I have two personality traits which affect my daily life as both a blessing and a curse: indecisiveness and indifference. I figure that there are probably others in this situation (and, obviously, plenty who are the polar opposite of that), so I'm opening it up for discussion.

Indecisiveness:

When I say that I'm indecisive, I'm not simply referring to "What shirt should I wear today?" or "Should I use this font or that font?" (though, these trivialities are also a common recurrence... I often find that I must "order under pressure" when at a restaurant, as the waiter/waitress stands waiting for my order, rather than deciding what I want ahead of time).

I'm talking about much more "bigger picture" issues. As an example, I can't decide where I stand on the U.S. second amendment issue. Part of me can't help but think that gun tolerance only leads to more death and violent crime, and yet another part of me can't help but think that "a dead offender is better than a repeat offender" (in the instance of a serial killer or rapist, for example). I'm not trying to turn this into a discussion about that topic in particular, I just felt that it provided an adequate example.

Indifference:

There are a lot of things which I just flat out don't give a crap about. Going back to a restaurant example, if a server brings me a steak that is well done and I asked for medium rare, I'll just eat it. If someone says something that isn't in line with what I believe in, meh. If someone does something to offend me, meh.

I think there is a lot to be said about my level of tolerance (and I don't think I want to change that, necessarily), but it's undeniable that it can easily lead to being a doormat. This was a large part of the failure of my marriage (since she was incredibly selfish and opinionated... the polar opposite of me). I also don't mean to make this a relationship thread, as I am in a fantastic one now... again, just an example.




It's annoying, because it's not that I don't have any passion or thoughts regarding anything ever. I just always have a tendency to be a "middle man". Does this make me wishy-washy? It's not that I don't want to have an opinion on anything, it's just that I am "too willing" to accept the other side of the coin. Too often, both sides of an argument make sense to me.

At the same time, I like it, because I don't like the typical American stereotype of being an ignorant sheep that blindly follows a line of thinking simply for the sake of it. But, is there a point where one can be "too fair"?

edit -- this also isn't to say that I'm not passionate about anything, or have no opinions ever. This is just a constant, daily recurrence with me.