We see a lot of posts from people who don't go out because they do not want to go alone. Sometimes there's a show you really want to see but don't have anyone to go with. Your buddies might be out of town or your friends would rather go to a bar or hip hop club.
Our advice from TA is:
If you really want to go, then suck it and
Just go alone.
There is no shame. Most of us do it.
There are several benefits:
1. You play by your own rules. You go when you want, come home when you want. You aren't dragged out of the club at the peak because someone has to wake up early or they "just don't feel like staying." Or if you're ready to go home, you don't have to stay for anyone else.
2. It allows you to places you normally wouldn't. Go to underground clubs, small venues, and large events all over the place so long as you handle yourself well and stay safe.
3. You meet new people. You don't have that safety blanket of always hanging out with, and talking to the same people. Most people clubbing will be on a similar wavelength. We're all here because we love the music and the people.
Disadvantages:
1. If you booze heavily or abuse (not just use) drugs you may not have someone to stand by you. I once forgot my way home and wandered around Times Square till I could get my bearings straight.
2. If you have to commute through unsafe neighborhoods at odd hours you gotta play extra safe. (Then just do what I do: party till the sun comes out.)
3. If you're the type who's likely to get into a fight, then, well, it's unlikely that someone will have your back.
It's tough at first but do this a couple of times and you'll start seeing the same people more frequently. Don't stick only to the larger venues like Crobar or Spirit. It's unlikely you'll get to know anyone well. I got to know most TAs by talking to them at smaller places like Table 50. When I moved to NYC, for six months I didn't go clubbing because I didn't have anyone else to go with. Then one day, I just sucked it up and started going alone. Some nights sucked, but some were great because you felt completely free in an environment that allows you to be yourself.
Aight, that's it for now. Please feel free to add or comment. Go out, have fun, stay safe.
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Jan-22-2006 04:04
reddog4063
Retired
Registered: Jul 2004
Location: SITA #1
Great advice man!
Years ago I started by going out to events alone and now I can pretty much walk in anywhere and atleast know someone there, pretty much thanks to the things you said.
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Jan-22-2006 04:24
DeRangedMind
Supreme Houseaddict
Registered: Jun 2004
Location: Northern Va
Yea I been going clubbing alone since 1999 and it always been great because when you find someone to leave with (chicks) and your friends don't have to be left behind. Also I have no friends down here. My only problem is roadtripping alone. Thats kinda of scary but I gotta get use to it since people in VA suck
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Jan-22-2006 05:08
EliPsE
Gabi Diva
Registered: Jul 2002
Location: North Jersey
going solo is great cuz yes it forces you to meet new ppl, as long as you aren't an anti-social fool. I've been doing it for yrs now and since then i have met alot of ppl that im good friends with now.
Originally posted by EliPsE
going solo is great cuz yes it forces you to meet new ppl, as long as you aren't an anti-social fool. I've been doing it for yrs now and since then i have met alot of ppl that im good friends with now.
Hehe I met the coolest people Vtec and DanceFever. Also whats Dark Trance Alliance ?????
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Current jamming to these Top 5
1.The Grower feat Corey Andrew - Move Your Body (Jesse Garcia Remix)
2.Carl Kennedy - The Love You Bring Me - (Roger's S-Man Vocal Edit)
3.Louie Vega & Jay Sinister Seal feat. Julie McKnight - Diamond Life (Accapella)
4.Offer Nissim feat Maya - Perfect Love(Offer Nissim Perfect Club Mix)
5.DJ Brizi feat Selma Hernandes - Remedios (Relight Orchestra Remix)
Jan-22-2006 06:14
fr0st
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Brooklyn NY
Girls should not go clubbing alone its very dangerous IMO. Sober or intoxicated girls are easy targets.
Coming home from zabiela at cielo last time here was here. Someone following me and my friend catherine down 14th street for about a block at which point i noticed him and we ran across the street and jumped in the subway. The city is a dangerous place at 4-6am people shouldnt forget that.
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Jan-22-2006 09:03
vtec junkie
slave to the dark beat
Registered: Oct 2002
Location: In the zone, chief
quote:
Originally posted by fr0st
Girls should not go clubbing alone its very dangerous IMO. Sober or intoxicated girls are easy targets.
Coming home from zabiela at cielo last time here was here. Someone following me and my friend catherine down 14th street for about a block at which point i noticed him and we ran across the street and jumped in the subway. The city is a dangerous place at 4-6am people shouldnt forget that.
I remember when that happened....crazy. NYC I would say is safer than DC at night. The people aroung Glow at 4am are fucking scary....especially if you're a chick. I remember a few years ago when a friend of mine called me around 4am totally freaing out because a bum was trying to break into her car when she was sleeping in it......I called everybody I knew that was @ Glow that night to send security out to her car......scary shit.
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Jan-22-2006 11:13
LuNaSeA
presque rien
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Madison, Wisconsin
i like to go solo clubbing as well and i just think chicks should be very vigilant about it- i've had my fair share of sketchy incidents, including one in DC lol. some one-eyed crazy ass tall mofo was following us around saying that he's gonna slash my tires if i dont pay him for parking there (on the street mind you). i just ignored him, nothing happened (luckily). i also think DC (well, the area around glow) is fucking sketchdonkulous in the wee hours of the night.
another time some guy trying to pose as NYPD (not in uniform, what an idiot) was trying to talk to me. he was asking me my name, where i'm going, if he could walk me to my car.. he was just nuts. it was like 6am and i had an indian vegetable pastie with me so i just gave it to him and said "caring is sharing, BYE!" and ran across the street. skeeeeeeetch. goddamn.
anyway, a few years ago i started to carry mace just to be safe. and i usually walk with it in my hands on the street. but @ spirit one night security was doing the regular search and they made me give it up. so now i use something else:
Originally posted by LuNaSeA
i like to go solo clubbing as well and i just think chicks should be very vigilant about it- i've had my fair share of sketchy incidents, including one in DC lol. some one-eyed crazy ass tall mofo was following us around saying that he's gonna slash my tires if i dont pay him for parking there (on the street mind you). i just ignored him, nothing happened (luckily). i also think DC (well, the area around glow) is fucking sketchdonkulous in the wee hours of the night.
another time some guy trying to pose as NYPD (not in uniform, what an idiot) was trying to talk to me. he was asking me my name, where i'm going, if he could walk me to my car.. he was just nuts. it was like 6am and i had an indian vegetable pastie with me so i just gave it to him and said "caring is sharing, BYE!" and ran across the street. skeeeeeeetch. goddamn.
anyway, a few years ago i started to carry mace just to be safe. and i usually walk with it in my hands on the street. but @ spirit one night security was doing the regular search and they made me give it up. so now i use something else:
turns into this:
Haha nice brass nuckles
Jan-22-2006 16:18
LuNaSeA
presque rien
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Madison, Wisconsin
quote:
Originally posted by Thero40
Haha nice brass nuckles
Originally posted by LuNaSeA
they're sterling silver thank you very much..
Do they also come in gold?
Jan-22-2006 16:35
brinboston
tranceaddict
Registered: Mar 2004
Location: Toronto<->Boston<->NYC
sup everyone.....
i'm originally from toronto, just moved down to jersey city from boston 2 weeks ago. funny that someone made a thread on this....
i don't really know anyone down here and am debating whether to venture out to NYC one of these weekends. what are some decent places to go to? i was thinking AVB next weekend, but i did enough of the 'packed like sardines' clubbing back at the guvernment in toronto so i would prefer a more intimate venue with great music and great ppl. like sid says, since the city is not the safest place people ought to party till the sun comes up if they go by themselves. i rarely pop anymore and i just can't party till 7am without doing that... and i don't want to wander around the city now knowing where i'm going at 4am.
and while i don't get completely fucked up, i think its still nice to have someone get your back in case someone else starts shit and something goes down.... and i'm not the type to start fights.
any suggestions for a former TOTA?
thanks..
-bri
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Jan-22-2006 16:53
LuNaSeA
presque rien
Registered: Apr 2002
Location: Madison, Wisconsin
quote:
Originally posted by Thero40
Do they also come in gold?
i would suggest checking out the NYC visitor's thread for names/info/locations of smaller venues with great music that you may be interested in...top of my list are (keep in mind smaller venues don't play trance..)
sullivan room
cielo!!!!!
any Robots events (they're usually at Canal Room or Cielo)
Bed is also a smaller venue (on top of spirit..james holden will play here next weekend!)
and the infamous future progression loft parties in park slope brooklyn (there was 1 last night, it's usually a monthly thang.)
Registered: Dec 2003
Location: the county of kings..ny
yea going clubbing alone is not a bad thing
you deff meet people tranceaddicts and stuff
and you dont gotta worry about your friends wanting to leave early cause they are bored and shit
but yea girls deff have to watch out especially by like spirit and crobar i remember like a year ago a girl was followed to her car and was almost raped
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