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I don't see a problem with internet contacts. Saying it's sad because it's less personal and "easy" is just dropping slogans without really thinking it through.
By contacts I don't refer to 30 minute long conversations in some chatroom but to long, stable "realtionships" on the basis of instant msngrs / email.
The internet allows you to be more "selective" which definitely accelrates things. You can, for example, look into a forum which deals with a certain type of music, or any other of your interests and immediately find "soulmates". It is my experience that sharing the same passion for certain hobbies is often only one indication for a genral smiliarity / chemistry between people. It's kind hard to explain....I got to know two guys form my area through music websites and they happened to share many more of my interests, simply because their loving this specific "underground" music (it IS underground here) was just one aspect of a genral open-mindedness referring also to movies, books and what not. So of course, I've got my friends but I also found new friends to hang out/ discuss music/ party with. I think that's great, and I'm grateful for these new possibilites.
As for romantic relationships I don't know....I've had very "deep", strong contacts with 3 girls and met all of them after 3 to 4 years (yes, FOUR YEARS!) and it was just great. The tranistion wasn't akward at all, I just finally won them as "real" friends too. Again I'm grateful as without the i-net I wouldn't have met them.
So the internet is definitely no replacement but just adds and sometimes helps.
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