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My advice, having 3 kids myself, is to not wait too long to have kids. Keep in mind that you are going to have NO LIFE of your own for about 5 years. I think that time (infant time) was the hardest, so you need to be a little bit younger when you get started. After 10 years, they have their own friends and interests and you can have your own interests again....but teenagers DO suck, be prepared if you're going to do this. I'm enjoing that idea that my kids will be out of the house by the time I'm 50's so I can go back to my former selfish self. There is a reason why older people are so damn grumpy
Kids are an emotional rollercoaster, one day they are the best thing that ever happened to you, the next day you can't believe you were stupid enough to do this. Kids will put a marriage to the test, any flaws in the relationship will become MAJOR issues when children are brought into the mix. Things get downright surreal when you have sleep depravation.
A good "parent" test is a very young puppy, very needy, very noisey. If you crack under the pressure, of being up all night long with a puppy, you may want to consider being the "Cool Aunt or Uncle".
...and DO NOT EVER fall for the idea that having a kid will save the relationship
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