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Originally posted by Miss Pie I do have to laugh at you people saying you need to be single to have "freedom". If the only relationships you've been in made you feel like you've held back from anything, you've been doing it wrong. Unless of course the only freedom you're really talking about is the freedom to fuck whoever you want...why bother with this thread in the first place?

you're completely missing my point, which isn't really surprising to me in the least. i never said anything in my OP abt anyone missing out on sex. read it again if you dare to

do you really think everyone out there that is paired up is happy and free to do whatever they want? forget abt the fucking-whomever-i-want-whenever-i-want bit, i'll bet that a significant number of married people or those that are dating are doing so simply because they think it's what they should be doing. that because they've reached a certain age they should stop goin to music festivals or out with their buddies and just sit at home on a friday/saturday night. that maybe the person they're with is the best they can do, that it's now or never so they better not waste more time enjoying their life because "well, those days are gone now". it's like people have this fear of being single that causes them to do things that aren't always in their best interests. that's what i was getting at really.

i get your point that a good relationship is one that lets you be who you are and enjoy your freedom, i just don't think that's how it plays out for most (or at least, a lot of) people IRL.

Agreed, I know it doesn't...hence my comment about people doing it wrong.

I really don't get it too.. why are people afraid of solitude. Even in past I use to say better alone than in bad company..
Forget about being one with anything..first let yourself be completely alone .
Then no arrogance, pride no cynicism.. for just one moment see how it is when you're all by yourself..
Can you be alone? -ask yourself.
With out holding to someone's promise, a purpose, some person. A fantasy, any expectation, something from a past.. If you let go all that information about yourself , because all that did come later, it's not original, you are not born with it.
What remains?
Huh.. you stay in that extension, spaciousness.. wideness.. and let's be clear it's not some kind of visualisation it's more like feeling..That's the oneness!
You will see there is no suffering, no need for desiring something, insecurity or fear.. there is no such thing.
Not all people are unlovable. You and me as well. Some who are unlovable at the moment will be lovable, a little later on.
The point is do not give your mind the power to decide who is lovable or not. In the delivered mind all good habits manifest spontaneously. In other words. Stay in that space, and you are not tied to love or hate.
Do I think everyone out there is happy and free to do whatever they want? No I don't, no one does, but we are the craters of our own happenings, in our life's..
Again, the point is, we have a great and simple power, often overlooked for its simplicity: dropping things! Letting go, quickly and swiftly of thoughts and impressions which are not in service of the truth we are.
No one can play games with your mind and neither can you mind-fuck yourself if you don't allow it..
The conclusion is we got the power to make our life's the way they should be..screw the thinking, we all yearn to be at peace..we can make all happen but first we must wake up from this hypnosis..

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