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Originally posted by partyprincess Almost none of you guys that posted have any idea of what love is. If you love someone then you really don't WANT to cheat on them. You don't view other members of the opposite sex the same way that you used to. You don't look at a girl or guy on the street and go, wow she's hot, or damn he's so cute. You just view them all as people and not pay a lot of attention to them, kind of the way that most guys don't pay attention to other guys or visa versa. If you've been in love then you know what I'm talking about. It's not about restraining yourself from cheating if you're in love, its about never even thinking about it. So many marriages are going under these days because of misconceptions regarding the definition of love. My 2 cents...

so true


so i guess there are 3 questions that come up in this thread:
can you cheat on someone if you love them?
can you cheat on someone and still love them?
what is love?

blah

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Originally posted by whiskers so true so i guess there are 3 questions that come up in this thread: can you cheat on someone if you love them? can you cheat on someone and still love them? what is love? blah

Here r ur answers

1) If you love them and yet cheat on them,,,then simply u dontl ove them enough. Theres something holding you back from giving the person u cheat on your unconditional love n commitment ...so go find someone else...the ringht kinda ppl wont pop out of trees right after u break up but but spare ur current partner the misery and go find someone around whom u never feel the need to cheat...thats really whatl ove is

2) Yes u can cheat but still love them. Personally i avoid being with partners who would continue to love me even after ive cheated on them. If they dont have enough in them ot teach me a lesson after ive cheated and decide to forget about it and move on with me, then theyre simply weak people who've given me a free leash to do whatever i want...this is the time in a rel when ill feel superior to her and might even take all kinds of liberties...so always keep me in check ,,have me guessing,,keep mel iving on the edge etc..

3) Love as told me to once is when the person u love loves u more than u think they do and he/she at the same time feels the same about you.. ...ofcourse love isnt the be all n end all..the right social status, acceptance into the other's fmaily and finances all play a role in how love shapes up a rel...

but its not everyday we fall in love with tthe first perosn we meet, so if u have that, hold on to it and cherish it....

Im reminded of a quote " success is tasted sweetest by those who never succeed"...hopefully u see how that fits in here...

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Originally posted by LordTranceaLaut Here r ur answers 1) If you love them and yet cheat on them,,,then simply u dontl ove them enough. Theres something holding you back from giving the person u cheat on your unconditional love n commitment ...so go find someone else...the ringht kinda ppl wont pop out of trees right after u break up but but spare ur current partner the misery and go find someone around whom u never feel the need to cheat...thats really whatl ove is 2) Yes u can cheat but still love them. Personally i avoid being with partners who would continue to love me even after ive cheated on them. If they dont have enough in them ot teach me a lesson after ive cheated and decide to forget about it and move on with me, then theyre simply weak people who've given me a free leash to do whatever i want...this is the time in a rel when ill feel superior to her and might even take all kinds of liberties...so always keep me in check ,,have me guessing,,keep mel iving on the edge etc.. 3) Love as told me to once is when the person u love loves u more than u think they do and he/she at the same time feels the same about you.. ...ofcourse love isnt the be all n end all..the right social status, acceptance into the other's fmaily and finances all play a role in how love shapes up a rel... but its not everyday we fall in love with tthe first perosn we meet, so if u have that, hold on to it and cherish it.... Im reminded of a quote " success is tasted sweetest by those who never succeed"...hopefully u see how that fits in here...

agreed, exactly what i was thinking of when i posted the questions which were supposed to clarify what the thread was about.

"can't taste the sweet before you taste the bitter" << similar quote

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Originally posted by partyprincess Love can't be measured. You can't say that you don't love somebody ENOUGH...Either you truly love someone or you don't.

i think when lordtrancealaut said that you don't love someone enough, he meant to say that you are mistaken that you love them. if you're willing to cheat on someone whom you think you love, then you don't love them at all if you're willing to hurt them.

but on the other hand, we always hurt the ones we love, although this a different type of "hurt" and it doesn't really apply here

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The reason i bring this up is this:

I just watched "In the Mood for Love" again last night, and... well watch it, it won best international film of the year, and is beautiful and amazing. the point was one of the questions I came up with after watching it was the aforementioned one. ack, well this would have been more in depth but i dont want to ruin anything about how the film ends. Im just going to leave it as "see it". I bought it after seeing it once, and it gets better every time.

I just have something quick to say...I think that you can betray someone that you love. I love my family and questioned myself one day if I loved them so much that I was willing to die in order to save their lives. I came to the conclusion that I loved them so deeply that I would, but there have been a few times where I betrayed them. Of course, I regret it and always will. What I am trying to say is that people aren't perfect and love isn't perfect. Even though it is there, it can get demented at times. This is where mistakes come in. I think that once apon a time, love was once pure. The world is so fucked up these days that it is rare that you can find pure love in someone.

So, f you love your girl, stay with her and don't ever do that again to her...it was a mistake, and good people don't deserve to feel that kind of pain of being 'not good enough'.

There's my take on it.

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Originally posted by ))the source(( I just have something quick to say...I think that you can betray someone that you love. I love my family and questioned myself one day if I loved them so much that I was willing to die in order to save their lives. I came to the conclusion that I loved them so deeply that I would, but there have been a few times where I betrayed them. Of course, I regret it and always will. What I am trying to say is that people aren't perfect and love isn't perfect. Even though it is there, it can get demented at times. This is where mistakes come in. I think that once apon a time, love was once pure. The world is so fucked up these days that it is rare that you can find pure love in someone. So, f you love your girl, stay with her and don't ever do that again to her...it was a mistake, and good people don't deserve to feel that kind of pain of being 'not good enough'. There's my take on it.

you made some good points there too...

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Originally posted by notelfreak man i can't believe i tried to come off as responsible in that other thread, i am so full of shit just don't tell anyone

depends on your def of love (me being drawn into discussion). I like to use a def i heard once of : wishing the best for the other person. Love is hard to define, but i think that really covers most of it. If you truly want the best for them, doesn't that limit your actions? Or does them wishing the best for you expand your options to limitless horizons. Personally, i think two people wishing the best for one another will create such a happy arrangement that it would be impossible to cheat under the conditions.

My hopeless view...

If your consciousness is altered/slowed to the point where you don't realize that it's not a good thing to be having sex with someone who isn't your girlfriend/bofriend, then of course it's possible. I do whatever I can to avoid those situations, because I love my gf.

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Now if you love the person you wouldn't be cheating now would you, if you really have true feelings for her or him (if your a girl) then you would reject any other sexual contants with the other sex other than your partner....

If you cheat on them then you only like them

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Originally posted by Orbax Can you love someone and still cheat on them?

dont be daft.

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