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Well, I'll first say congratulations. But then I would like to ask you a couple of quick questions. First, how old are you and your wife? I mean absolutely no offense to you and your wife, but what you are proposing - living separately, not telling your parents, etc., sounds fairly risky and immature. If you think her parents wouldn't approve - 2 adults who know the ropes and maturity necessities of marriage, how do you rationalize it being a worthwhile idea?
Second, what's the hurry? I mean, if you're not going to have a "real" wedding for another 2 years, what's the need to have a marriage now, esp. if you're not living together and again, not willing to tell her folks? Again, I mean no offense to you, but your actions somewhat marginalize the sanctity and real importance of what marriage is all about. Furthermore, the cold hard fact is the probability of divorce down the road will likely be much greater for you if you do decide to "hurry" this process a bit and fail to truly prepare for what actually awaits you with this major responsibility.
I honestly don't mean to be a wet sponge, but it just sounds like you either haven't the maturity, given this enough time, or thought it out long enough to be able to have a successful stable marriage down the road. There were plenty of red flags in your 2 messages that made me wonder, sorry. It's often difficult to think of the long haul nowadays, and many (including myself) get caught up with the excitement of living in the "now". I certainly hope you consider this before making such a monumental decision (and it is a monumental decision in your life). If you think I'm preaching to you, you're probably right and I apologize. But please consider that you are talking to a married man of 3 years. I love my wife more than anything, and I knew she was the one from the first time I met her (her nice tushy helped out too!). But I tell you, we wouldn't have gotten married a day sooner than we did. There's plenty to prepare for, trust me, and that doesn't even include kids (which we have none, at least none that I'm aware of  ).
With all that being said, I hope you think things through and the best of luck to you and your girlfriend/fiance.
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Whence September dusk grows crisper still,
with leaves all crimson conquered,
I yearn to shout,
and dance about,
and stick pickles in my honker...
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