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Originally posted by rabbitjoker Who is your daddy, and what does he do?

You know you are RJ.

I'm in the same boat right now. A good friend is dating an absolute bitch. I definitely can't say anything to him, as it would only end up in him resenting me. This guy used to be up for anything, and everything. Now he can't walk five fuckin' feet away from his lady friend. She's one helluva bitch as well.

In time hopefully he'll realize that he's isolating himself from his friends, and that his girl is a bitch. Seeing a friend happy supersedes my personal opinion of his girlfriend though.

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Originally posted by Callie5 What do you do....when you can't STAND the person your best friend is dating???

How about you do nothing, and just let your friend date this girl. It's really none of your business to interfere is it ? If you can't stand her, that's fine, there's no rule that says you have to love your best friends girl. If he knows you well, then he'll realize that you both don't click, and might try to do something about it. Either way, the decision between best friend or girl-friend should be his, no ?

If he values your friendship while also enjoying the company of his new girlfriend, maybe you guys will find a way work it out. Otherwise, i guess one of the two relationships will inevitably suffer.

Bare in mind, I'm being general in my advice here, cause i'm not sure why you (and your friends group) hate this girl, but if she's really bad news (potential serial killer, vicious man-eating bitch, blood sucking harpy etc) then i would find the appropriate time to mention it to him, and hope that he respects me enough to realize i'm just looking out for him.


Hope this helps.

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Last edited by Kytracid on Aug-03-2004 at 20:52

what's wrong with her?

maybe you are just not giving her the benefit of the doubt. if your friend likes her, what's wrong with her that you don't like her?

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I'm in the same boat right now. A good friend is dating an absolute bitch. I definitely can't say anything to him, as it would only end up in him resenting me. This guy used to be up for anything, and everything. Now he can't walk five fuckin' feet away from his lady friend. She's one helluva bitch as well.

Unfortunately that's a problem for many guys who just start dating a girl. I've personally been in that boat myself - where for a few months of the relationship I willingly and unwillingly spent most of the time with my g/f rather than with old friends.

So my point is - when such a thing happens to a guy, you can't really blame his g/f for it.

i've been in that situation several times, i have one friend that constantly dated girls i hated, i just told him plain and simple that i didnt like his girls. if you are really friends with the dude just be honest so that you can avoid any bad experiences.

in my case i told my friend nicely and i told him that he shouldnt expect me to hang with him and his girl and like wise i wasnt gonna be mean to her when i did see her as long as she was nice to me. he understood that there were differences between his girl and myself and that way nothing ever went wrong and i never saw his girl and she never saw me and every one was happy.

there is always a way to work around situations like that, if you cant tell your friend then you will have to put up with girls bullshit. coz its just stupid to treat her like shit and your friend wont be happy about that.

i say be honest and tell the dude, but in a nice way, explain what your problem is, if he cant understand that then thats not your problem.

Hmmm, well my "so called best friend" hated my boyfriend, for ABSOLUTELY no reason, she had only met him once. She told me that she didn't like him, and that he treated me like shit. But that WASN'T the case at all, my boyfrend treats me like a princess. It totally turned me off from being friends with her because I felt as though she wasn't respecting what was important to me. (My boyfriend)So after all that rambling, what I'm trying to say, is that if you do have a VERY good reason for disliking her, then maybe mention something to him about it, and tell him why you might not warm up to his girlfriend. On the the other hand, if it isn't a very good reason, and it might just be because they are hanging out a lot, then I would just let it go, like Durafei said, it might not be all his girlfriends fault.

There's nothing you can do really. One of my good friends is dating an absolute bitch, completely dominating him in every way, cheating on him, giving him double standards to live by [he's not allowed to drink, but she goes out and gets SMASHED every weekend], and basically taking away all his life outside of her. We've tried bringing him out, but he never can do it, bails on us and won't listen. You have to let it run it's course, cuz whoever it is will care about them no matter what you say. But the way I see it, you're in a better spot than me and my friends, as your friend is only dating some chick, while my buddy's engaged to this chick, and it's totally killing us.

Your situation may resolve itself, and hopefully for you it will, but for me, my friends have come up with a great plan. The wedding's gonna be in BC sometime next year, and we're gonna mission out in a van, hire some really disgusting women to hang off our arms, get really wasted and tell them to hit on everyone at the wedding. We're gonna get smashed, give speeches about all the 'good ol' drunken times' with our buddy and basically make one last desperate drunken attempt to break them up.

Well maybe we won't do that, but it's an entertianing thought.

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From experience I would support your freind no matter who they are with. If they are really a bitch/asshole, your freind will eventually figure that out.

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Originally posted by Ashley Hmmm, well my "so called best friend" hated my boyfriend, for ABSOLUTELY no reason, she had only met him once. She told me that she didn't like him, and that he treated me like shit. But that WASN'T the case at all, my boyfrend treats me like a princess. It totally turned me off from being friends with her because I felt as though she wasn't respecting what was important to me. (My boyfriend)So after all that rambling, what I'm trying to say, is that if you do have a VERY good reason for disliking her, then maybe mention something to him about it, and tell him why you might not warm up to his girlfriend. On the the other hand, if it isn't a very good reason, and it might just be because they are hanging out a lot, then I would just let it go, like Durafei said, it might not be all his girlfriends fault.

OH Ash, I still can't believe this happened! Totally weird...

I must say that if an entire group of friend finds someone that distasteful, something's not kosher. It's very reasonable not to gel with someone or be indifferent, and there are some whom are slow to warm. But if a whole group remarks the same thing, and if he is truly a close friend then it's your duty to be subtle, have a heart to heart and let him know how you feel; but don't impose your judgement- and use phrases like, 'I feel, or I suggest.' It's less obtrusive, and that way you won't lose a friendship; he'll just view it as you guys looking out for him. Whether he chooses to listen is his right, but at least you've expressed concern.

That's just my opinion

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just move on , who cares, its non of your buisness anyhow.. its not like your going to marry her/him.

Get a sex change