best way is the direct way
don't play games and just say it like it is.
No use in going around in circles, cuz that only wastes time ...and damn is time very precious

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huffin n puffin from f'en joggin after like a 2 week period of sitting down all day killz an ol man like me! *sigh*

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Dude you guys rock, how in the fuck do you people know how to handle all this shit? it is great thankx a lot, and mor advice would be great. i'll keep ya posted.

Johnny

p.s. I LIKE JENNIFER

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Originally posted by ABTsportsline well johnny there really is no polite way to tell a girl you want to like her for who she is and not just a lay .... the best way (i would guess) would be just to talk to her in the hallways and stuff.... just act like a friend first. Let her get to know you, then make the moves. That's what i guess i would do. Then again i am not the best person to ask, i haven't had to play the pursuer role in years! -ABT-

i totally agree with ABT, and i can relate to ABT as well....it's all about the confidence and how u carry yourself.....

just talk to her, if she's interested in a good way, she will be willing to get to know you back....if not, move on or try harder

>JM<

ps. ABT is one hella of a smart guy...he gives nothing but quality advice, so it wouldn't hurt to listen to him

how do i know that??? well cos i feel the same way as he does about many topics here (and i'm smart too), but he beats me to the reply, so i can only support his claims....

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Originally posted by Laun19 Dude you guys rock, how in the fuck do you people know how to handle all this shit? it is great thankx a lot, and mor advice would be great. i'll keep ya posted. Johnny p.s. I LIKE JENNIFER

a little bit of life experience, a little bit of getting screwed over by a few peepz...(and learning from that and my and others mistakes, mainly from others mistakes though)

live and learn!!!!

good luck to you in your girl pursuits

>JM<

WOW!!!
I HAVE AN IDEA!!!!

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but my delema is that i don't know if she too likes me, and if she does how do i make her see me as a person that doesn't want to hurt her like every other guy has?

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what has happened to her in the past is that guys will tell her that she means something to them just so that they can "get some" that isn't me. i want her to know that their are people that care about her for who she is deep inside and not just outward apperience, sure she is hot as fuck, but that isn't what i am after or what i am about

Mate, you need to have her see this thread!! If she's smart (and romantic) it WILL make her think
So, if she's "plugged" to i-net she needs somehow receive url of this page...accidently...otherwise (once again, if she's smart ) she will think u did it all on purpose...so no walks in the evenings...
If u have friend who know well both of you (and he also "plugged") he can arrange it .
Good luck!
P.S. Trust me, I know it will help

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Originally posted by lMIlk hi im just visiting don't mind me

Hm? Is it some kind of museum?

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Originally posted by ABTsportsline well johnny there really is no polite way to tell a girl you want to like her for who she is and not just a lay .... the best way (i would guess) would be just to talk to her in the hallways and stuff.... just act like a friend first. Let her get to know you, then make the moves. That's what i guess i would do. Then again i am not the best person to ask, i haven't had to play the pursuer role in years! -ABT-

ya Robby was gonna say the same thing damn, u were first
Johnny just show her that your not just an ordinary guy who she thinks you are, show her that your her friend
and Cosmo's idea is kind of cool

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Losers always whine about their best. Winners go home & fuck the prom queen! - John Mason (Sean Connery), The Rock (1996)

Not reeeally what I wanted to say, I just thought that fit somehow...

To be honest though she'll like you if:
a) you listen to her (you don't have to say much; she'll think you're a good listener)
b) you're not chicken to go out of your way, even just to say, "Hi!"
c) play it slow; you'll know the right time, believe me. (Warning: to some this may seem like a lifetime of waiting, but it'll be WORTH it, trust me on this one).
Best of luck!

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