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Originally posted by Echo of Silence Why not show a little sensitivity?

Yeah, because it was oh so sensitive to cheat on that TA in the first place

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Originally posted by squirrelly Oh hell no. When it's over, it's over. I'm not friends with any of my ex's - too much drama involved (someone always still has lingering feelings). I also think that you can't really let go of that baggage if it's still in your face in occasion. You can't move forward if you're looking behind you - you're bound to crash into a wall. It's also difficult to have a successful relationship with the new person if you're in contact with the old one. New relationships need to start with a clean slate.

I agree with you. When its over it IS over...which is why I won't ever go back and date someone who I have dated before.

But, if you dated say, a month, and just realized while you enjoy eachother's company but don't feel the 'spark' why throw away the friendship? Like I said, I think its okay to be friends with exes as long as you weren't deeply involved.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by Banora Whats wrong with being friends with your ex? If you tried to date and you both realized you would be better friends (this is, of course, before you get too far or involved) I see no harm. Parents are non-existent could be for a good reason. Perhaps her parents aren't good people and she doesn't want to be associated with them? Whats wrong with artist talent? I envy it, really.

That's not an ex then. I don't consider people you didn't get "too far involved with" ex's. Ex's are people you spent years with, lived with, loved, combined lives with.

Parents non-existent because they weren't good people means she's going to have abandonment issues, and eventually they WILL surface (unless she sees a therapist).

And I didn't say artist talent. I paint, I do photography, etc. I mean the "dark, moody, my life is so awful I want to die and I'm not REALLY an actual" artists.

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Originally posted by squirrelly Oh hell no. When it's over, it's over. I'm not friends with any of my ex's - too much drama involved (someone always still has lingering feelings). I also think that you can't really let go of that baggage if it's still in your face in occasion. You can't move forward if you're looking behind you - you're bound to crash into a wall. It's also difficult to have a successful relationship with the new person if you're in contact with the old one. New relationships need to start with a clean slate.

This.

Most of the time 'let's be friends' is used so that the person doesn't feel like an asshole and has an easier time moving on. Sort of like "everything is fine, just like before, only I'm trying to find other people to date".

Total BS, if you ask me. If it's broken, it's broken, don't mull over it, cry a few days in your beer, then move on. No need for reminders of how things were.

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Originally posted by squirrelly And I didn't say artist talent. I paint, I do photography, etc. I mean the "dark, moody, my life is so awful I want to die and I'm not REALLY an actual" artists.

Pseudogoths. Or emo.

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Originally posted by squirrelly That's not an ex then. I don't consider people you didn't get "too far involved with" ex's. Ex's are people you spent years with, lived with, loved, combined lives with. Parents non-existent because they weren't good people means she's going to have abandonment issues, and eventually they WILL surface (unless she sees a therapist). And I didn't say artist talent. I paint, I do photography, etc. I mean the "dark, moody, my life is so awful I want to die and I'm not REALLY an actual" artists.

Haha, then by your measure, I've never had an ex! But still, I agree with you. No staying friends with exes...waaay too messy.

As for the parents non-existent and abandonment issues, I will have to disagree from my own personal experience. If anything, my parents not being in my life has gave me the drive to make sure I succeed by my own hand. I'm completely comfortable with the fact I may never experience love and that I may become a crazy old cat lady...but I've accomplished so much in my life, that having someone to love/be with in my life isn't high on my list of priorities.

" I mean the "dark, moody, my life is so awful I want to die and I'm not REALLY an actual" artists." Oh, the mall-goth kids?

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by The17sss this explains it all. @ this guy for having the balls to do that on a first date. That's pretty funny. But, not if he wanted a 2nd date. Did he try to call you again after that?

Actually no.
Not that I was wanting him to call me anyway. I think from my reaction and my failure to see the humour in it, he thought there was no point. If he liked a woman to enjoy having a knife held to her face on the first date then I don't think I could have given him what he needed lol


and yes, meeting random people from online is sketchy to the max
Glad I learned my lesson young and didn't get raped *thumbs up*

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Originally posted by Slylee oh well, different strokes different vaginas

Some dance to remember ~ Some dance to forget

i dunno i think the friends with the ex thing should be judged on a case by case basis.

i'm not a fan of guys who are friends with ALL their exes. usually they just like to keep them around as friends to make their current gf jealous lol

i'm only really friends with one ex...the one i just posted about oddly enough lol we don't hang out or talk on a regular basis, but we have mutual friends still and i just recently hit him up for a favor...it's nothing serious friend-ship wise. we have a really crazy past and we have been broken up for over 4 years now so enough time has passed for us to have ZERO romantic feelings over each other. it's harmless.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

I recently ran into my ex of six years ago (the longest relationship I had at 11 months). I have absolutely no romantic interest in him and we get along great as friends...

But then he started to develop those 'old feelings', so I had to sadly kill the friendship.

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Originally posted by ziptnf I probably wake up QWOPing.

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Originally posted by squirrelly DO NOT date a girl IF: Her eyes start glowing when she sees your credit card, and she asks you what the available balance is. Every time you pick up your phone you can tell she's trying slyly see who you're talking to. She wants to get a puppy/kitten/hamster within weeks of meeting you. She wants to meet your parents prior to the 6 month mark. She asks for a drawer in your chest <8 months of dating. She knows your ex, your ex's friends, or your ex's family. She's still "friends" with HER ex. She tells you her ring size on the first date. She's bad in the sack. She asks you for money. She asks you if you can buy her a car. She tells you what her dream wedding would be like <1yr of dating. She tells you she's been raped. She has daddy issues. Her parents are non-existent. She's an "artist".

this. though all of the above should go without saying in the first place. add "she has mommy issues" too, i met this one chick that had all sorts of fucking self-esteem issues that she blamed on not having a mom in her life or whatever.

crazy bitches steal ur scarf.

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Originally posted by Banora I recently ran into my ex of six years ago (the longest relationship I had at 11 months). I have absolutely no romantic interest in him and we get along great as friends... But then he started to develop those 'old feelings', so I had to sadly kill the friendship.

i'm sure he never lost the old feelings, but just creepily waited for the moment to spring the situation on you again