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Re: ex's
| quote: | Originally posted by butterfly
so i had a bad breakup and i got real upset, blah blah blah... and now i have decided i just dont want to speak to him anymore, i dont want to remember he exists. it hurts a lot.
and i see him everywhere (online). him and his gf have recently decided to start postwhoring on the board i frequent. (when i say frequent, i mean i have 80-100 posts per day). and it pisses me off so much. i think this is probably stupid cause his gf's posts are actually interesting sometimes but i dont want to remember they exist. should i say something to them or just keep it bottled up? i feel like my rage over it is compeltely uncalled for and no one wants to hear me bitch.
but i just feel like it's really hard to forget someone exists when they just wont go away... |
they will go away when you make them go away.
just take a break from your usual boards. theres better stuff to do then post messages all day (like all of us pathetic people )
keep yourself occupied with other stuff that you find self satisfying. go on walks, think, just sit around and listen to music. read. or whatever things you like to do by yourself.
i find spinning to be my fav. past time. whenever something is bothering me, i just hit the decks and hammer out track after track, just listening to the music.
after a big relationship break up, more stuff in your life changes than just hte person you spend most of your time with. its definatly best to put hte person in the past and just ignore him and other people that have to do with him (his new gf).
so spend some more time with yourself, find new things to do and places to hang out (like TA instead of whatever board you were at ). theres no point in going to the same place where you know you will see something from him or that reminds you of him that makes you feel sad. don't waste your time being depressed about him. spend your time learning from the past and moving on and enjoying your time.
you said you already had a new bf ?
i don' t know how long it has been since you broke up with this other dude, but if you are still upset about your ex it seems like you shouldn't be tied down again. you should be single for a while. hanging out with yourself and discovering more about you.
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