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Originally posted by DJ RJT Maybe your girlfriend, not mine.

this thread got pretty gay... but i just wanted to say that personally i don't think there's any excuse for grinding on someone else if you're in a serious relationship. it is disrespectful, to your partner, your relationship, AND the person you're grinding with (giving them the idea that you're available/interested? bad idea)... you all know you wouldn't feel comfortable if your significant other was doing it behind your back, and you shouldn't do it to them. yeah maybe if you've got somewhat of an "open" relationship going and you 2 get off on that kind of shit, but even still, you should be HONEST and open about what is or isn't acceptable before taking any actions.

the whole concept of "what i don't know won't hurt me" is bullshit, imo, because it obviously proves that you or your significant other feels uncomfortable confessing the details of a wild night out... and it's pretty common for the things you "don't know" to eventually surface, and then they will hurt you.

i definitely stand by the belief that if you're in a serious relationship with someone you love, you wouldn't even want to grind on anyone else.

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^^^ great reply

ill just restate what some1 prolly already said but if u cant do something in front of someones face (ie in this case - significant other) you shouldnt be doing it behind their back!

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Originally posted by Spike if u cant do something in front of someones face (ie in this case - significant other) you shouldnt be doing it behind their back!

exactly. when it comes to deciding whether something is wrong/disrespectful/cheating... all you have to do is stop and think "ok, if my partner was standing in the corner and watching me, would he/she be upset about what i'm doing right now?"

hell, if you even have to stop to think about whether you're doing something wrong, you probably are.

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Is the manuever where the girl back her ass up on the guy considered grinding?

Is it rude or against protocol if the guy gets wood in the process or is that the intended result? I have a hard time dancing with a boner (pun not intended). Girls have the advantage here.

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I dont think its appropriate when you are in a relationship. Its pretty close to dry humping which isnt cool either. Then it can also cause an uncomfortable situation like what if you get a woody or what if ur girl gives someone else a woody. I dont think u would be too happy about that

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Originally posted by lücid i definitely stand by the belief that if you're in a serious relationship with someone you love, you wouldn't even want to grind on anyone else.

Once again: You're looking at this issue from a girl's point of view.

NBC recently did a huge study together with the Ellen magazine called "The Hot Monogamy." The findings in their report all point to the so-called "Bedroom disconnect" which characterizes a lot of relationships.

Read here: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12410071/

The disconnect, briefly, is this: She is happy and satisfied; he wants more variety. This is a social snapshot of most standard relationships around America.

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Is monogamy hot or not? For many women, the answer is “yeah, baby!” ... But while many women are reporting sizzling monogamy, the guys had a more lukewarm response.

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Last edited by HardTranceProd on May-26-2006 at 15:53

for the record, i pretty much agree with you lucid, but i also keep forgetting the main part of this thread is about grinding. lol i never grind on anyone anyway, so i just sort of responded with my idea of a night out without my man.

i think some innocent chitchat and maybe just dancing around each other is harmless...and i'd rather not know if some girl came up to craig and started talking to him and dancing around him...even though i know he represents me and wouldn't do anything that would royally piss me off.

so yea, i definitely think that grinding is too much and yes, it's disprespectful. but i also wouldn't expect my man to like stare at the floor the whole night and be a complete hermit crab and/or dick if some girls approached him and his buddy (a very good looking single guy, by the way). i know they get talked to when they go out together and craig has to be the "wing man". i know he's a good boy though, but i'd still rather not know or hear about the girls who came up to them.


hope that makes sense.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Spike ^^^ great reply ill just restate what some1 prolly already said but if u cant do something in front of someones face (ie in this case - significant other) you shouldnt be doing it behind their back!

if my girl was doing it right in front of me then hell no id be pissed but that is way different then her out with the girls. I dont think its dry humping I dont think its cheating. I do think that is it a-ok up to a point, and that point is different for everyone.

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Originally posted by HardTranceProd Once again: You're looking at this issue from a girl's point of view.

What the hell does that have to do with anything?

I feel the exact same way as she does, as I'm sure many other guys do (Hell, half of them have posted in this thread).

Beyond that, I don't care to get my relationship advice from MSNBC, I prefer reality.

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I'm sorta in a toss up on this one.

If you are at a club with your girl and grinding on another girl in front of her, that is obviously disrespectful because she is standing right there. It's almost like giving her the big "fuck you".

However if you are out with the fellas just to have fun, are all dancing with chicas and no numbers are exchanged, lips locked, or no fondling and you come home to your girl I am not sure if that is a horrible thing.

I am just not sure if the girlfriend would believe that nothing happened, there may be trust problems and retaliation grinding will ensue which just gets worse and worse.

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Originally posted by HardTranceProd Once again: You're looking at this issue from a girl's point of view. NBC recently did a huge study together with the Ellen magazine called "The Hot Monogamy." The findings in their report all point to the so-called "Bedroom disconnect" which characterizes a lot of relationships. Read here: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/12410071/ The disconnect, briefly, is this: She is happy and satisfied; he wants more variety. This is a social snapshot of most standard relationships around America.

it has nothing to do with male vs female point of view. that study doesn't tell me anything that i didn't already know, and most of it is statistics. anyone could tell you that men are usually in the majority when it comes to those who desire more sex and more variety... but did you read this part here:

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A key finding was that 97 percent of men and women who reported being very satisfied with their sex lives said they are happy with their partner overall. Couples who reported good sexual communication and were open to trying new bedroom tricks reported being quite satisfied even decades after they met.

so basically, as long as you and your partner are compatible and have good communication, there shouldn't be any excuse for going elsewhere for excitement or sexual satisfaction. the only ones responsible for keeping your relationship new/exciting/satisfying/etc are YOU and your partner.

being a man isn't an excuse for being a shitty boyfriend or husband.

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