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Originally posted by Vlad People who know me know that I want to be with someone, and its definitely beyond the sex thing. Knowing everyone around you has a g/f gets to you... when your friends tell you stories, that gets to you... when you parents start questioning you, that gets to you. And as for getting laid being easy... well when you have never done it, your not desired.

A lot of it has to do with the way that you present yourself. Women like a man that is confident. I know this sounds cliche...but it is the truth. I don't mean confident in your experiences, but confident in who you are. People are naturally drawn to positive people. Confidence will get to the point where it can radiate sexiness. I am not saying that it will work for everyone, but if you know how to control the vibe that you are projecting it will do wonders for your personal life. You produce a vibe...energy. People react to that. People can sense desperation. Sometimes it is blatantly obvious while other times people don't even realize that they are coming across that way. If you believe that you are someone worth knowing you will start meeting people that feel the same way.

I hope I haven't crossed any lines by writing that. I don't know you so don't take any of that personal.

No one can cross lines with me, as long as your honest I dont take offense to anything. As for being confident, Im gonna tell you what I tell everyone else about this. Yes, I lack alot of confidence, and alot of it has to do with self-image. Everyone tells me that Im a good looking guy... and Im not fat, blah blah blah. You cant just pick up confidence in a grocery store, confidence is something that you gain as you go through life, and NOTHING in my life has given me confidence or a positive energy. My parents are the most pessimistic people known to mankind, and living in a place that gives off negative energy sticks with you. My life has been nothing but rejection...

It couldnt be more true that "nice guys finish last".

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by Vlad No one can cross lines with me, as long as your honest I dont take offense to anything. As for being confident, Im gonna tell you what I tell everyone else about this. Yes, I lack alot of confidence, and alot of it has to do with self-image. Everyone tells me that Im a good looking guy... and Im not fat, blah blah blah. You cant just pick up confidence in a grocery store, confidence is something that you gain as you go through life, and NOTHING in my life has given me confidence or a positive energy. My parents are the most pessimistic people known to mankind, and living in a place that gives off negative energy sticks with you. My life has been nothing but rejection... It couldnt be more true that "nice guys finish last".

I have to head to bed because it is really late, but I will respond to you tomorrow. Maybe on here...or possibly through a PM.

Well if your not happy with your self of confident in your self... Do something about it moaning on TA day after day, after day, after day after doesnt seem to be helping..... Work out, go to the gym, get a new job, move to a new city(cancel this, just made my life fucking worse), move out of your home.... your 20 soon to be 21. I am sure you can find a place with decent rent....Stop making excuses for yourself and just do something.......

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Originally posted by trancebrat I have to head to bed because it is really late, but I will respond to you tomorrow. Maybe on here...or possibly through a PM.

You can AIM me too if your not shy (sn is in profile).

gn.

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by Vlad No one can cross lines with me, as long as your honest I dont take offense to anything. As for being confident, Im gonna tell you what I tell everyone else about this. Yes, I lack alot of confidence, and alot of it has to do with self-image. Everyone tells me that Im a good looking guy... and Im not fat, blah blah blah. You cant just pick up confidence in a grocery store, confidence is something that you gain as you go through life, and NOTHING in my life has given me confidence or a positive energy. My parents are the most pessimistic people known to mankind, and living in a place that gives off negative energy sticks with you. My life has been nothing but rejection... It couldnt be more true that "nice guys finish last".

well u sound pretty decent and nice from what im reading...awww...but then again u know, just be tru to urself...confidence and stuff comes wid experience, tis truuu but it also comes wid knowing u like who u are and ppl respond to that...im sure that it will develp eventually...well be proactive and say hi to ppl and engage in conversation jus to get to know them...most ppl dun bite -=D

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Originally posted by bubbleravegirl most ppl dun bite -=D

Tru that they dont bite, but they are conceited bitches.

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by Vlad Tru that they dont bite, but they are conceited bitches.

well your prolly sick of hearing advice but to be perfectly honest your looking for love waaaay to hard. besides, not all bitches are conceited, some of them are just bitches :-p
oh, and females can smell fear off guys, they just can! Dont be afraid to get turned down from a girl cause this is New York Fucking City! There are plenty of girls who would be happy to get with a nice guy, but if you dont try talking to them, youll never find which ones you can get with.

I mean shit, im not a stud or anything, i get turned down a bit but who cares, just brush it off and talk to the next girl in line, and always remember that it is them who is missing out (or at least you should always have that mentality.)

hope this helps you get some poon.

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Tru again, but Ive never heard a 'yes or ok' from anyone.

I wish I could talk the way I would if I was chatting with them on AIM or something cause its so much easier since its not face to face.

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.

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Originally posted by Vlad Tru again, but Ive never heard a 'yes or ok' from anyone. I wish I could talk the way I would if I was chatting with them on AIM or something cause its so much easier since its not face to face.

it IS the same, you just gotta come up with shit to say quicker
its not like you can think about saying something, change your mind and say something else. plus its real time and you cant use "Getting disconnected" as an excuse.
i used to have the same problem, the whole thing where chatting online was easier, but that was before i stopped giving a shit what people think. So if a girl thinks im a jerk, who cares? not you! not me! If a girl is digging me, well, no further explaining needed.
oh, and as corny as it sounds, compliments are a big plus, but dont over do it or youll look like a geek.
Just think of it as a points system to getting laid, so if you a good looker, thats about say, 50 points, if your a smooth talker, thats another 50. If you do some stupid shit its -1000 points (basically, not getting laid) or if the girl is nutty she might dig it. Just be yourself dude.

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yups i totally agree wid stassi...who cares what ppl think? i used to, sooo much, but u know, some ppl will take to u, others won't...its those who take to u which matters -=] and the more ppl u meet, the more likely u'll find someone -=] same goes wid friendships too...

well aim DOES make it easier and breaks the ice, esp. if u end up meeting them up in person...i do have to admit that

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The other thing is... I dont go places where you would normally meet people... lol. Since Im not 21, you wont see me at a bar or anything... and picking up girls at a club is pretty pointless because they usually come with someone. I guess when I turn 21 it will be easier since I could 'buy a girl a drink' (the cliche thing to do, but I heard it works).

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Originally posted by Coup Vlad wins. Flawless victory.