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Originally posted by fairy godfather So are jealous boyfriends!

bahahah bit of pee in my pants

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Originally posted by StereoPrincess Ok, I will give you that. It does depend on the couple. The thought did cross my mind about the whole "some broad wants my man but i have him" thing. But really in the end that kind of thinking is not something I find productive in a relationship. I KNOW broads will want my man, I KNOW that I have him, but I don't need some sick game of broads hitting on him and him telling them off to validate me.

to actively seek it out could be considered unhealthy. but if and when it does happen (rj being the sexy man he is) how would you feel?

towards her i'd feel annoyance and even anger if she was supposed to be a friend. but i wouldn't be upset with him for going to her place alone. i would be more bothered if he stopped hanging out with his girlfriends. but again, each relationship has to establish what is acceptable and what is not according to both of their values. if you can't make that match, then time to jet

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Originally posted by Jungle Fever I agree with you. Like I said he might have been oblivious to the signs.

Exactly, no signs what so ever, it was after a party, there were drugs involved maybe, booze, it makes people do wierd shit, she wasnt my friend really after that either. She didnt apoligize afterward and I was wierded out by it afterward.

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Originally posted by spitty towards her i'd feel annoyance and even anger if she was supposed to be a friend. but i wouldn't be upset with him for going to her place alone. i would be more bothered if he stopped hanging out with his girlfriends. but again, each relationship has to establish what is acceptable and what is not according to both of their values. if you can't make that match, then time to jet

That's how it was with someone I dated (first and only person). After we stayed friends and she hooked up with her current b/f, EVERY time we'd hang out (at her place) and watch movies like many previous times, he'd understandably get nervous and phone (long distance frm Calgary), see what was up (which was nothing b/c we were just friends at that point). The person I dated wasn't just going to stop hanging out with me alone just because the b/f had issues of how we were dating previously. (and she didn't). We're still friends and they're still dating. That's all I can say on the subject really.

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Originally posted by spitty to actively seek it out could be considered unhealthy. but if and when it does happen (rj being the sexy man he is) how would you feel? towards her i'd feel annoyance and even anger if she was supposed to be a friend. but i wouldn't be upset with him for going to her place alone. i would be more bothered if he stopped hanging out with his girlfriends. but again, each relationship has to establish what is acceptable and what is not according to both of their values. if you can't make that match, then time to jet

well, that's what i am saying. when i was 19 i thought that lots of broads wanting my man was some sort of validation (that he was awesome). i don't think that way anymore. to me that is a fucked up mentality (i know, that that sounds harsh, but that's how i feel now). i don't mean to judge at all.

some may continue that view all their lives.

to me the goal in a relationship should be to make sure that your partner knows you want him, only him, and that he doesn't need any outside validation (even if he never goes for it).

ps. RJ doesn't smoke joints so I have nothing to worry about.

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Originally posted by Jungle Fever No one person can control the actions of others.

Certainly! Ones actions should, however, be greatly influenced by those most important to them and one also should be prepared to be held accountable for the choices they make.

If someone is in a serious relationship they shouldn't be putting themselves in compromising situations - period.

It has nothing to do with jealousy - it is has everything to do with placing a high value on the relationship and a paramount importance on respect.

"Compromising" is the variable here (obviously). Ultimately each relationship has it's own subtle nuances - what some would consider benign others would consider inappropriate (the importance of a couple determining what is acceptable and what isn't cannot be understated).

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WOW i just read the whole thread..from page 1.

I must say.

RABBITJOKER I agree with you 100% on this topic!