Originally posted by squirrelly
Theresa, what if it's an older guy? Are you really expecting someon in their thirties to have only been with 10 girls or less?
What I don't understand is why anyone is concerned about it in the first place. Who cares, it's in the past. They're with you now.
This is where insecurities stems from. Asking THAT question makes a girl feel inadequate if she's had less under her belt. Or she starts worrying about if she's 'as good' as all the the other girls. Numbers mean absolutely nothing. Someone (guy or girl) could have been with 50 girls/guys, and until they met the right person, didn't settle down. That doesn't make them any less of a good person.
If you're secure with yourself, you won't care about the number.
And personally I think it looks very immature and petty when you're asking those kinds of questions.
I don't think it's immature and petty at all. And I don't think it has anything to do with being insecure.
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Originally posted by Silky Johnson
It's not really about experience.
The numbers only matter to me in the sense that I want a partner with the same values and relationship goals as me. So if they've been with more than a dozen (and that's a high number, imo), I probably wouldn't want anything to do with them.
It's really that simple. Jamie gets it.
Jul-22-2008 15:10
squirrelly
The Phun Nun
Registered: Oct 2003
Location: In the Shower
I would not say that sex should be taken lightly, but on the same hand, I don't think that inquiring about how many sexual encounters someone has is really going to be a definitive judge of character. There are several factors that determine whether an individual is the relationship type or not. It also depends on the kind of person you are normally attracted to. That is usually a huge showing of the moral characteristics that you tend to be attracted to.
However, I do not think anyone should be judged for their past relationship, or sexual history. And I, personally, think that most adults tend to not care about that information because they are more secure with themselves and their relationships.
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-Jenny-
I'm not saying that you, yourself are insecure. But the motivation for *most* people to inquire about stuff like that IS insecurities.
Jul-22-2008 15:12
Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by squirrelly
That is usually a huge showing of the moral characteristics that you tend to be attracted to.
Exactly.
Jul-22-2008 15:12
r5a
snake inverter
Registered: Dec 2003
Location: Toronto
yes i get scared and frightened by girls that have more experience then me....
i feel like i won't live up to par and they are secretly thinking "who the fuck is this retard, can't handle business, this is terrible"
and its GROSS AS FUCK, i don't want to be gettin no STDS.
Jul-22-2008 15:13
Slylee
love lockdown
Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood, FL
my motive for sleeping with people is because at that point in time, i want to be as close to them as humanly possible. it's all about the moment and emotions i'm feeling. it's not even about getting off really.
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Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
Jul-22-2008 15:13
Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
Location:
Yeah call me crazy, but the last thing I like about sex is getting off.
Jul-22-2008 15:14
L.E.N.
Rippin' and a Tearin'
Registered: Dec 2004
Location: Been Pullin out since '93 OCTA#9 / LATA #57
quote:
Originally posted by Slylee
my motive for sleeping with people is because at that point in time, i want to be as close to them as humanly possible. it's all about the moment and emotions i'm feeling. it's not even about getting off really.
Do you know how australianGQ that sounded?
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Jul-22-2008 15:16
Silky Johnson
International Playa Hater
Registered: Nov 2003
Location:
quote:
Originally posted by squirrelly
-Jenny-
I'm not saying that you, yourself are insecure. But the motivation for *most* people to inquire about stuff like that IS insecurities.
Oh yeah I getcha....and I actually do agree with that, heh.
Jul-22-2008 15:17
elFreak
Blood Diamonds and Salsa
Registered: Feb 2008
Location: With Juan Pachanga Eating Tacos. Ah Ha Si Mi Gusta.
quote:
Originally posted by r5a
yes i get scared and frightened by girls that have more experience then me....
i feel like i won't live up to par and they are secretly thinking "who the fuck is this retard, can't handle business, this is terrible"
when every girl has more sexual experience than you its normal. It goes away when you grow up.
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Originally posted by Slylee
my motive for sleeping with people is because at that point in time, i want to be as close to them as humanly possible. it's all about the moment and emotions i'm feeling. it's not even about getting off really.
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quote:
Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
Jul-22-2008 15:19
Slylee
love lockdown
Registered: May 2001
Location: Hollywood, FL
i'm dead serious jay lol i've only had maybe 2 partners in my life where it was strictly about getting off. other than that, sex is just about the intimacy for me.
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quote:
Originally posted by notelfreak
man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone
