hey ID--i know EXACTLY what youre talking about! My last boyfriend was like that--fukked up past--lying all the time. i thought that if i was just patient and understanding he'd eventually realize that he didnt have to lie to me. DAMN WAS I WRONG. that never happened. only stick with this girl if youre REALLY committed cuz it'll probably take years to get her to relax.

(oh and as a side note--young people do have fukked up baggage--this guy was 5years! younger than me. VERY ILLEGAL )

yeah, bluegirl was reading my thoughts after i read your response ID. it's really true. you can't change people by your own will. they have to be willing to do it themselves. best of luck to you bro.

guys, I think it is mostly a problem of what kind of ppl U hang with. I mean, fuk it, I had these problems, but not with all the girl.

and the ones with baggage.. well, I have decided for a long time not to go for girls that I don't like or they don't like me. no matter how hard it would be to forget her.

but I guess, from what you say, that there is more to this relationship then you want to admit>>>

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Originally posted by Ibiza Dreams Trying to comfort her all the time... not sure how much of a hardass I should/can be.

but if U don't like her, try not to break her heart. think of the times U've been thru that...

emotional baggage... girls might be afraid in a relationship. U must make them feel safe, feel that U don't really mean anything bad. not to take advantage of their emotional problems, to confort them.

about that, I can say (from my late experiences) that age has nothing to do with it. it is about how much they've been through, their sufference...
and one thing I am starting to believe in is that our instincts react when we meet a person with which we not only have a chance in being with, but that is actually suitable for us (well, maybe not instincts, but something anyway). not at all times - but mostly. and I can say that when both get this.. well, it will be something big afterwards. a REALTIONSHIP (Links said it out quite right here... glad to have some strong-brains here)

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go for 16 yr olds cuz i have learnt that these youngins have very little if no baggage and can be trained like a dog to suit your needs

I am still amazed of how much ignorance some of you still show! It is such a lame thing to do, so low to say! You are the kind that girls get so afraid of...
They are not animals, stupid asses, but humans like U (I think... I mean I haven't seen Ur face, but I "suposse" U are biologically a human) and me. It is so low to treat them like this...

and for the record, I've known girls that started screwing around at 11 and girls that haven't done it untill 19... so don't start your theories when U don't know what U R talking about!!!

it's all I had to say!( so little??? ) take it or leave it!

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Originally posted by hypronix They are not animals, stupid asses,

Shit my parents really fucked up my upbringing then

c'mon SmackdowN girls post here too ya know. have some respect.

BLUEGIRL, a fellow American? and a female?
Nice to meet you

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Thanks for the feedback guys, I had to settle it though, which is done now hopefully. Catch ya TA's lata!

ID

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hey bro id be careful if i were you my last gf was raped before we started dating and it really screwed up her up which is understandable
but if have any hesitation about her drop it now before anymore damage will be done to her and you. if it was recent that she was raped (in the last 6 months) then most likely she is still in shock and very vunerable. with my ex i didnt find out about her till a few months into our relationship she was very hestant to tell me because she was embarrased about it. it happened her freshman year at college she was date raped by what she thought was a friend very sad that this happens just shows how pathetic we men can get but anyways when she told me my heart went out to her more then before i kinda got that rescue bug your talking about but i was also falling in love with her so i started going with her to her shrink and just being as supportive as i could and to make a long story short she began to act i guess normal we were young at the time i was 22 she was 19 and we went out and partied only to find out later she used the alcohol and drugs as an escape became an addict more an alcoholic and reverted into becomming a slut because of what was goin on in her head. like i said earlier i did talk to her shrink and we also talked about our relationship problems from this( her sleeping around) and that is a know reaction from being rapped so anyways i tried for 4 and half years with this girl we were even engaged but this just really messed her up in the head. now not all women will act the same way to this type of situation but just be cautious and make sure you really like this girl before becomming too close for both of your sakes.
good luck bro i hope this helped some and just remember learn from others mistakes before you make your own

JUZ

wow juz..that's pretty intense. i dunno, the repercussions of something like a rape is just beyond comprehension pscyhologically. i know a few gals that have been and they don't even want to think about it or else they break down so i kinda know what you're talking about. just felt the need to respond to your post, bro. take care.

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Originally posted by juzfugen hey bro id be careful if i were you ... and just remember learn from others mistakes before you make your own JUZ

Your post is very appreciated Juz. The bottom line of relationships with baggage is that they are unpredictable it seems. You can't expect to have a "normal" relationship. I dropped it with her last night, explained to her that it's better to us to be friends for a number of reasons. Better to hurt a little now than alot later on. Thanks again for pouring it all out like that, it's very tough shit to deal with, especially if you really like the girl, or in your case, love her. Thanks again, really gave some insight.

ID

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It is very hard to find a relationship with out baggage at older ages. I mean I'm 22 now and already have a few things that could be considered baggage. The thing is that it depends on how much baggage a person can handle before its too much.