well i was beaten and verbally abused and... i am perfectly fine right now but i think that im fine becuase im a good person and not becuase i was beaten. i dont think i learned anything better becuase i was smacked around and cussed out so i think that form of punishment is primitive. i am 19 years old so i still remember things that i went though pretty well and its a bit scarring if you ask me. its probably different for different people but i will never lay a hand on my kids when i have some... i am going to make them understand what they did wrong instead of beating it into them and then making them hate me or be scared of me.

I disagree. Raising children in such a manner teaches them that violence is a good way to solve problems - it teaches them that might makes right. This might be the easy way to correct behavioral problems in the short term, but in the long run, it could potentially cause far more severe ones.

Of course, it's effectiveness and the associated risks are relative to the personality of the individual child, but as a general rule, I suspect it is an inadvisable mode of operation.

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Originally posted by Arbiter This might be the easy way to correct behavioral problems in the short term, but in the long run, it could potentially cause far more severe ones.

well said : )

Two of my uncle's who are 30 and 32 are still mad at my grandmother for when she beat them when they were younger...shows how much getting beaten sticks in your head. I think my grandmother would hit them with a belt if they did something wrong.

IMO beating kids is really wrong, it may get them to stop doing things but it teaches them violence. There are always other methods for discipline its just that most take time and patience and thats why a lot of parents resort to hitting.

i got a spanking when i did something bad...
i look at kids nowadays... they're carrying guns to school!
fuck, when i was a kid, the only thing i would be sneaking into class was hot wheels

sure some parents take things a little too far

but i look at my little brothers, they get away with shitloads compared to what i endured
my little brother is failing out of high school and shit and he is still walking free
fuck, if that were me i'd be grounded and shit for a long time

i'll be walking down the street and some little 13 year old will start trying to fight me, normally, you'd beat the shit outta him, but nowadays i have to stop and think, "should i? this kid could have a knife or a gun?"

bastards

i say give your kids a spank and send em to their room!

you have to teach them discipline at a young age
none of this, "you did a bad thing! now go have some ice cream and think about what you did"
they need to learn if they do something bad, there will be consequences

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and on top of it, i think the young offenders act should be abolished
if you want to commit a crime like an adult, you'll be tried as one

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its true that kids get more violent but i think it has to do with other factors like... media or soemthing. not that its the medias fault but mostly parents fault. theres definitely something that the parents did wrong but its not having to do with methods of punishment when it comes to guns and violence... imo that has to do with the way parents communicate values to their kids.

i used to do martial arts (hapkido) and the master gave us a lot of discipline. It has really helped me be more humble and disciplined. I was usually punched or hit if i didnt have correct manners and such.

i had no violence from my parents and i turned out a good person.

I think kids these days need a whopping

i think a balance can be achieved, my cousins got beaten badly (blood noses and the sort) now that was bad and wrong. Me if i did somthing Really bad I usually got a slap, but most of the time it was just lectures and yelling. It shouldnt be about inflicting pain, just teaching a lesson.
you sometimes see kids that are way out of control and somthing as simple as a slap can be a lesson he needs, and when i mean slap i dont mean a mike tyson right hook, just a jesture to show that what they done is bad and your very unhappy with them, so its more mental than physical.

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been beaten before, not with a belt or anything
just a couple punches here and there...
its an asian thing hahaha..honestly

kids need discipline. some kinds of discipline cannot be
taught with just "grounding" <-- that shizaa never works
why cant kids just be good.

HOWEVER, i dont think parents should EVER fucking slap a child
regardless of the pain, its just so devastating emotionally/ psychologically for the child. its so humiliating and condescending i hate that feeling.

i called my mother a bitch in 4th grade, in her face.heh
she tried to smack me, i ran for the door, she grabbed whatever was in front of her at the moment and threw it. it hit me on my thigh left me a delicious looking purple bruise for weeks.
did i deserve it? i dont know, she is a snatch.

i'm all for beatings. i was beaten hardcore as a kid, and now, i really do appreciate them. plus they make fun stories to share with your friends, =P. seriously though, its so sad these days. even asian families are starting this "positive reinforcement" crap. every chinese kid should know and fear the words "gai mo so", but its not the case anymore.

i don't think beatings teach kids violence. they're too young to understand anything else. beatings are all part of conditioning, associating pain with being bad. rewarding your kids with cookies might keep them from playing with the stove, but nothing teaches a better lesson than a good burn. that's just a very stupid extreme case, and i'm using it as an analogy to the whole beating issue.

kids these days are spoiled. they get rewarded for cleaning their rooms. i think think they should get beaten for NOT cleaning their rooms. kids need to be punished for the bad, and rewarded for the good, NOT rewarded for things they SHOULD do. i was reading an article about the increase in add and bipolar disorder a while ago. while some kids may genuinely have a mental problem, a lot of the times its just kids behaving badly. i believe there's a correlation between the decline in beatings and the increase in such problem children.

kids have no respect for authority anymore. they talk back, even swear at their parents. parents are losing control, and it all starts at a young age with beatings. when the child is old enough to be reasoned with, then the beatings should stop and words whould be used so that they will not learn to solve problems with violence.

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Originally posted by miss_e i called my mother a bitch in 4th grade, in her face.heh she tried to smack me, i ran for the door, she grabbed whatever was in front of her at the moment and threw it. it hit me on my thigh left me a delicious looking purple bruise for weeks. did i deserve it? i dont know, she is a snatch.

hahaha... see? beatings make fun stories later in life..

man.. i could never run from my mom. i only tried once, and i failed horribly. then i got double beats for running, hahaha.

another funny story is when my brother got beats, i'd always start cracking up... then my mom would wipe the smile off my face pretty quick, =P. ow...

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