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| quote: | Originally posted by Floorfiller
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Okay, well it's like this.
I had a huge realization a while ago that my last relationship was everything that I wanted a relationship I was in not to be. I established too early in the relationship that I was going to be the 'nice guy' who would go out of his way to do nice things, treat her really well, etc ... and it only led to this bullshit where things were expected and, when I didn't do all these wonderful things it meant that I was being an asshole or didn't care any more or some shit. Also the shit about getting walked all over, yeah that was there too. I also proceeded to learn that this girl was a raging, controlling psycho, but it all pretty much hit me at once. Thanks to some people I realized that I'm a pretty fucking good person to be with and a woman should be lucky to be with me, and I shouldn't treat it the other way around, like I'm sooo lucky to be with you that I should walk on egg shells and do everything for you and make it easy.
I can give one example of this. I was out at a block party a few weekends ago and (mind you I had a few beers by this point) I just felt this confidence that I hadn't really had before, sober or not. I approached a girl who I normally never would've talked to and totally took control of the situation. I got her laughing, made her smile, and I was totally in. I just flat out said "I'm taking you out next weekend" and she was totally all about it. And the thing was, I never had any intention of actually taking her out because I was out in another city. And I know you might say "Oh, well you only did it because you were drunk and weren't worried about the consequences," but in all honesty it's something I wouldn't have done before. I was too big of a fucking pussy around women and I always believed that I would be lucky to find an attractive, intelligent, etc ... woman. When I bought into the philosophy that they were lucky to have me, it completely changed.
Fucking damndest thing happened too, I actually ended up running into her the next weekend out at another club and she asked me why I hadn't called her to take her out  Busted!
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