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Originally posted by DigiNut Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Don't call her, don't talk to her, don't even act like she exists. Give her her "space", like Indy so aptly put it, which is what all girls think they want but really can't stand for more than a week. Cut her out, and give it a week or two. If she ends up going hardcore with the new guy, then you're far better off without her anyway. If she comes crawling back, then you've got a choice, either tell her to fuck off and get your vengeance, or lay down the law before you say "ok". Just remember, there is nothing, yes NOTHING you can do to lower her interest in the other guys. However, I'm guessing that if the other dude is constantly sending her flowers and telling her he loves her, her interest in him will die out very fast - in fact, I'd go so far as to say she's just using him even now. It bears repeating, don't make any moves and if she makes a move, don't let her get you involved in any mushy or emotion-related or relationship-related discussions for the next little while. Just make up an excuse and say you've gotta go when that starts. If she really 'loves' you, she'll realize how much she hates you being "inaccessible" and will come crawling back in no time. If she doesn't care about you, she'll take off, and that's of no loss to you anyway in that situation. Oh, and if you can, it wouldn't hurt to go out with a few other girls (preferably hotter than she is), and make sure she knows about it. You don't want the g/f to think she can do whatever the f*ck she wants with you because you 'need' her. Trust me, if she has any interest in this other guy, his constant sucking-up will make it fizzle out soon enough. The worst thing you can do is be on her tail throughout the process, because that will make her associate it with you ("you messed it up with my friends") rather than the absence of you ("holy fuck this guy is lame, what happened to my b/f anyway?") Oh and one other thing: don't listen to relationship advice from women. Trust me on this.

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Originally posted by wienerschnitzel thats a rather shitty thing to say considering you basically elaborated on what i previously posted! Besides, believe it or not, all women are not evil or pscyco or two faced. Thats an awful generalization. sounds like your mom weened you off the teet too soon!

Oh, you misunderstand. I did not for a moment mean to say that women are psycho or two-faced. Some of them are just bitches, yes, but I contend that most of them actually really love the guys they end up with.

The problem lies in actually knowing what they want in a relationship. Most women I know, when pressed, have admitted that they aren't really sure what their ideal relationship is, or who their ideal guy is. They know when they're happy with someone, but that's about as much info as they can give.

For some reason, women in North America have a fantasy image of "chivalry" - they claim to love a guy who does sweet things for them, compliments them all the time, talks about his feelings, goes to chick flicks, etc. Unfortunately, it's been shown countless times that guys who conform to this stereotype end up being cast as the proverbial "nice guy" and end up getting nothing.

I've taken advice from women myself, and seen others do the same, and it almost invariably leads to getting dumped or walked on. It's not because the women are evil - in fact, I really don't hold it against them that they gave bad advice and I'm still very good friends with some of them - they just simply don't know.

Allow me to present a little sound bite: Men work on cars, women work on relationships. Guys love "project cars", they want to be constantly getting new stereo components and engine tweaks and computer tweaks and fancy spoilers and massive rims... well you get the idea. Girls want "project relationships". They don't want their guys to be too damn easy. Their "upgrades" are getting him to talk about his feelings and getting him to remember her birthday and getting him to hang out with her friends without hitting on any of them. Because they know that guys hate this, and it's a pleasure to see him making those sacrifices for her. To put it bluntly, you can't be happy ALL the time with someone/something, you have to be unhappy or frustrated sometimes, because otherwise there's no basis of comparison and the happiness will turn to boredom. If there's nothing to want, there's nothing to do, and thus there is no fun.

You give someone everything they want from the start, and they'll just throw it in the closet. What would a hotrod buff do if the market for auto parts suddenly dried up?

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Maybe you never did anal with her.

I concur with DigiNut's recommendation.

fuck that dont listen to anyone here...put on ur shit kickers and go kick some shit.... u fuckin stalk her and kick the shit out of anyone shes with...for 1 week straight u do this till they understand that this is ur grass and ur the only one who can cut it... then grab her by the hair and toss her in ur trunk and drive to mississipi and leave her there with no money and a phone....then go screw her sister...



take my advice and ull have no problems

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Originally posted by You aint Ninja Maybe you never did anal with her.

lol, im sure he drove home on the dirt road a few times, id start chatting to other women m8, u cant impress women, if she wants you then she would be with you no matter, what. When you meet the right one you will understand.

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Well Mr. DJ Sunburn ... here is what you do. Do something to her that you know will make her feel bad, ie. find another person of the opposite gender and show that person off around her (if you can).

That is solution 1, that should make her jealous and MAYBE take you back. But it could also piss of her and never talk to you again, so use with caution.

Solution 2: The guys she hangs around with, beat the shit of them, take their money and pocket change, and send it to me.

Problem solved.

se the trick is that u got to kidnap her and trap her in an abusive relationship where u take away all that self esteem and she feels she could never do better then u.....u must mentally abuse her...and pull her hair( this is the key to every relationship problem)

diginut... you make some very valid points and i agree with you on many things.. however, i think you need to get out and meet more girls! Because it is true, girls can't help but be girls and have crazy horomones and want relationship stuff while guys just want it nice and simple and want it black and white. Being a girl, i know first hand what it is like to be a girl and have these qualities. However, some of us girls are also able to step aside and notice we have these qualitys and make conclusions based on them. In other words, some of us girls know that we have crazy hormones that makes our needs and wants diffrent from guys. Since some of us have this ability, we can rationalize what is unreasonable and what not to expect from guys. Im not suggesting that i am a perfect girl who knows the best of both worlds, but i think you would be surprised that some girls aren't like others and can see and understand the diffrences between the sexes and therefore make advice accordingly. I don't know if your buying in to this, but i stand by it. I think your absolutely right when it comes to alot of women getting swept up with the 'knight in shining armour' crap and therefore become unsatisfied with a relationship that is more than healthy. I blame media for this because of soap opera's and chick flicks and all the rest that create this unrealistic image of how guys are. I think this results in the high divorce rate in North America because women who eat this stuff up become convinced that their man isn't good enough for them because he isn't like so and so on "cheesy soap or movie" and so decide they deserve better and then they abandon their marrige and so on and so forth. ANyways.. don't doubt all women, we don't all wear the rose coloured glasses.

I wish people would make better use of paragraphs!

Ok, but anyway...

It works on varying levels. Some women (as some men) have better powers of reasoning than others, and some are better able to step back and not see the forest through the trees. Not knowing you personally, I'm not making any claims whatsoever about you - solely by virtue of the fact that you posted what you just posted, I don't doubt that you're probably more rationally-minded than a lot of women I've met.

Point being, of course it's unfair (and also logically incorrect) to generalize for all women based on a few (well, based on several, but still a small sample compared to ALL). And it's not black-and-white either, some people are more impulsive than others. But I would say that it's true to some extent, for the vast majority. It's not just personal experience - some of it's been shown by detailed studies of brain chemistry, I remember someone made a post a while back about books on those things (aptly called "The male brain" and "The female brain").

If in doubt, allow me to point out further evidence of the fundmentally different ways men and women handle relationships.

Take a close look at the replies to this thread from both the men and women, and think carefully about the actual questions that each have answered.

The question he asked was, "What should I do?"

The men, with one exception, answered, "This is what you should do, maybe it'll work."

The women all answered the question, "what's she thinking and why did she do it?"

Think about it! 'Tis not an insult, just an observation. If these fundamental differences didn't exist, life wouldn't be any fun.

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Originally posted by Vivid Boy take my advice and ull have no problems

'Cept for fending off all the other prisoners trying to make you their bitch after you get arrested...

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My party schedule:
2009-02-21 - DJ Attention @ I'm So Popular
2009-06-18 - DJ Annoying @ People Need To Know Where I'll Be
2012-11-32 - DJ Insufferable ɸ Or At Least the Stalkers I Complain About
2048-06-66 - Spastic & Whocares ¶ Although I'm Actually Flattered
9999-45-81 - Tweaker Gimp ☼ I Probably Won't Even Go To This But I Have To Make Sure I Fill Up All The Available Space Here