As far as thing concept goes, I've found that usually:
a.) The person you're fucking won't talk to you much afterwards and will ignore you (especially if one of you/both was drunk/high that evening/morning/afternoon).
or b.) The person you're fucking will want a full blown relationship with you and will get upset when you don't.

I've actually done both things to people, now that I think about it, and have had both done to me... If it works and you can sleep with someone without a problem and just stay friends with them, it's kind of nice, though, but doesn't seem to happen as much as you'd like it too.

ya i tried this a couple of months ago for the first time..... and..... well......... now i have a girlfriend

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This is an excellent idea, but not without its complications.

I currently have a situation like this running, but due to spending decents amounts of time together, exclusiveness, and a step-up in emotional closeness it is near to approaching seeing each other territory. There is still no committment though, and that infatuation and 'crush' feeling seems to last forever. Relationships seem to sometimes lack the passion of a casual friendship, because you don't really knwo when this is going to end. There is no security so everytime you catch up you make sure you give it your best shot.

If the sex is bad your friend with benefits is not going to last long and given that girls that are willing to do this are often pretty open minded with sex, there can be some really exciting times to be had.

I find there is a greater number of people in the this world disillusioned with the concept of relationships, especially with all the stress that usually comes along with it, associated to things like jealousy, over-protectiveness, boringness, lack of excitement and routines.

The two situations that friends with benfits have arose from include:

1) picking someone up and having a one night stand, and sex continuing afterwards.

2) being friends for a while with no sex, then one person saying or doing something.

Usually one person out of the two has intentions for the situation to turn into a relationship and usually the whole fuck friend idea turns into an absolute mess.

Where the body goes the head usually follows, and it isn't often too long before deep and meaningful chats ruin everything.

The few times these have ended have been when I've met someone hotter and had to give up the friend, when they've got onto someone and I've got hurt and realised I liked them and when I fucked it up by saying or doing the wrong thing. There is much less margin for error in this situation compared to a relationship because there is no committment and security.

IMO I don't like something where someone is more than likely to get hurt. It always starts off cool but somewhere, somehow, someone always starts developing feelings, and that's when things get complicated.

1x thing maybe.... but on a frequent basis?? .. ummm... no.

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Originally posted by Gordy ya i tried this a couple of months ago for the first time..... and..... well......... now i have a girlfriend

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In my opinion......

It is okay under certain circumstances, or things can get ugly.

1. Both of you are not in (serious) relationships.
2. Both people are mature minded.
3. You have a casual or long term friendship.
4. You both understand each others intentions and respect them.

Otherwise, peoples feelings may get hurt. Being arround each other might become uncomfortable. More often women take things things a bit more serious and may develop attachment. If they are in relationships then the boyfriend or girldfriend may find out and that is drama that you just dont need to deal with. You may even end up with a potential stalker on your hands.

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Originally posted by Gordy ya i tried this a couple of months ago for the first time..... and..... well......... now i have a girlfriend

haha, ur meant to stay detahced!!!



im working on one at the moment.. we've always flirted a lot, and kissed a couple times but we still havnt fucked. these things take time. but i will not get attached to her!! just fuck buddys

boy you people that are actually actively seeking fuck buddys are jackasses. i don't think its something that you look for...its just something that happens. if you are actually just searching for fuck buddys...that's basically telling me that you are just interested in using women...and that's not cool.

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Originally posted by EyesOfExtasy In my opinion...... It is okay under certain circumstances, or things can get ugly. 1. Both of you are not in (serious) relationships. 2. Both people are mature minded. 3. You have a casual or long term friendship. 4. You both understand each others intentions and respect them.

6. Are comfortable with the notion of casual sex, and the notion that they're going to sleep around while they're sleeping around with you
7. Arn't the jealous type.
8. You both like to use people