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Here is an expansion on what I wrote in the OP. Thanks for making this thread. You really shouldn't have, but I guess it might get more participants if it's a fresh thread.
Here are 8 points I use to evaluate the people we're focusing on. I think these are a good way for anyone on either side to better understand why each side is like that.
- Exposure to an idea or viewpoint for so long that the alternative never even crossed their minds or that they couldn't even come up with an alternative if you asked them.
- How much the individual truly values conformity over individuality, even if they explicitly, and vehemently state the opposite in every conversation about the topic that they have.
- Their ability to 'entertain a thought without accepting it.'
- Their willingness to think about, investigate, and discuss issues that are: uncomfortable (for any reason, even it makes them uncomfortable with themselves), confusing and difficult to understand for them, embarrassing, disturbing, emotional, unknown, or dangerous.
- Ability to calmly and rationally communicate or socialize with people who openly disagree with and/or actively oppose the issues that they openly agree with and/or actively support, even if the degree of disagreement and/or opposition is relatively harmless or minor.
- How easy it is to get a rise out of their emotions with words alone.
- Do they trust others too much? Do they honestly believe that a smiling face from someone in the same community, the same ethnicity, the same background, the same age bracket, the same level of education, the same gender, or who has any other combination of superficial similarities -- would never lie to them, so they have no reason to even think about whether or not something is right or wrong, since it obviously must be right by default? Do they believe that they should agree with someone just because that someone looks, talks, or acts like them?
- Do they ever sit back and just think about things to better understand themselves, others, and life in general? Do they ever think about complicated things in their spare time, like what's out there, or what does it all really mean? Or do they get bored easily and are unable to entertain themselves without something to interact with?
All of these things are good ways to evaluate how ignorant, stubborn and unwilling to change a person is. Ignorance isn't a bad thing, mind you. We're all ignorant about many things, even the most intelligent and educated amongst us. It's not a bad word. Being able to admit you're ignorant on something is a good thing. Not being able to is what's bad. The stubborn and unwilling to change parts are bad. Stubborn people are difficult to even begin reasoning with because if you're not talking about what they want to hear, they're not going to listen to you. People who are unwilling to change are even worse, because you know they understand what you're saying, and you have the feeling that they should at the very least start seeing things differently, but they outright refuse to. Point blank. They also won't justify themselves than you because they feel they don't have to.
How many of us are willing to change our ideas on things if we are presented with a logical, well-written or well spoken argument against it that is so exhaustively composed that we're unable to disprove even a single point within it no matter how much we concentrate on it? That's basically the definition of someone being right, and you being wrong. You can't prove them wrong because -- it's literally impossible to do so logically.
How many of us are willing to continue holding on to our ideas simply because we've always held those beliefs (or because we're too proud to be proven wrong, or are scared of being embarrassed and exposed) even if we acknowledge that the opposition is, in fact, right?
It makes sense. You believed something your entire life. For as long as you could possibly remember, you and everyone around you (the people you love, the people you had children with, the people who care about you, unlike... this stranger trying to change your mind) held this belief. You encounter an extremely powerful argument against it and it shatters what you've known and loved for your entire life. Many people would rather just not let that happen -- even if we know we're wrong, we have so many people on our side, that it doesn't matter. Why would we give it up now? What's the benefit? Satisfying some intellectual's ego because he got us to finally admit that we were wrong? We'd rather be wrong and happy than right and depressed!
How many of us out there won't ever acknowledge that the opposition could be right, whether publicly or privately in our homes, or even more privately in our minds only? Even worse, how many people are out there who actually can't ever acknowledge or actively deny acknowledging the merit of their opposition's arguments and truly believe that the people against them are wrong because they're literally unable to even entertain a contrary viewpoint after all this time or simply because they don't, and never will have mental ability to do so even if they wanted to?
This is a tough subject. It's complex, but I am trying my best to understand these people, even if they don't care to ever understand me. Why do I feel the need to write all of this up, why do I feel the need to understand them, and why do I even care so goddamn much, you might ask? Simple: because these people, in my mind, can also be called most people, and I think it's good to understand those who surround me in my day to day life.
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