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Originally posted by Slylee guardian ad litem is a cool program.

I did that years ago.

so did my mom...it's just really time consuming and i'm about to start school in october, plus i work full time.

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie Maybe if its a teenager that youre dealing with, but children younger than that need families and familial support.

Not disputing the fact that all children need family support and surroundings. But what's the general opinion of adopting young children as opposed to infants? Being that they have already started their concious learning process, will the bond be different? Or will they still call the parents "mom and dad"

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Originally posted by Slylee so did my mom...it's just really time consuming and i'm about to start school in october, plus i work full time.

That is exactly why I couldn't continue to do it. I'm glad that there are people out there that do have the time because it is definitely a good program.

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Originally posted by apostrophe Not disputing the fact that all children need family support and surroundings. But what's the general opinion of adopting young children as opposed to infants? Being that they have already started their concious learning process, will the bond be different? Or will they still call the parents "mom and dad"

It depends on the child, and also how young they are. If they are still very young and impressionable, and open to the adoption, then yes, they will probably even call their parents "mom and dad." If they struggled in the first few years of their life or have had bad expereiences in foster homes, they might not be so accepting. Ive seen it in both cases really... of course we want the child to love their parents but sometimes it doesnt work out that way and the only thing they can do is love him or her to the best of their ability.

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Originally posted by trancebrat What if you can't have children? Or what if your wife can't?

i dunno. i've thought about that. i'm not against adoption or anything i mean i love kids and i'm great with them. i'm just saying that i'd like to have a little bundle of joy that my wife and i create. if i couldn't have kids i would be really devistated and if my wife couldn't have kids, but wanted to adopt of course i would be open to the idea. maybe its a little harsh to say i wouldn't love the kid...i just mean that i'd really like to try and have kids the old fashion way first because that's what i would prefer.

well let's just drop all the titles for now...all a kid needs is love and support and a lot of guidance (and patience)...

and i don't know why, but every guy i've been with has felt the same way FF said about not being able to love a kid that wasn't "theirs"....care to elaborate on why?

do you love your dog or cat if you have one? how? you didn't give birth to it...

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

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Originally posted by Ang ' ela_ie It depends on the child, and also how young they are. If they are still very young and impressionable, and open to the adoption, then yes, they will probably even call their parents "mom and dad." If they struggled in the first few years of their life or have had bad expereiences in foster homes, they might not be so accepting. Ive seen it in both cases really... of course we want the child to love their parents but sometimes it doesnt work out that way and the only thing they can do is love him or her to the best of their ability.

Eh, yeah. It's heartbreaking. I guess it'd take guts to adopt an older child...

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Originally posted by Slylee well let's just drop all the titles for now...all a kid needs is love and support and a lot of guidance (and patience)... and i don't know why, but every guy i've been with has felt the same way FF said about not being able to love a kid that wasn't "theirs"....care to elaborate on why? do you love your dog or cat if you have one? how? you didn't give birth to it...

well hopefully i can make it a little clearer that i don't mean i couldn't love the kid. i just meant that it would be really hard for me to look at that child as MY child because really...its not. and i know what you mean about raising the kid makes it your child ang...but i dunno...maybe its just because i'm young and immature and not ready for those kinds of decisions. maybe when i'm an adult and ready to make those kind of decisions or when i see a picture of my new little kid i would feel differently...that's just the worry that i have.

Youre not young and immature, Jason, you just have never had to sit down and really think about it, nor have you had experience in dealing with it, thats all.

Im going on lunch now, happy debating.

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Ok, I leave for lunch and everyone just gives up?

Alright, someone please explain this trend to me. Something about bracelets and sexual favors, and boys snapping bracelets FOR sexual favors... I saw this on the news at the beginning of summer here in Cleveland and I still dont really understand it. Does anyone know what Im talking about?

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