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If you can't think of a way to control your kids without resorting to violence, you probably shouldn't be having kids in the first place. Smacking a kid isn't going to help that kid grow up to become a functional member of society, it will take years of actual committed "parenting" (hah, fancy that!) to acheive this result. Smacking a kid doesn't teach the kid anything about why what he did was "wrong", it just teaches him to be more careful about getting caught the next time. I was "smacked" a few times as a kid (just an open palm on the behind - nothing as brutal as some of the stuff posted in this thread) and it didn't do really acheive anything, save for making me resent my parents for a few hours. My parents could always get through to me much more effectively with a simple "what you did was wrong, we're very disappointed in you" and an explanation of why what I did was wrong, rather than just belting me every time I raised their ire, for reasons that I couldn't possibly understand.
Ultimately, if you hit your kid, all you're teaching that kid that violence is the best way to assert one's authority and to solve one's problems:
| quote: | Originally posted by Orbax
dude, I hit OTHER people's kids when they aren't looking. Like this one time, some chick brought her kid to my house and I had the trailer hooked up to my car. I walk outside 10 minutes later and the kid had taken the safety chains off, and diconnected the trailer. The whole thing was on a hill and the metal foot that lifts the trailer off the hitch was cracking under the pressure and about to cream my frigging car.
I did a quick head swivel and then do the frigging Judo Backhand and grabbed him by his shirt and yelled at him (some swearing and threats were involved).
another time the kid actually started playing around on my motorcycle! Holy crap, atom bombs are just matter exploding out of a metal shell. I was fury exploding out of a human. That kid is a freakin sweetheart around me. I think he cries at night when he thinks about touching other people's motorcycles.
anyway, yeah I got hit as a kid, and in middle school I got my ass kicked. It fixed me right up and for males especially...understanding that there is a hierarchy in life is one of the most important lessons ever to be learned. |
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