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| quote: | Originally posted by prolikewhoa
hmm...my best advice is a friend w/ benefits. i've had these in the past and if it's just healthy sex you're looking for, a good guy friend is a nice way to go for several reasons...
1. you are attracted to eachother, but don't like eachother. this raises your self-esteem and confidence.
2. you both care about eachother, so the sex isn't meaningless, cheap, or emotionless, even though it is casual.
3. there are no pressures to feel like you need to impress him...he's your guy friend...no biggie.
the main concern in a fuck buddy is that things will be "weird" between the two of you after the fact. for the most part, when things are weird after sex, some emotions are being with-held. in stories from friends, personal experience, etc, when you hook up w/ a guy friend (sex, kissing, foreplay...whatever) and there is tension afterwards, it's usually because you like eachother, and aren't sure how to express it, since the WHOLE point of hookin up in the first place was to be casual. but this opens up a new door for both of you that wasn't there before. i've had a couple nice friends w/ benefits experiences and i would higly recommend it if you're just sexually frustrated.
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Excellent post.
Honestly I couldn't be bothered having a girlfriend right now, obsessive this, jealous that, high maintenance always, but I've got this friend and she loves to fuck.
She's 18 and blonde and she's really down to earth and easy going and every guy she meets tries to control her, and gets jealous and won't leave her alone and she likes being independent and having lots of space. And these guys gets really protective and she can't go out and have fun, but I'm a really good friend and we talk and I don't crowd her space or go all go-gaa and am not super nice all the time, and I'm really honest with her.
So we have fun when want to, and don't ask questions.
Anybody who has done this before generally knows that it usually ends up messy, when feelings get involved, and people want more, or when one gets into a real relationship, cause where the body goes the mind follows.
I could get a girlfriend but I just hate the restrictions and bullshit that comes along with it, and if I meet my perfect women I'm not afraid to commit if so, I'm not gonna get serious with some one just for sex.
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TA all round nice guy.
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