If you meet a guy that you find attractive, both physically and personality wise, does it matter if he has a kid from a previous relationship?

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yes.

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Originally posted by butterfly yes.

why?

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yes.

Let me re-phrase the question. Is that grounds for you not to persue a further relationship with him?

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Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC why?

because you are not only getting into a relationship with the guy but his kid as well cause his love will always go to the kid but not necessarily you. and it is just more complicated.

I agree. Yes it matters. That girl that he had the kid with, will never be out of his life. Never. It will ultimately cause problems. And the bond between father and son is strong.

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Originally posted by anuneventrade I agree. Yes it matters. That girl that he had the kid with, will never be out of his life. Never. It will ultimately cause problems. And the bond between father and son is strong.

So basically, if I'm understanding you correctly, you are insinuating that a guy who has a child with another woman will ultimately end up single probably for the rest of his life?

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Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC So basically, if I'm understanding you correctly, you are insinuating that a guy who has a child with another woman will ultimately end up single probably for the rest of his life?

not at all. there are just more hurdles to overcome in meeting someone.

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Originally posted by BitchBoyNYC So basically, if I'm understanding you correctly, you are insinuating that a guy who has a child with another woman will ultimately end up single probably for the rest of his life?

Nope. I'm saying (as did butterfly) that it will ultimately harder.

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Originally posted by butterfly not at all. there are just more hurdles to overcome in meeting someone.

Hurdle (hûr`dl):
1: a light movable barrier that competitors must leap over in certain races
2: an obstacle that you are expected to overcome; "the last hurdle before graduation"
3: the act of vaulting [syn: vault] v : jump a hurdle
4: a remote, dark location resistant to sound travel, such as an insulated coat closet, used to conceal small children, ex-partners, farm animals, and other potential obstacles to a current or future long-term relationship. Often consists of a locking mechanism. "quick! Hide in that hurdle before my husband walks in!"


I kid, I kid...

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i think it depeneds on where you are in your life-

taking on a relationship is one thing
and you often feel obligated to do things for "him"


or her

but his child? well then you would still feel obligated no?
i mean just out of respect?


so youll need to ask yourself
can you
A) seperate your self from getting involved to that depth and do it politely
B) do you want the stress of a child about you?