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| quote: | Originally posted by jennypie
No no...that's not what I meant. I agree 100% with what you're saying.
What I meant was for the people who have been wronged by others repeatedly....I can understand why they would have trouble trusting people.
But on the flip side of that, I would tell them to ask themselves why they think they continually meet people who wrong them.
What's that saying...
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." |
ok sorry i misinterpreted it. i do agree. i know i have a harder time investing a lot in relationships at the beginning just beacause i dont know where it is going or if it will last. i always inquire about the girl im seeing but i stay pretty closed when it comes to the girl knowing much about me. its just the way i am but then once it starts feeling like its going somewhere i open up slowly.
| quote: | Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie
Do you ever worry about becoming "numb" to the whole dating situation? I mean, heres my take. It seems like the more we have this horrible experiences, the quicker we are able to pick up and move on. On one hand, this is Darwinism at its finest. We are learning how to survive dating. On the other hand, two weeks after this I was "fine" and going out and having a good time.
To the ex this says "what I did to her wasnt that bad, shes fine." It also makes you look cold and emotionless. I think that theres a fine line between letting it get the best of you and having no emotional response to bad break ups... and I dont know where that line is. |
i dont ever worry about becoming numb to the whole thing but i am numb immediately after all the shit happens. thats a normal reaction though. you just have to get past it all and get to the emotional healing stage once there you become "soft" again.
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