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Originally posted by English Rachel Thanks Kel, I love understanding other people's rationale for things, I think it makes me a more tolerant and well-rounded individual in general.

^^ Exactly. I find it really interesting actually.


Booty call 24/7 FTW... haha jjk

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy oh shut the fuck up already. ur not a cheater ur not a lesbian. All you are is a confused, lost, little girl. sick of the dumb comments every thread

FINALLY someone else said it!



As for Kelly, I give you major props for being able to do what you do. I totally see your reasoning behind it, but it's definitely not something that I (nor many people) would be able to handle. I'm happy that you and your man have found a happy balance

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Originally posted by English Rachel Thanks Kel, I love understanding other people's rationale for things, I think it makes me a more tolerant and well-rounded individual in general. Just a couple more questions... Have you been open for the whole of your relationship? Was it your idea or his?

No not the whole relationship. As I said, I think that we needed to establish a solid trust and an even better relationship before we could start something like this.

The thing is, is that one of the rules is that our OWN relationship needs to be solid to engage in such activities, because if it is not, then we are concentrating to much elsewhere instead of at home.

If I didnt trust him to follow our rules, and if our own sex life sucked, then we might as well go our separate ways altogether. However, if our sex life and trust are on point, then we are still confident that we are spending enough time and energy in making our own relationship work, rather than using that energy on soley on others.

It also makes us more trustworthy and confident that we will be RETURNING home lol The love and the relationship HAS to be strong, or the negative feelings will destroy us. And we need to feel secure that we are putting our MAIN focus on each other, and thus not lettin our own relationship slide in the midst of being with other people. Our own relationship comes FIRST, and as soon as it doesnt, the deal will end, or WE will end. you have to prioritize in these types of relationships. I KNOW who he is in love with and coming home to, and that makes me more open to letting BOTH of us explore.

I also have to trust that he is going to follow the other "rules" (ie: 10000% all of the time using protection, NO exchanging of information (just makes things awkward), no dating, no spending time with the other person, etc......the point is to be able to enjoy the sexuality, but to only share the love and the memories and the emotion with each other.....and so on so forth).

This is not something we will do forever (as we both agreed upon) its just something we are doing for now, and its fine for both of us.


And, it was my idea

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby And, it was my idea

Question for you: Would you have stayed with him if he decided he didn't want to do this? Where you at all afraid that he wouldn't agree to it and then take this as meaning that you're not happy with your relationship and may have already cheated?

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Originally posted by *~LiSa-LoO~* Question for you: Would you have stayed with him if he decided he didn't want to do this? Where you at all afraid that he wouldn't agree to it and then take this as meaning that you're not happy with your relationship and may have already cheated?

No way would I leave him. He is my first priority and this is just something FUN. He means WAYYY too much to me.


And, to be clear, I would NEVER cheat on someone that didnt want this lifestyle. I am still an honorable person, and I have never strayed on a boyfriend EVER. My relationship and love will always be first, and this is just something we can do until we are married (if that happens).

And again, remember that yuis also trusts me that I am not going out and being a WHORE. lol I am def NOT. Like I said in other posts. I am very picky and have used this to my advantage **VERY** few times in our loooong relationship. Some people might think "swingers", but I think of it as having the option *IF* necessary. I dont go out and LOOK for people to mess around with, nor do I accept every invitation I get.......thats nasty and I hold myself to a higher standard than that.

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby We know who we love and we know who we are coming home to, we know who we give our hearts to. And, like I said, being in an open relationship is NOT promoting promiscuity by any means.

I wasn't sure what I was getting into when I opened this thread... but I am pleasantly surprised! It sounds as if you are on the right track: open, honest, conscientious, realistic. Nice going.

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Originally posted by basilisk I wasn't sure what I was getting into when I opened this thread... but I am pleasantly surprised! It sounds as if you are on the right track: open, honest, conscientious, realistic. Nice going.

<3 <3 <3

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Originally posted by yankeeBaby No way dude, its not my bizniz at ALL. I have only met the girl once at a work function and they just bought a house together to add to the situation. Its not my job or responsibility!! Can you imagine me having to face my coworker everyday if I ENDED his 7-year relationship??

their relationship is meaningless, she means nothing to him but a piece of ass if hes cheating on her and doesnt tell her...she looks like a total fool. if i were u, id just be open and tell her, i feel she has a right to know shes getting fucked over. she needs to move on with her life with someone who will actually respect her.

but hey ur choice.

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Originally posted by AustralianGQ their relationship is meaningless, she means nothing to him but a piece of ass if hes cheating on her and doesnt tell her...she looks like a total fool. if i were u, id just be open and tell her, i feel she has a right to know shes getting fucked over. she needs to move on with her life with someone who will actually respect her. but hey ur choice.

It's not her or anyone else's place to interfere in their relationship.

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Originally posted by AustralianGQ their relationship is meaningless, she means nothing to him but a piece of ass if hes cheating on her and doesnt tell her...she looks like a total fool. if i were u, id just be open and tell her, i feel she has a right to know shes getting fucked over. she needs to move on with her life with someone who will actually respect her. but hey ur choice.

I have many friends in the same position as the girl.. and honestly I bet she knows and just does not want to believe it.

Girls are quite willing to turn a blind eye and don't want to hear it and will not be ready to accept it.

Telling will only back fire on Kelly - especially since she does not even know the girl.

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Originally posted by jennypie It's not her or anyone else's place to interfere in their relationship.

Exactly.

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