I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. Everything has been absolutely great. I thought this relationship would eventually come to it's ultimate conclusion: marriage. Then out of the blue, this friday, she tells me that she doesn't love me anymore and that's it's all over.

I always knew that girls were beyond my understanding(and probably beyond every guy's understanding), but how can something like this happen? I mean can you just wake up one morning and realize that you don't love someone anymore?

After this, how the hell can I even think of going into a new relationship knowing that one day something like this could happen again! I guess I'll just have to stay out any long term(or even short term) relationships for a while, until my confusion, anger and of course feelings for my ex-girlfriend are completely gone(if that's even possible).

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Originally posted by Durafei I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. Everything has been absolutely great. I thought this relationship would eventually come to it's ultimate conclusion: marriage. Then out of the blue, this friday, she tells me that she doesn't love me anymore and that's it's all over. I always knew that girls were beyond my understanding(and probably beyond every guy's understanding), but how can something like this happen? I mean can you just wake up one morning and realize that you don't love someone anymore? After this, how the hell can I even think of going into a new relationship knowing that one day something like this could happen again! I guess I'll just have to stay out any long term(or even short term) relationships for a while, until my confusion, anger and of course feelings for my ex-girlfriend are completely gone(if that's even possible).

dude, I feel sorry about you.... I know how it feels cause I broke long time ago in high school with a girl that I thought she may be the one.....

now, I have a new gf and we kind of have 'open' relationship since both us are kind of not sure about serious relationship that might brakes us apart......

Durafei,

Women are all screwed up these days; they just don't know whether they're coming or going..

The way I like to think about it is: If there isn't a ring on my finger then its all fair game. Lots of fish in the sea, especially here in Toronto.

I never put all my cards on the table for no girl anymore, its just not worth the pain after things don't work out. Always make sure you have options; when the girl knows you have options she won't be lookin anywhere else..

Thats my simplified theory on "women" these days,

itikia

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Originally posted by Durafei I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years. Everything has been absolutely great. I thought this relationship would eventually come to it's ultimate conclusion: marriage. Then out of the blue, this friday, she tells me that she doesn't love me anymore and that's it's all over. I always knew that girls were beyond my understanding(and probably beyond every guy's understanding), but how can something like this happen? I mean can you just wake up one morning and realize that you don't love someone anymore? After this, how the hell can I even think of going into a new relationship knowing that one day something like this could happen again! I guess I'll just have to stay out any long term(or even short term) relationships for a while, until my confusion, anger and of course feelings for my ex-girlfriend are completely gone(if that's even possible).

Thats the way life is man...I doubt that she woke up one day and realized she doesn't love you. It was probably on her mind a lot, and unfortunately that's the realization she came to. I know how you feel man, and I know how much it can hurt. Don't think about other relationships at the moment...you just came out of one. Move on, get yourself back together, and sooner or later, you yourself will realize when you can get into a relationship again. Don't think about what happend in a previous relationship...its not fair to the person you might be dating, making them pay for someone else's mistakes. And don't worry, your feelings for her will fade away, heh, they always do...they just need time. And believe me, I've been told this by someone else a while ago, the next person will be even better...and it's true. Heh.

Hang in there man, life may seem pointless now, but it ain't...at least you got music

I feel bad for the fact that your gf did that to you Durafel, no guy needs to be done that unless they have done something really bad to a girl or she is just fucking around, which makes me think they are sometimes worse than guys (or at least can be).

I am sure that eventually, once the pain is gone you'll meet the one for you one day without even knowing your heart will start living and pumping love again. For now all I can tell you is don't be like all other worthless guys who think that just because one girl did this to them they can do it to all of the rest that come their way, let it rest for now.
I wonder if she just might've had accumulated feelings about things you guys never talked about that bothered both of you, obviously mostly her.


As for you Itikia, Don't generalize. Not all girls are players and some of us do stay with one guy and one guy only. And your theory might work on "some women" but not all. Others might see this as mecha said, an open relationship and be fair and do the same thing, have options. All I've got to say is do to others as you want done to you.

Infinity High>> Well Said! It's all true--next person is always better. Never look back.
TranceKitten

Last edited by TranceKitten on Sep-23-2002 at 17:38

Thanks SO much for your support! It really means a lot. This is the first time(and hopefully the last) in my life that I'm going through this - so it's especially difficult.

Hopefully tomorrow will be better !

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Tomorrow is always better!!!!!

Ciao!!!

Durafei,

That sucks man. Don't try and riddel out her reasons. If she didn't tell you it's probably cuz her reasons stink. Deep breath and find the GOOD one. Not to knock around someone I don't know. She maybe really nice, pleasant and all that, but how nice can she be if she just drops a bomb like that and walks. Better to find out now, while your bank account still has just your name on it...

Hey! Now you can hunt with the rest when you hit the clubs... shit, more competition... ah well, TO's a big jungle.

Cheers,
Fats

LOL....For some reason I get the feeling that everyone here is hunting...is that so??

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sorry to hear about that dude! I know excatly how you feel! I bet you she will come back running back to you in a year or so realizing how stupid she was to do what she did, but I bet you it's gonna be too late!

In the mean while cheer up there is always trance and puzir a.k.a. vodyara a.k.a. 50% spirt/50% voda!

Hang in there! Things will get better they always do!

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Originally posted by TranceKitten All I've got to say is do to others as you want done to you. TranceKitten

Agreed! Those are words to live by.

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Originally posted by TranceKitten LOL....For some reason I get the feeling that everyone here is hunting...is that so??

In a way ya. But not necessarily in the negative way you may think.