was sort of in the same situation with my girlfriend. See, we started going out last year on New Years and by March it was over ( no real reason as to why it ended, it just did...note that we'd never gotten into a fight or anything like that). She gave me the same reason that you just listed. I continued to stay friends with her and over the summer she dated a few guys...by the time August rolled around I asked her if she wanted to go on a date with me and she said yeah so we went. Towards the end of the date I asked her if she tought that we'd ever have a chance of being together again, and she said possibably but she's not going to get into anything serious until probably half way into the school year.
So from that day we were "dating" each other and then school started. She had her eye set on this one dude and surely enough a few months later she messages me on AIM and goes "I won't be walking with you tomorrow in school" so I'm like "um, ok...why?" and she preceeds to tell me that she has a boyfriend now and shit like that. This really pissed me off but we remained friends still. Just about a month ago I realized she was being mistreated by this asshole and their relationship soon turned sour. This is where I stepped in and worked my magic...I conforted her through the breakup and all that.
Soon we started chilling with each other again and stuff like that and about 3 weeks ago I asked her out again. Now I can say that after nearly a year (seemed like an eternity) we're together again and happier than ever.
Damn, now that I read this it seems like some kind of romantic movie
Moral of story: Sometimes you just need to give it time, I honestly was not sure if it was going to work the way it did or if I was wasting my time waiting for her. In your situation you can remain friends with her and things could work out much like the way my situation did. Or you can get pissed at her and say fuck it (I know I almost took this route many times while this was all going on).
So true m8. You actually did what most of us guys couldn't. Patience and control. I sure didn't, i blew up the first week waiting.
forget the girl and the dude. Find someone better.
Good luck
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Dec-13-2002 04:08
Ian
Not dead yet.
Registered: Dec 2001
Location: UK
quote:
Originally posted by DJ Mikey Mike
lmao. talk about kicking a guy when he's down
Ahoy-hoy Cap'n
Dec-13-2002 04:15
mindshooter
Neverchanging avatar
Registered: Nov 2000
Location: Hiding from Chuck Norris
quote:
Originally posted by tiesto14
sooooooooo looks liek she started trouble...this ****** is going to call MY house...thats wrong....
so tonight i know he will be at this place i am going to with my friends....
i GUARANTEE he wont tlak shit in person....but i wont look for trouble...if he comes up to me talking shit then of course iw ill not talk and jus smack fire outta him...
but like i said if he doesnt say shit then i wont...but if he comes up to me i WILL NOT back down.....
i cant beleive that homo called me house...thats wrong.....
anyway we will see tonight...
dam this chic started trouble for no reason.....ugh
Whatt point are you trying to make here? That you wont take shit from him? I dont really see what you will gain by trying to make him afraid off you. You lost the girl, i know exactly how you feel. First you are sad, sad as hell. Then you get angry and like "yeah yeah forget her"..... But dont make it worse now. There is nothing for you there. If the guy is stupid, fun for him. Nice for Tania. Maybe she deserved a stupid guy. Or maybe you are the stupid one? Who knows. Beating him down will make her hate you. And you will lose all the pride that is left in you. Just back off and dont show her or him that you have taken damage by this. Cause they dont seem to care.
Best tip in the world when you are sad and need to think:
Loooooong walk with some deep progressive music in your freestyle.
It will open your mind
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Dec-13-2002 17:57
Slylee
love lockdown
Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood, FL
quote:
Originally posted by mindshooter
Best tip in the world when you are sad and need to think:
Loooooong walk with some deep progressive music in your freestyle.
It will open your mind
exactly! or just blast it in your car while driving...if you can multitask
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Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
Dec-13-2002 22:28
Qtip_00
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Apr 2001
Location: Okinawa, Japan
I know you shouldnt do this, but if I were you, I would tell this chick what a dumb ass bitch she is. I would tell her that if she ever marries this guy her relationship with him would be so shitty and dull cuz all shes after is the money, she can take her little cute ass and shove it while she lives her miserable life.
Ugh, I hate dumb chicks sometimes, they are usually the hotties too
Dec-14-2002 04:36
davinox
diving deep into sound
Registered: Dec 2001
Location: you could say i'm from dallas
go ahead, fight him.
better than watchin' tv i guess.
if i were you i'd just say "fuck that trash" and stay home, play with myself, and drink a few on the couch.
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Dec-14-2002 07:09
tranzMental
Supreme tranceaddict
Registered: Mar 2002
Location: Miami, Florida
Damn, I hope you don't fight him. Seriously man, that ain't gonna solve shit. Just ignore her, and get on with your life.
It ain't worth wastin tears, wasting thoughts, and wasting time on some stupid girl who wouldn't even give a single thought about you. Forget about that bitch, and move on.
Dec-16-2002 05:36
diamondx65
Senior tranceaddict
Registered: Oct 2002
Location: Toronto, Ontario
I am really sorry about what happened to you but as most people have mentioned time is a healer.......first few days, even months might real hard but the pain will ease with time...
The best thing is to be with your friends, hang out have fun!!!!!!!
Dec-16-2002 05:51
kr00t0n
Archduke of Awesome
Registered: Feb 2002
Location: Hibernating
Sorry to hear about that mate (especially the 'coz he has money' issue)
I was in a similar, albeit not as extreme, situation last year.
I think its something to do with the fact that guys (decent ones) tend to fall for women that they connect with on many levels.
Its like your heart decides that if you can enjoy so much time with a person of the opposite sex, that person and you would be perfect as a couple. Sadly, this isnt always so.
And I may be generalising when I type this, but the above statement doesnt seem to be as relevant from a female perspective. Not that it doesnt happen, but it would seem that it happens more to guys than girls
Besides, if she chooses greasy gino money over mental and emotional connectivity, her f*cking loss...
Don't fight this gino, don't waste your energy. Give him some advice instead:
"Fuck the bitch........ I did!"
Dec-16-2002 13:07
Miss Proximus
titelloos
Registered: Mar 2001
Location: Block II, Cell 13
quote:
Originally posted by Swamper
What is it with you Hollanders and licking frogs?
AMSTERDAM (Reuters) - Dutch police are investigating whether drug addicts raided a pet shop and stole three exotic toads whose warty skin can induce hallucinations when licked.
tiesto14..i agree with az and his well put halfly cruel posts and well...my relationship is at its end as well (smth in the air or what) and we've been living together for fucken 3 years...i'm moving back in with my dad..want my stuff out of our house by saturday...have to find a way to share our friends..and having to deal with the fact I have to say goodbye to him cuz I can't live with hope but he still hasn't figured out if he wants to stay with me or not. how is that. life is cruel...but life is also a wonderful thing. just have to figure out how to balance it eh
i really do think a life without ove would be totally cool. imagine just having really really good friends and sex without consequences and never getting hurt aah! that must be that place they talk about in the bible. didn't jesus go there? (sorry if i've offended anyone)
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